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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 7:30:19 AM

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WE try to respond to all emails in time even if its a ty for your mail,,THE load gets so heavy at times it takes a while to get back..bounty

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 7:31:21 AM

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I know that we have all gotten messages that we don't respond too. I know that i have sent out mails that never recived a return responce. I tend not to let that bother me.... If the person in question was interested i felt that would have said something in return. Ok now as to why i posted all that ramble. I recived a mail from a person i felt was in my best interest not to reply to then today i get a mail that says well are you going to reply or just be rude? Now i could have been very rude within a reply but that's just not my way nor is it respectful.

So do you all think it rude when you don't get a reply back or do you feel like you are being rude when you don't reply?

I think it is very funny that people who do not want the answer they receive try to twist that as being rude.

Not replying to them is your answer to them.

It's similar to people complain that the Divine never answers their prayers -- they were answered, they just didn't get the answer they wanted.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 7:37:18 AM

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I do not answer the phone when I do not feel like talking. I do not answer the door if I am not expecting someone (I won't even look to see who it is) because anyone that knows me knows not to drop by unexpectedly. I certainly do not feel obligated to respond to email. I have gotten angry email because the person saw that I read their email but did not respond and it pissed them off. Just like you can block phone calls you can block angry mailers. Their attitude simply ensures that I will never reply to them outside of hitting that beautiful “block” user button lol Don’t sweat the small stuff! Tigress~FL

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 7:53:05 AM

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Tigress,
I tend to agree with you on this. Just because I have a phone, does not mean i want telemarketers calling me. Just because I have a door doesn't mean I want salespeople or strangers knocking on it. And just because I have a profile here, does not mean I want people emailing inquiring if i am interested in hooking up. I don't feel i have an obligation to respond to anyone just because they took 2 seconds out to write "hi how are you today?". Now if someone took the time to write a long message, or has something they want to ask, I will usually respond to that. On that same not, I don't get upset if i write to someone and they don't respond. To me it really isn't a big deal. I also don't understand why people get so bent that someone was viewing their profile. I often view profiles for no other reason than i was bored and killing some time.
Just my one and half cents.
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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 7:56:02 AM

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I do feel that it is rude to not reply. We get tons of mail, and we reply to every one of them, even the ones that just say " hi ". We even respond to the obvious form letters with a brief letter of our own advising them that they might have better luck if they actually read the profiles and tailor letters accordingly.

I sometimes send people in the vanilla world email and never get a response back. My boss, a couple of coworkers, and I were talking about it the other day. My boss made the point that she tends to get email and forget she has to respond to it. I responded that my feelings about email or things I am asked to do is that I cannot stand (what Wired magazine referred to as "open loops") to have things in my life I have to freaking remember to do. Irritates the bejeezus out of me. So when I get a message or task or whatever, I take a moment to a) reply, or b) delete, or c) take care of it, or d) decide why I cannot take care of it right then and take a moment to figure out what I need to do to get it done and gone from my life.

Indicated to her that she might want to consider trying that approach; somebody sends her an email asking a question, for example, she could theoretically just answer the question and be done with it.

Not sure she is likely to, but my inner life got a lot more peaceful when I took up that approach.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:07:50 AM

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i would like to offer my 2 pennies for the day since i didn't read most of the replies. personally, i would respond back to the person even if i'm not interested in them. you never know - you might gain a new friend.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:15:48 AM

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I was always taught if you've got nothing nice to say, it's better to say nothing at all. Personally, I would prefer no response to "Thanks but no thanks."

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:17:44 AM

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Greetings

I agree with katylied here. Just ignore it and move on. Personally, I don't even read any mail that I receive. It is deleted unread.

I wish you well

melissa

That's kinda stupid. Whats the point in having a profile on a site like this, and deleting ALL your messages? Just state in your profile you don't want ANY messages. Although, I can't imagine why you'd join a site like this and not want messages. Ridiculous.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:20:49 AM

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I try to respond to the email that I receive, unless it's a rude or out-and-out trolling type of email. It's how I like to be treated, so it's how I treat others. But there are times when I can't keep up with it, and if people don't understand that, then it's their problem and not mine.

My personal favorites are when I tell someone "thanks but you are too far away for me" and they responsd with "it's only ___ hours from you" -- if I say you are too far away from me, guess what? You are too far away. Arguing just gets you blocked.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:25:11 AM

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The attitude of some people is amazing. Sure, its annoying when you respond to someone with "thanks but no thanks", and they continue to bug you. But that is what the block button is for.

Some people here seem to think their shit smells like roses. Between people that get pissed off just because someone sent them a message, deleting ALL their messages, people getting annoyed simply because someone has viewed their profile (thats a weird one), people sating very negatively in their profiles "I don't want this type of person messaging me, I don't want that type of person messaging me, I don't like this or that, it takes ALOT to grab my interest, blablabla!".

Seriously.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:32:26 AM

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See...it's this kind of attitude.
We get blasted for no response.
We get blasted for saying thanks, but no thanks.
We get blasted for a rude response.
Are we supposed to write genuine heartfelt essays to every email we get...to perfect strangers?

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:35:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: KaineD

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ORIGINAL: jauntyone

Greetings

I agree with katylied here. Just ignore it and move on. Personally, I don't even read any mail that I receive. It is deleted unread.

I wish you well

melissa

That's kinda stupid. Whats the point in having a profile on a site like this, and deleting ALL your messages? Just state in your profile you don't want ANY messages. Although, I can't imagine why you'd join a site like this and not want messages. Ridiculous.

Greetings

What's the point in having a profile on a site like this? ANd not reading the mail? And deleting the mail?

Hmmmm....could it be...perhaps....that the reason lies in just being here to learn? Or would you consider that stupid also?

As a reference, I do state it in my profile that I do not read any mail.

I wish you well

melissa

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:37:03 AM

KaineD

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See...it's this kind of attitude.
We get blasted for no response.
We get blasted for saying thanks, but no thanks.
We get blasted for a rude response.
Are we supposed to write genuine heartfelt essays to every email we get...to perfect strangers?

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No, you're not. All you have to do is block the assholes. If a guy can't take no for an answer, thats his problem. As much as I find it annoying that I don't get replies, it blows my mind that there are guys that are so sad and pathetic they get angry when a girl says "no".

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:38:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: KaineD

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ORIGINAL: jauntyone

Greetings

I agree with katylied here. Just ignore it and move on. Personally, I don't even read any mail that I receive. It is deleted unread.

I wish you well

melissa

That's kinda stupid. Whats the point in having a profile on a site like this, and deleting ALL your messages? Just state in your profile you don't want ANY messages. Although, I can't imagine why you'd join a site like this and not want messages. Ridiculous.

Greetings

What's the point in having a profile on a site like this? ANd not reading the mail? And deleting the mail?

Hmmmm....could it be...perhaps....that the reason lies in just being here to learn? Or would you consider that stupid also?

As a reference, I do state it in my profile that I do not read any mail.

I wish you well

melissa

Thats fine if you state you don't read any mail. Still, personally I think thats kinda odd. I'm here to chat to people as much as I'm here to learn.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:39:45 AM

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And if grown adults can't seem to understand that no response is a response, that's not my problem. I'd put money on the idea that if ANYONE here who was searching got an email in their inbox that peaked their interest, they would respond to that email.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:40:12 AM

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Having been here only a few days I find it a little strange that people contact me, ask for additional information (I comply) and then...nothing. But based on what I've read on the forums thus far this appears to be par for the course. I try not to let it get to me but even a response that says something to the effect of "no thanks" or whatnot would let me close that dialog and move on.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:43:14 AM

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Well, if you don't like my attitude, I invite you to write me so that I can block you, hon!

Seriously, I try to be polite. I merely stated that I don't like arguing about my decisions. I'm not allowed to voice an opinion on that? Just read your own posts and find total agreement within them.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:43:43 AM

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And if grown adults can't seem to understand that no response is a response, that's not my problem. I'd put money on the idea that if ANYONE here who was searching got an email in their inbox that peaked their interest, they would respond to that email.

There's a thing called manners. It's fine ignoring smutty mails or cheesy one liners. But I think it is only polite to reply to someone that has put effort in. The question comes into my mind everytime I see on someones profile "it takes ALOT to grab my interest"... just what does it take to grab someones interest?

You really can't tell an awful lot about a person from one message. No, no response isn't a response. I simply assume everyone that doesn't respond to me falls into two categories. Number one, they have too many messages to reply to, or simply forget to reply to my message. Number two, they're stuck up, ignorant, and rude, and they think their shit smells like roses.

Oh, how horrible it must be to have an inbox full of messages from people interested in you.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:48:22 AM

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You are projecting your ideals and expectations on others.
I happen to be very well mannered. I just happen to have different views on what is appropriate and what isn't. That doesn't make me stuck up or any of the other things on your list. If someones world is so affected because a stranger read an email that they sent and didn't reply, then they have issues that go far beyond general courtesy.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:51:02 AM

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[/quote]

There's a thing called manners. It's fine ignoring smutty mails or cheesy one liners. But I think it is only polite to reply to someone that has put effort in. The question comes into my mind everytime I see on someones profile "it takes ALOT to grab my interest"... just what does it take to grab someones interest?

You really can't tell an awful lot about a person from one message. No, no response isn't a response. I simply assume everyone that doesn't respond to me falls into two categories. Number one, they have too many messages to reply to, or simply forget to reply to my message. Number two, they're stuck up, ignorant, and rude, and they think their shit smells like roses.

Oh, how horrible it must be to have an inbox full of messages from people interested in you.
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Good grief, man. I might would have said it nicer, but I couldn't have said it any better. My feelings exactly.

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