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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:53:40 AM   
KaineD


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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

You are projecting your ideals and expectations on others.
I happen to be very well mannered.  I just happen to have different views on what is appropriate and what isn't.  That doesn't make me stuck up or any of the other things on your list.  If someones world is so affected because a stranger read an email that they sent and didn't reply, then they have issues that go far beyond general courtesy.


I've been on this site for about 2 years now.  During that time, I've probably sent... maybe 100 messages.  Who knows.  During that time, maybe 5 girls have responded.  If that.  I'm not saying my "world is affected".  I'm just saying, its nice to get a reply.  If you reply to someone, you never know, you might end up liking them.

How can you expect someone to meet your standards if you don't let them get their foot through the door?

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:54:42 AM   
nyrisa


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The only ones I don't respond to are the ones that start off with "nice tits" or some other variation. A sincere email, I will respond to, usually, if only to say, it does not sound like we would meet each other's needs. Now, it may take me several days to do this, depending on how hectic life is at the moment.

But if someone did not answer an email I sent, I would not be disappointed, upset, or anything else. It just gives me valuable information about the person. Like someone said, NO answer is still an answer. It may reflect more upon them than upon you. *smiles*

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:54:51 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		You know what Kaine...go to the other side an set up a false profile of a female submissive.  See what happens for two weeks and then answer this thread.

edited to add...I'm not looking, so it doesn't matter to me who emails me.  I answer those who I've talked to for my two years here. 

< Message edited by Aileen68 -- 4/14/2007 8:57:20 AM >

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:57:47 AM   
KaineD


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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

You know what Kaine...go to the other side an set up a false profile of a female submissive.  See what happens for two weeks and then answer this thread.


No replies and no messages vs an inbox full of messages.  It doesn't really sound that bad.  Sure, clicking message after message of idiots saying "nice tits" or "you will come to my house and beg for me" or whatever, thats annoying I'm sure.  Which must only make it all the better when you get nice messages from genuine people, surely.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:58:57 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		Just make sure the false profile has a submissive who is young, pretty, and doesn't weigh too much. Then you'll get a lot of email and the experiment will do what Aileen wants. Just an FYI.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 8:59:48 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		I never said that I didn't reply to any message.  I do.
I don't feel the need to reply to all.  Big difference.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:02:51 AM   
sublizzie


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ORIGINAL: KaineD
No replies and no messages vs an inbox full of messages.  It doesn't really sound that bad.  Sure, clicking message after message of idiots saying "nice tits" or "you will come to my house and beg for me" or whatever, thats annoying I'm sure.  Which must only make it all the better when you get nice messages from genuine people, surely.


The point is that Aileen isn't looking to talk to people and you are. So her view is to ignore emails she isn't interested in reading. You would welcome any just to have some conversation. It makes sense from both POV.

Personally, I don't get a lot of email so I enjoy receiving it. Sometimes it's from someone who is looking to chat. Sometimes it's from an HNG who thinks I'm easy cuz I'm submissive. Sometimes it's from someone who is sincerely interested. It doesn't matter to me which it is. I answer all of my emails. I've never gotten a nasty reply either. I've gotten nasty emails about things I've said on the forums or in my journal, but not in response to a response I've sent. {shrugs} Everyone's experience is different.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:03:40 AM   
Elorin


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ORIGINAL: misspage
So do you all think it rude when you don't get a reply back or do you feel  like you are being rude when you don't reply?

No, when someone doesn't reply back to an e-mail I sent, I think it is unfortunate, as I would have enjoyed writing to the person. Sometimes, I think it is appropriate, as I just sent something that said "You have a lovely picture and two thumbs up for your profile. You go girl! Good luck in your search." which doesn't need a response.

When I don't reply, I don't think it is being rude. My profile is pretty clear about what I'm looking for, so when someone from Europe writes and says "Mistress, I want to be your submissive and move in with you!" I just delete it. I used to try to respond to every mail I got, but I got overwhelmed. And I realized that I was letting those who wrote to me control my time. If someone from Europe writes to me with a pertinent comment about my profile, even if it is just "Why are you only interested in local submissives?" I will take time to respond. But if it's just trolling e-mail, I ignore it.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:05:20 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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ORIGINAL: misspage

So do you all think it rude when you don't get a reply back or do you feel  like you are being rude when you don't reply?


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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:07:43 AM   
love2tieup


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ORIGINAL: KaineD

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ORIGINAL: jauntyone

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ORIGINAL: KaineD

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ORIGINAL: jauntyone

Greetings
 
I agree with katylied here. Just ignore it and move on. Personally, I don't even read any mail that I receive. It is deleted unread.
 
I wish you well
 
melissa


That's kinda stupid.  Whats the point in having a profile on a site like this, and deleting ALL your messages?  Just state in your profile you don't want ANY messages.  Although, I can't imagine why you'd join a site like this and not want messages.  Ridiculous.

Greetings
 
What's the point in having a profile on a site like this? ANd not reading the mail? And deleting the mail?
 
Hmmmm....could it be...perhaps....that the reason lies in just being here to learn? Or would you consider that stupid also?
 
As a reference, I do state it in my profile that I do not read any mail.
 
I wish you well
 
melissa


Thats fine if you state you don't read any mail.  Still, personally I think thats kinda odd.  I'm here to chat to people as much as I'm here to learn.


I agree, I was set back with Juantyone when she wrote and wrote she deletes all of her messages never reeading them. First, I find it odd she posts a photo of herself if she's just here to observe and learn (who requies a face photo if you do not wish to correspond), and she doesn't take advantage of the opportunity of talking directly with collarme members to also learn about the lifestyle. Sorry Mellisa, it's not adding up with us.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:10:56 AM   
Aileen68


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ORIGINAL: love2tieup
I agree, I was set back with Juantyone when she wrote and wrote she deletes all of her messages never reeading them. First, I find it odd she posts a photo of herself if she's just here to observe and learn (who requies a face photo if you do not wish to correspond), and she doesn't take advantage of the opportunity of talking directly with collarme members to also learn about the lifestyle. Sorry Mellisa, it's not adding up with us.


Oh please.  Do a search on all of the threads of why people post a picture.  It adds up just fine with me.  I love when people have an issue with anyone who doesn't play by the same rules or standards that they do.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:12:32 AM   
MstrssPassion


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So do you all think it rude when you don't get a reply back
 
No
 
do you feel  like you are being rude when you don't reply?
 
No

No where is it written that because we post a profile & have an inbox that we are to respond the every item of mail we receive. If we were to carry this logic over to our snail-mail boxes, we'd never be able to leave our homes because of all the undesired correspondence that we receive. Should I write Rooms To Go & say "thanks for the offer of 10% off the purchase of entire room groupings & free same day delivery but I am just not interested in replacing my current living room furniture"...?

I have made it very clear as to the type of mail I will reply to & the type of mail I will not reply to. A majority of that "email we all get & know we shouldn't reply to" falls into that mail I described as being the ones I will not reply to. Must I be redundant & follow up this statement by responding to every individual who ignores, skips over or disregards my already written guidelines of what I am open to & not open to?

Some my call it rude. I call is taking a proactive approach to filtering out undesired mail so that I can managing my time more effectively.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:16:41 AM   
SunNMoon


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I think people need to remember that not everyone here is looking for a relationship. Some people are here just for the forums or are looking just to meet friends. So they will be answering e-mails in the a way in which agrees with their search or lack there of. It's not rude not to answer an e-mail, just as it's not rude to refuse a drink in a bar. Just my two cents.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:21:14 AM   
Tantriqu


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"I think it is very funny that people who do not want the answer they receive try to twist that as being rude.

Not replying to them is your answer to them."

Lol, I agree.
I have pages of unanswered e-mail, and that's excluding the ones that were deleted, so I would spend a lot of My time just replying to unsuitable msgs.  I only reply to interesting ones with appropriate profiles.  

For example, My profile includes 'No switches, no bi's', yet I'm constantly amazed by the #'s that contact Me, then try to cajole when I reply, 'Nope, not interested, good luck', so it's not worth My time to deal with their antics. 

Also, if I've just had to delete a crazy or unsuitable msg, I'm even more in the mood to reply to only the unique and intriguing. 

But I choose to be amused by the worst ones.  A would-be sub sent Me an obvious cookie-cutter msg, so I replied, 'No form letters' since his profile was otherwise suitable, and he replied he didn't have time to read all the Domme profiles and make his application specific.  Oh, yah, who wouldn't jump on a man who didn't take the time to read what I wrote?

Good luck to all.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:24:29 AM   
KatyLied


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All you have to do is block the assholes. 


That may work in theory; but not always in reality.
The fools then make new profiles to annoy the hell outta ya all over again.
Here's a clue.....no response = no interest


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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:26:56 AM   
KaineD


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Status: offline 		But sometimes I think, maybe she didn't get a chance to respond.  Sometimes I might wait a week or so and send the same person another message.  That's what happens when ya never get replies.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:27:37 AM   
love2tieup


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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

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ORIGINAL: love2tieup
I agree, I was set back with Juantyone when she wrote and wrote she deletes all of her messages never reeading them. First, I find it odd she posts a photo of herself if she's just here to observe and learn (who requies a face photo if you do not wish to correspond), and she doesn't take advantage of the opportunity of talking directly with collarme members to also learn about the lifestyle. Sorry Mellisa, it's not adding up with us.


Oh please.  Do a search on all of the threads of why people post a picture.  It adds up just fine with me.  I love when people have an issue with anyone who doesn't play by the same rules or standards that they do.


Ok Mellisa...except Aileen.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:29:40 AM   
jauntyone


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Status: offline 		Greetings love2tieup
 
I will answer this as my last post on this thread. As my temper is at the edge, It most probably will not sound very nice, but right now, it matters little to me.
 
quote:

  I agree, I was set back with Juantyone when she wrote and wrote she deletes all of her messages never reeading them. First, I find it odd she posts a photo of herself if she's just here to observe and learn (who requies a face photo if you do not wish to correspond), and she doesn't take advantage of the opportunity of talking directly with collarme members to also learn about the lifestyle. Sorry Mellisa, it's not adding up with us.

I am not here to impress anyone. Especially the self indulgent who feel the need to email me. Nor am I here to impress anyone on the forums. I speak my opinion, and that is all. I do not go out of my way to shove it down anothers throat. I am who I am, and those who are displeased with what I project, know exactly who to take the issue up with.
 
I come to forums for one reason and one reason only. It gives me a place to learn and to expand my ideas and opinions. If someone is offended by seeing my picture next to my posts; again, they know exactly where and who to take it up with.
 
Not everyone is out to make a connection with someone; even a friendly one. Some actually are here only for the option of reading and posting on the forums. Whether there is a picture there or not should not be an issue.
 
Personally, I am surprised that so many place so much emphasis on emails here, and on those who put pictures up and state " not looking'" I was polite enough to say in my profile how email would be answered; they should be polite enough to respect that. If they do not, then again, take it to the one who matters most to me.
 
I wish you all well on this beautiful day
 
melissa

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:29:59 AM   
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. If we were to carry this logic over to our snail-mail boxes, we'd never be able to leave our homes because of all the undesired correspondence that we receive. Should I write Rooms To Go & say "thanks for the offer of 10% off the purchase of entire room groupings & free same day delivery but I am just not interested in replacing my current living room furniture"...?

I have made it very clear as to the type of mail I will reply to & the type of mail I will not reply to. A majority of that "email we all get & know we shouldn't reply to" falls into that mail I described as being the ones I will not reply to. Must I be redundant & follow up this statement by responding to every individual who ignores, skips over or disregards my already written guidelines of what I am open to & not open to?



But since these letters are not coming from companies, this is a false analogy. A more appropriate analogy would be " Why should I respond to each of these Happy Birthday letters that were personally written to me? "

I don't think that anyone thinks you must respond, but some of us that value courtesy feel that it is only right to respond.

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RE: to respond or not to respond - 4/14/2007 9:32:54 AM   
amuzingtoyou


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most women on this site who are actively searching may recieve up to 100 emails a day. Weeding thru all that crap and people actually expect a response? That is the one thing I think you are forgetting. Out of the 100 people you emailed...how do you know they didn't recieve 100 other emails as well. What made yours stand out? Maybe they glanced at your location and just deleted the email..or whatever happened. It's not always because people are rude. Sometimes there just isn't enough hours in the day to respond to every single person who writes to someone.
missi

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