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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 7:11:01 AM

wildangel1

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     This is my first post but I could not help myself....what girl wouldnt love the chase? Perhaps some girls don't like it because at some point it could cross a line into obsession or stalking but a chase in the sense that he wants you and lets you know it allows you to consider him as a dom or master does it not? If he puts forth no effort at all then how badly does he want you?
     I personally would like to know that he would be "bothered" for me and is thinking about me all the time and if I know I am in his mind then I would feel he is committed ...if he is committed to the chase and he is allowed to catch his prey I feel he is more apt to appreciate the conquest and he is less likely to ever let anyone else near his prize....a true prize he has worked hard to posess and would most likely value-
     another consideration is that for a girl who has ALOT of energy if he didn't have the energy to catch me he certainly wouldn't be able to tame me or train me after he had me....then we would both be dissappointed. but oh can you imagine the sparks and fireworks you two can make when you come together!!!!
     everyone has their own desires on what they seek but I feel the chase can be very intense for people who know exactly what they want and they are aggressive to go get it -for me personally I say to all the testosterone driven men who are on the hunt -eat your wheaties take your vitamins and go gettem!!!!!growl (hee hee)

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 7:46:56 AM

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Past experience?

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 7:59:53 AM

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I don't rise to the bait Puella.

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 8:35:40 AM

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Hrm....

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 8:41:25 AM

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Then I have to ask -

Why would a Dominant *have* to chase you to make you horny and wet all the time?

I would think, in my personal opinion (not that it matters any) that

a look
a finger pointed
a gaze

is all but a promise that he wants you

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to want to be chased, though?
sounds like a game.. games aren't fun unless they're agreed upon beforehand

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 8:42:30 AM

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?

I think perhaps you did not understand the nature, or perhaps the entirety of my question.

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 8:47:40 AM

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Are you implying that I am not omnipotent?

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 8:48:54 AM

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chasing something may actually be a "personality driven character" issue as some people are driven...I am driven in the sense that even being submissive when I decide I want something and I establish it as a goal(personal, work, acquiring property for financial reasons) I am like a pit bull and not easily dissuaded from crossing the finish line....positive energy when channelled is a wonderful thing.
...(others may call it obsessive ) but as I said when you use it in a positive way it is a benefit rather than a hinderance. I also find driven people like other driven people and ones who are more laid back seek out their own kind.

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 8:48:59 AM

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I would never deny your power.... how about if I just deny that you are omnicient..

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 9:06:01 AM

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Chasing to me doesn't really appeal much. For me, it's more like hunting by trap. I know that sounds weird, but the fact remains, I've let every submissive that has come to me, literally come to me.

Granted, there are aspects to that, such as body language, cueing certain signals, etc. that lets the girl know I'm there, that I'm "available", but there is a calculated disinterest that seems to be a key component. And this is where the trap is laid. It's due to that same disinterest, initially, that gets the curiosity flowing, and then when the conversation starts, the hunt is really in the conversation.

If it turns out that the individual is compatible, I tend to initiate semi-aggressively, meaning that I make pointed statements in order to gauge their interest. If they respond favourably, all the better, and if that's the case, I spring the "trap" so to speak... Pounce, I guess you could say, but not in the literal sense.

But the "chase" or the "hunt" is something that I'm constantly engaged in, from the moment of interest in someone to the end of the relationship, if applicable. The catch is barely the beginning... I try not to waste time on "chasing" someone...

As it was stated before, I suppose, that while the hunt is inevitable, the keeping is the most important aspect. It's in the keeping that I expend the most of my energy and invest the most into a slave. It's during this time that I'm attempting to refine who I've "caught" and discover all the best pieces and the darkest deepest parts and bring them out to shine the brightest...

I tend to think that the greatest treasures are those deepest buried. They take effort to find, extract and polish to the brightest gleam. I never seem to get bored with this.

Every relationship that I've had in the past, where I've chased in any way has wound up killing the bottom line of the relationship, somewhere down the road, and I'm not precisely sure why. Perhaps I made the shift in thinking because I was expending too much time and energy on the aquisition, and then didn't have the continual drive to keep it going. But then, it's also a two way street.

As for being chased... I tend to react negatively to that as well. I prefer a possible initial contact, and if I find an interest in the person I'll notify them.. Then it's about the reciprocating exchange that follows that determines the rest.

I do tend to move rather quickly once I find an interest, hence the "trap" analogy... In any case, before I ramble forever... I'm outie. Peace.

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 9:10:11 AM

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Okay, that's almost dripping honey... Why not just get a room?

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 11:42:30 AM

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eh?

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 11:44:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

this would have been your life, you dodged a bullet, you would have always been begging at his table for what ever scraps of time and affection he cared to give....and every one would always come first...the sadness, loneliness and emptiness you feel now, will pass in few days....but it easily could have been the rest of your life.

if he can not prioritize you in his life, and he wants to, then he is lacking some fundamental skills, that would have made your life, a walking wound.

You know, Amy, you're absolutely right. Went out tonight with a dominant couple who I think are great and I'm keeping fingers crossed and chilling out and waiting for them to make the move.

Thanks for the insight, You Rock,
venuscoffee

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/18/2007 11:52:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: marylynn

Then I have to ask -

Why would a Dominant *have* to chase you to make you horny and wet all the time?

I would think, in my personal opinion (not that it matters any) that

a look
a finger pointed
a gaze

is all but a promise that he wants you

---
to want to be chased, though?
sounds like a game.. games aren't fun unless they're agreed upon beforehand

Oh please... have some imagination....don't you know the best implement in a Tops' arsenal is your brain?

Negotiate it all upfront .... yawn....forget it.

Tell me when and where and what to wear and I'm up for it. I dont want to know everything.

Part of my picky plan is finding the Top that totally gets my limits, gets what and how I can stretch and how to totally work over my brain in a scene to get exactly what he/she wants--that sweet sadistic satisfaction that goes deeper than any orgasm could reach. When I find the one(s) I'm looking for, it will make the 22 months of waiting worth it.

Kisses,
venuscoffee

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/19/2007 12:10:50 AM

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puella,

I was referring to the banter between you and Michael. It's cute, in it's own coded sort of way, so I was just joking with the "why don't you two just get a room?"

meh... I guess it wasn't received the way I meant it I guess.

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ORIGINAL: venuscoffee

Part of my picky plan is finding the Top that totally gets my limits, gets what and how I can stretch and how to totally work over my brain in a scene to get exactly what he/she wants--that sweet sadistic satisfaction that goes deeper than any orgasm could reach. When I find the one(s) I'm looking for, it will make the 22 months of waiting worth it.

Personally, I find this to be somewhat ignorant of the reality of it all. Tops are not just going to "get" what your limits are... Nor are they going to just "get" what you call "stretch" or "flex" or "boundary" or anything else, unless you do negotiate these things before hand.

True, it's boring to know what to expect, but there are certain things that you need to know, and deserve, as a human being to know before you jump willynilly head first into a situation.

No one "just gets it"... Even psychics have an issue with that. For example, My slave has limits I wouldn't have just gotten, had she not told me, though they might match my own. But discussion is there, because this allows us to touch base on what's important, and what's not important, what are the limits, and where those limits can be stretched.

To say that indicates that you have this perception that Dominants, Tops and Masters are God-like... Well, we all know we might wish to be perceived in such a light, but the fact remains, we are still human... Therefore fallible. Communication removes much of that issue.

Granted, I don't plan every action out with my slaves... But I also have had very precise communication, in regards to both what it is that they can not tolerate, and what I won't tolerate. Without this, your stepping into a minefield.

Plain and simple, that's dangerous thinking. Especially for a self-proclaimed "sambrat"

Just my humble opinion.

Peace.

Tora

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/19/2007 1:25:26 AM

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I don't enjoy chasing. It seems like an extremely submissive act to me.

I live my life, as I do, and they come to me. I have too much to do with life and too much dignity to chase- to put myself at the mercy of- another and her wimps.

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/19/2007 1:52:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

I don't enjoy chasing. It seems like an extremely submissive act to me.

I live my life, as I do, and they come to me. I have too much to do with life and too much dignity to chase- to put myself at the mercy of- another and her wimps.

Another and her whims per chance?

Peace.

Tora

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/19/2007 2:52:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TigerNINTails

quote:

ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

I don't enjoy chasing. It seems like an extremely submissive act to me.

I live my life, as I do, and they come to me. I have too much to do with life and too much dignity to chase- to put myself at the mercy of- another and her wimps.

Another and her whims per chance?

Peace.

Tora

Blah. Me and my Freudian slips. =P

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/19/2007 5:07:06 AM

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I'll add another spin here.

I am who I am and I do what I do. I am not, however, set in stone. If there is a quality He particularly likes or doesn't like, it does not bother me to adjust. This flexibility has caused problems.

I tend to take people at face value. If they say things that are not intrinsically against my nature, I don't mind changing slightly. I don't run away - I jog a few hundred yards and then walk back to him if the walking back isn't too painful (and by this I mean if he isn't asking me to change my personality or belief system).

I find often (not in ~every~ case of course) that there is no such thing as the ideal girl, unless she is the girl He does not possess. It's kind of like buyer's remorse.

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RE: The deliciousness of the chase. - 4/19/2007 5:17:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: puella

What happens to the women who are not runners? I think there is a perception that they are ‘easy’. That may or may not be the case.

i love a good chase. it's a thrilling, ride for me because i see it as a challenge with most men especially when they try to approach me with flowery words of flattery and/or appear to be in my high level of standards. many men have tried and failed miserably - i don't allude to the fact i'm easy either.

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