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RE: Dom's should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:34:00 AM

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I am strongly critical of those of you who are condemning a person, who has learned to adapt to his environment and manipulate it to get what he believes to be fulfilling. For those involved in an "alternative" lifestyle, it seems rather hypocritical to be intolerant of alternative behavior.

Sex does not equal emotional intimacy. Many young women cannot open to themself and be "self intimate," let alone share an open heart with a partner. Many young men believe that sex is fulfillment, and are not connected with their heart. This produces an environment where boys try to manipulate girls into getting screwed. The nature of animals is that predators will always prey upon the weakest. One finds the psychologically weakest by exercising oppression -- a low level form of unrefined dominance.

My advice to you: Find an older female mentor to help show you how to interact with an open heart, and share intimacy with another. With that, you will find a much deeper level of fulfillment right within your own heart. Then adding sex to emotional intimacy will open up a whole new level of bliss.

Oh yes, and for those of you who are intolerant of anything that is alternative to your fixed notion of THE one and only alternative lifestyle -- the fulfillment experienced in a polarized BDSM interaction is no different than that experienced in what you would call "vanilla" interaction. Love is love, and the brain chemistry is basically the same. The only difference is the form of what your ego deludes you into believing is the source of your own love, that you only feel right inside your own heart. Surrender requires self control. Self control requires ego surrender. Control and surrender are the same.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:35:07 AM

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yanno...

I think someone has lost their grasp on reality... just because those girls on the pages of the magazine do just what you want in your fantasies while you squeeze one out, doesn't mean real girls are going to let you once they allow you to see them naked.

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RE: Dom's should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:44:02 AM

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AND JUST WHAT ARE YOU IMPLYING TO MY POST AND YOU bs IS SCATTERED TO SAY THE LEAST..BOUNTY

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:44:23 AM

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erg

hopefully, you don't end up like our old dear friend "casanova".. dead at an early age and diseases aplenty.

But, in short - you're right. Treat women like shit, and they come back for more.
The "Bad Boy" syndrome.

just remember -
they get over it

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:07:14 AM

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Oh I laffed when I read the intial post, one because of what he had put and two, because of the responses I was looking forward to reading

20, sacks full, found a way of pulling girlies who will let him treat them a bit rough in bed - for most young guys that would be BINGO!!!!!

We all travel our own paths, he sounds like he's having a good time on his. He might grow into being a top or a dom or some serial bed hopper. I bet though that he's leaving a string of young women behind him who aren't as happy as he is and I hope he's being upfront about what exactly he can bring to the table right now, although I would expect he isn't. In the UK we'd call him a Jack the Lad and like others have said this behaviour will get him so far but no further. It ain't D/s yet but it may grow into it, or he may grow into being some sad bar hopper, or he may grow into Mr Respectable. *shrugging*

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RE: Dom's should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:07:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: aldompdx

I am strongly critical of those of you who are condemning a person, who has learned to adapt to his environment and manipulate it to get what he believes to be fulfilling. For those involved in an "alternative" lifestyle, it seems rather hypocritical to be intolerant of alternative behavior.

Sex does not equal emotional intimacy. Many young women cannot open to themself and be "self intimate," let alone share an open heart with a partner. Many young men believe that sex is fulfillment, and are not connected with their heart. This produces an environment where boys try to manipulate girls into getting screwed. The nature of animals is that predators will always prey upon the weakest. One finds the psychologically weakest by exercising oppression -- a low level form of unrefined dominance.

My advice to you: Find an older female mentor to help show you how to interact with an open heart, and share intimacy with another. With that, you will find a much deeper level of fulfillment right within your own heart. Then adding sex to emotional intimacy will open up a whole new level of bliss.

Oh yes, and for those of you who are intolerant of anything that is alternative to your fixed notion of THE one and only alternative lifestyle -- the fulfillment experienced in a polarized BDSM interaction is no different than that experienced in what you would call "vanilla" interaction. Love is love, and the brain chemistry is basically the same. The only difference is the form of what your ego deludes you into believing is the source of your own love, that you only feel right inside your own heart. Surrender requires self control. Self control requires ego surrender. Control and surrender are the same.

You're condemning the likes of myself for condemning someone else - and that WE are the hypocrites??? lol Surely it's you who is intolerant of other people's right to their own opinion, even when it's (*gasp*) NOT shared by you!

*News Flash* - alternative lifestyle still doesn't equate to "one true way". A different breed of duck still looks, walks and quacks like a duck - vanilla or alternative, an irresponsible jerk still has common traits.

Hmmm, you and the OP are from the same State - I'm guessing you don't have a teenage daughter out there dating?

Focus.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:15:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dastardly

In the UK we'd call him a Jack the Lad.... <snip>

Lol, I think it was in "Heist" where Gene Hackman used the term "young, dumb and full of cum"....

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:17:14 AM

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This reminds me of when I heard a sorority girl tell another "Keep in mind that you are always wearing your letters!"

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:35:46 AM

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As an alpha female I can tell you what you are showing is not dominant behavior. On the contrary the behavior you are showing is immaturity, inexperience and abuse with the opposite sex. You will not have women flocking to you, they will run away as if you were an ape because that is the type of behavior you are displaying.

Dominants have self control before they even attempt to control someone else. If you cannot Master that, then how do you expect to Master someone else?

Good luck, your going to need it.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:47:09 AM

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Unfortunately I know a great number of men whom have never outgrown this caveman mentality...It has nothing to do with age but rather ignorance and lack of respect for women, what-ever their station in life may be!

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:48:45 AM

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*rolls eyes*

oh good grief - you have lots to learn about being dominant, young man, and it's not about having kinky sex with women.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:49:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VASDEF187
latley i have changed the way i talk to women. because i am a Dominant when it comes to sex, i decided to try showing more dominance when i talk to women.

This is where you fall down sunshine.... you have to 'try'... its an act, a mask you are wearing and not who you are.

In day to day life, many when they first meet Me find Me somewhat intimidating... oh gosh how Domly is that... but once they get to know Me they find I'm not as bad as they first thought. Because it isn't a mask, there is a regular guy behind here, a human being... not some ponce TRYING to act all Domly!

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 6:22:12 AM

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Hmmmm ,I just dont know about this ,,,maybe 10 years will help ,,,,were did manners go?

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 6:34:22 AM

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so i am a 20 year old college student and like many people i am trying to learn the art of finding attracive people to have sex with. i definetly prefer being a Dominant when it comes to sex but when sexual encounters are infrequent beggers can't be choosers meaning i'de take sex however i can get it. However, lately i have been getting a lot of sex with lots of different women exactly how i want it. And latley i have changed the way i talk to women. because i am a Dominant when it comes to sex, i decided to try showing more dominance when i talk to women. i show dominance in conversations the same way i show dominance in sex. to show dominance in conversations with women you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them. if you can do this in a light hearted playful manner girls will want you to fuck them. psychologically you have already shown so much dominance that in the bedroom you call all the shots. lately i have been fucking girls howevery i want, whenever i want. and they like it. is this how nature intended us to behave? do you male Doms out their veiw yourself as an alpha male? subs feel free to give your thoughts too.

My thoughts are that you are very young. And very inexperienced. And sex and life is still a game to you.
I am a 38 year old college student. I sit in classrooms with your age people all day.And watch the exact games you speak of. If i were to tell you " Your too young to know anything, so stupid you cant dress yourself, your wearing your dads clothes, and seriously need to do something with that nose of yours" would you want to have sex with me?
Think about it.
It is not being a Dominant, it is being a Bully to those willing to put up with it.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 6:40:01 AM

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Oh boy.

That's exactly what I was thinking.

I'm thinking I should open up a "10 foot pole" concession... possibly a "tar and feather" stand. Could be some money in it.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 6:46:08 AM

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Aww, c'mon, you didn't get a chuckle out of the OP?

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 6:48:26 AM

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And young Dom's wonder why us subbies gravitate towards older men? There's too many of these guys running around. Now, I dont blame it ALL on him, because these women dont have to take being treated that way, but they do, anyway.

You can be strong, Dominant, self-assured, confident, under 25, and NOT be an asshole you know. I know it seems like the world will end if such traits align, but it's possible, and you'd thank us all later. If you do end up maturing and wanting to settle down in the future, you'll have a hard time, because you'd be attracting the wrong sorts of women and creating issues which may become deep-seated, or feeding deep-seated issues she already had, or....No one will take you seriously because by then you'd have a raging reputation and a major ass.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 6:51:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

Aww, c'mon, you didn't get a chuckle out of the OP?

I certainly did, lol. Hell, when I was 20, I'd have probably fallen for it, hahaha!

I just hope he's protecting himself.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 7:20:58 AM

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*shrug* Considering the regular flow of heartbreak stories we get around here from women even in their 40s and older about falling totally head over heels for an older guy who was obviously an asshole and getting hurt by them later...I really don't see how age has much to do with it, nor do I think it will be any hindrance to him later in life in terms of finding available pussy.

That being said, an asshole is still an asshole and shouldn't be confused with competency in being a dominant, nor will it lead to any healthy long term relationships.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 7:33:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: VASDEF187

so i am a 20 year old college student and like many people i am trying to learn the art of finding attracive people to have sex with. i definetly prefer being a Dominant when it comes to sex but when sexual encounters are infrequent beggers can't be choosers meaning i'de take sex however i can get it. However, lately i have been getting a lot of sex with lots of different women exactly how i want it. And latley i have changed the way i talk to women. because i am a Dominant when it comes to sex, i decided to try showing more dominance when i talk to women. i show dominance in conversations the same way i show dominance in sex. to show dominance in conversations with women you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them. if you can do this in a light hearted playful manner girls will want you to fuck them. psychologically you have already shown so much dominance that in the bedroom you call all the shots. lately i have been fucking girls howevery i want, whenever i want. and they like it. is this how nature intended us to behave? do you male Doms out their veiw yourself as an alpha male? subs feel free to give your thoughts too.

Hmmm
/scratches head in disbelief and decides against what she was going to say

Ohh to be young and cocky again

Ohhhhhhhhhhhh, come on Irish...say it...

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