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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 10:21:21 AM   
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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 10:26:42 AM   
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the OP is a ripe candidate for CM's new game show - Are You A Master?  where your skills and knowledge as a "master" are challenged 


.... is that  the new spin-off of "Are you Smarter than a 5th Grader"?

yep - it's slated for Fox's new fall lineup!  we'll have in studio challenges too!


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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 10:32:42 AM   
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so i am a 20 year old college student and like many people i am trying to learn the art of finding attracive people to have sex with. i definetly prefer being a Dominant when it comes to sex but when sexual encounters are infrequent beggers can't be choosers meaning i'de take sex however i can get it. However, lately i have been getting a lot of sex with lots of different women exactly how i want it. And latley i have changed the way i talk to women. because i am a Dominant when it comes to sex, i decided to try showing more dominance when i talk to women. i show dominance in conversations the same way i show dominance in sex. to show dominance in conversations with women you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them. if you can do this in a light hearted playful manner girls will want you to fuck them. psychologically you have already shown so much dominance that in the bedroom you call all the shots. lately i have been fucking girls howevery i want, whenever i want. and they like it. is this how nature intended us to behave? do you male Doms out their veiw yourself as an alpha male? subs feel free to give your thoughts too.


HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA

This is the funniest piece of garbage I've read in years!  You didn't have to tell us how old you were, it's obvious (actually I would have guessed younger).

You seem quite proud of the having had to work to cultivate being a stereotype.  Usually people just fall into those rolls without effort.  What part of it is a source of pride for you, that you had to work at it or that you had a lightbulb moment regarding how to manipulate people?  Did the moment pass right after you had it or did you intentionally turn the bulb down to half watt?

Absolutely hilarious.  Hey, whatever gets you through the night. hahahahahaha

I'm so glad I'm not that young anymore. hahahahahahahaha


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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 11:20:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not to single you out Questingbear, but while I know from some girls I knew in high school that there are girls out there who respond to the a-hole I also know that wasn't me and it wasn't any of my female friends. We all had boyfriends, we all had good grades, and we were all popular without our individual clinques.

Perhaps the girls you targeted were more likely to respond to these tactics but did you really try them on all the girls you could?

Besides saying that this reveals something about girls, perhaps it may also say something about which girls boys approach. In other words, it reveals a good deal about what immature boys and men think should be attractive in an immature girl or woman. Let's consider the OP -- he's looking for sex, right? So what types of girls will he approach? Those whom he thinks may be most open to sex -- probably based on what she says, what she wears, and how she behaves. I'm betting he'll ignore other types of girls.

It's similar to complaints from subs who say everyone they approach turns out to be a pro who demands money. Then you discover that they go for the flashy clothes and the trashy talk and you can only say: maybe you are going after the wrong type of dom.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 11:25:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		From what I can see from the OP, sure, you can get a girl to sleep with you, and maybe even a girl to be in a short term relationship... but try having a confident woman, who, once sobers up, take that.  Sure, it takes longer to 'get' someone while playing the nice guy, but it's easier to find someone for a 'real' relationship that way. 

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 11:32:52 AM   
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Furthermore we do not feel the need or even the desire to put down others, tease them, objectify them, or to push ourselves onto others because there is no need.



That is totally what this life is about to some of us. I "get-off" on the occasional mental/emotional torment/toture. Some Doms take pride in being an ass, or the honorific "grand pu-ba of prickdom".
Is not the pushing of themselves (the Dominant) onto the submissive, in some manner or form, just the basis for what some do?
objectification is a kink...

As to the OP, well dude ... my advice would be to rethink that claim of Dominat, learn a little more about control and safety but your young and only time will really show you anything. Thats all I have to say about that. lol



Having a kink that you do with someone who has consented may be dominance or submission or neither of those things -- it can just be a fetish.

The OP isn't talking about having a fetish, he's talking about acting a certain way to try and get sex. If he has to "act' that way, I'd say he really isn't a dominant at all, he's just trying to be one and only impressing those who don't really have much of a clue about how to respect themselves or others.

Nor was I taking about BDSM, I was talking about people who are dominant by nature. We do not need to "act" because we simply are.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 12:01:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		ok MizSuz is a bitch. i am new to this whole community and i was just speaking my mind. honestly, the positive response from girls when i decided to start being a asshole was pretty unexpected. i was raised by women and have 4 sisters, an no brothers, my whole life i have been raised to have the upmost respect for women. so why do nice guys finish last? even after i am disrespectful to these girls and fuck them like sluts they still like me usually come back for more. Being a dick seems to work for picking up many demographics of women, smart and dumb ones. just recently i was able to fuck my biochem lab TA from winter term who was smokin hot. i tied her up with a neck tie and fucked her senseless. we still talk and fuck. i like to look at human as complex animals that exibhit most of the same behaviors as other animals but we are more decrete about it. when it comes to sex, mate selection is about choosing the best one, which is usually partner that will lead to the healthiest strongest offspring. although this is never the thought that comes to mind when thinking about sex on some level it has got to be there. in many animals lions for example the dominant alpha male is the strongest so he gets fuck an whole pride of female lions, this is so his genes (which are the best ones) get passed on. human's brains are what make them the strongest animals, proof of this are guns and planes and shit. so a large part of showing dominance in humans is psychological which i am sure everyone is aware of (collarme). i show dominance by being a smart, cocky asshole. along some peacock theory and a good physical fitness i have been unstoppable.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 12:12:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		No offense but you are unstoppable with little girls.  Getting a strong independent woman who can have anyone she wants to be willing to bend her knee before you is an entirely different proposition.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 12:25:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Focus50

There are lines of difference between dominance, abuse, misogyny and plain "arseholeism" - and like most teen "doms", you're trampling all over them before considering the consequences of your actions.
 
D/s is a control dynamic and it seems to me the only one in control here is your dick - you follow it wherever it wants to go.  Watch that it doesn't lead you to the free clinic, a paternity suit or an enraged Neanderthal of a boyfriend.  Not that you likely care - for now....
 
Kids with grownup "toys"....  <shakes head>
 
Focus.




BINGO!! The only thing I can add to this is that treating women in general like this is abuse, not BDSM! BDSM is consensual. Also, keep in mind that not all females are submissive. Do not confuse good manners with submissive nature. Personally, if someone tried something like that with me or with a friend of mine, I'd humiliate them so badily that they'd be unable to get an erection for a week, if not longer. I consider the OP to be a crass abusive misogynist with tops disease.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 12:34:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		All I have to say is, I hope you are alot stronger and smarter than you appear to be.

Your young, a baby yet, and so far life and girls (it appears) have been fairly easy. The girls in your age group are, for the most part, as imature and clueless as you are. There is nothing wrong with that. Bear in mind that you are walking a tightrope with these girls. They may like your approach, temporarily. But if you get carried away in your imaturity you have to realize that their's may explode in your face. Example: are they always of legal age? If not you are opening yourself up to serious legal issues. What if you piss one off for some reason (sometimes it doesn't take much to upset a young woman and send her on a jealous rampage) and she goes running to the police and says you were too rough? "officer, that perverted creep tied me up and raped me!!" Again, potential legal BS.

While I have no appreciation for your attitude or methods I understand how you came to think it is pretty awsome. Just know that there are potential landmines that could ruin your life.

In addition, as others have said, don't get too addicted to your current style. You will get older, and at some point those late teens, early 20something girls will not be nearly as interested in you. Your going to have to grow up, learn alot, and gain a truck load of class and finesse to snag yourself a woman. Hopefully your strong enough, and smart enough, to make that journey.




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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 12:53:25 PM   
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No offense but you are unstoppable with little girls.  Getting a strong independent woman who can have anyone she wants to be willing to bend her knee before you is an entirely different proposition.


Yeah...that pretty much says it all.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 12:58:31 PM   
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ok MizSuz is a bitch. i am new to this whole community and i was just speaking my mind. honestly, the positive response from girls when i decided to start being a asshole was pretty unexpected. i was raised by women and have 4 sisters, an no brothers, my whole life i have been raised to have the upmost respect for women. so why do nice guys finish last? even after i am disrespectful to these girls and fuck them like sluts they still like me usually come back for more. Being a dick seems to work for picking up many demographics of women, smart and dumb ones. just recently i was able to fuck my biochem lab TA from winter term who was smokin hot. i tied her up with a neck tie and fucked her senseless. we still talk and fuck. i like to look at human as complex animals that exibhit most of the same behaviors as other animals but we are more decrete about it. when it comes to sex, mate selection is about choosing the best one, which is usually partner that will lead to the healthiest strongest offspring. although this is never the thought that comes to mind when thinking about sex on some level it has got to be there. in many animals lions for example the dominant alpha male is the strongest so he gets fuck an whole pride of female lions, this is so his genes (which are the best ones) get passed on. human's brains are what make them the strongest animals, proof of this are guns and planes and shit. so a large part of showing dominance in humans is psychological which i am sure everyone is aware of (collarme). i show dominance by being a smart, cocky asshole. along some peacock theory and a good physical fitness i have been unstoppable.


This is just one of those myths in pop culture as well as in the BDSM world.. That you have to be a cocky asshole to get layed or to show your dominance.

Its farther from the truth.

Dominance in the animal kingdom is far different than dominance in civilized and modern culture.

This is a small minded regurgetated cave men theory and one that you will hopefully outgrow as you learn more about life, love, and women.

When you throw away integrity and take a "whatever it takes" attitude, "scoring with a bunch of chicks" isnt that huge of an accomplishment or something to feal special about. Its nothing new. Plenty of completely downright dirty and shitty men have a lot of notches on thier belt. The notches on the belt dont make up for thier lack of worth.

There is not much more I can say. Your still overconsumed with hormones and thinking from the perspective that "blowing a load = everything". Only time will change that.


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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 1:12:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		'you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them. ' Quoted from the op

Im in my 20's and im telling you, act that way to me and youll get little more then a shot in the nuts, hey but maybe thats what he means by "sex"

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 1:20:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		well! the dom (notice the sm. d ) that tried that got ignored and left holding the collar. My only Master , tells me i'm beautiful , one of his most prized possesions , to be used as he pleases because my body my mind and my love for him really turn him on. guess what i would do for him ? anything he wants and i'm happy to do it .

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 1:27:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		You will need to find a balance between being "mr. dom the asshole" and "mr. dom nice guy" to come to full dom actualization.  Without knowing you, it appears that you are feeding your dom ego by getting simply getting laid.  It appears that you are trying to prove to yourself how Dom you are.  At times it's not a bad thing to prove and test yourself with yourself. You get to explore your own limits and figure out who and what you really are.  What concerns me the most, is that your posts are devoid of human emotional aspects from becoming sexually involved with so many women. 

If everything you have wrote is really 100% true, I am certain you are getting a lot of phone calls and visits from these girls.  It's obvious you have not reached the overload point yet.  Also, you should have had a great number of them want or expect a more serious relationship or commitment with you.   This is one of the side effects of being that Dom lion king, where as these woman expect and long for something serious from you.    You should have had several encounters by now, or you will start having emotional situations come into play. 

I'm talking about the crying girl on the phone at 3am in the morning.   I'm talking about being at a party and found yourself being confronted by 2-3 women at the same time trying to pin you down into being with just them.  Situations where you have to face your own consious mind about the heartache and pain.   Situations where some of these girls actually come to hate you even.  Yes, this whole thing you have going on will back fire on your ass.

I'm actually suprised you have not encountered these problems or issues yet.  If not yet, when they do start happening.. don't say I did not warn you.  You can't keep up what you are doing without leaving a wake of heartache behind you, along with hard feelings.  Plus you will come to know what female stalkers are all about and then some.   You will actually watch some of these women (you claim you care about women) get into major cat fights and drama all because of your own actions.

If you want to have more than one submissive, consider building a steady small poly group with a couple of women.  This way the women can get used to one another.  Simply changing and taking on a new flavor of the day, week, month is a big mistake in the long haul. 

I would recommend you keep to flirting and/or expressing practicing your dominance without the focus on getting laid.  If you expect to ever have any long term relationships and be good at long term relationships, you will have to work at self control first.  Else dude, you only will have short term shallow non-emotionally redeeming relationships.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 1:49:06 PM   
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Seems to me the OP is getting his behavior reinforced pretty well by the girls he's been with, if he's being truthfull about his experiences. Of course none of that's their fault.
If I gave my dog a treat every time he urinated on the floor, I'd soon have to replace the flooring in my home.

His actions smack more of being domineering than dominant. But then again, the qualities of a "true" Dominant have been debated until the cows came home and lined up 50 deep behind the door.

He may learn over time and he may not. As others have pointed out here, there are many females both younger and older who love the bad-boy approach and are drawn to it. There are many woman who want to marry and/or date Mr. nice-guy but who thrill at the thought of the bad-boy screwing them mercilessly. Woman's shelters are full of such females.

Be well

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 1:54:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		To the OP....do you prefer quanitity over quality?  If so, continue on fucking girls who will spread their legs for anybody.  Thing is, no one is impressed by that except you.  Big deal.  You fucked a girl. You fucked a lot of girls. 

Real maturity will come when you realize that your worth as a man isn't based on how wet your dick got. 

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 2:02:50 PM   
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To the OP....do you prefer quanitity over quality?  If so, continue on fucking girls who will spread their legs for anybody.  Thing is, no one is impressed by that except you.  Big deal.  You fucked a girl. You fucked a lot of girls. 

Real maturity will come when you realize that your worth as a man isn't based on how wet your dick got. 

Great point about Quanitity over Quality.  Physical appearence alone does not equate to Quality either.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 2:09:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

'you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them. ' Quoted from the op

Magik's slave


... and people wonder where young women get insecurity complexes.. it's from male's like him. 
 
To the OP:  Be as you are.. but don't you DARE call yourself a Dom! 
 
Don't expect to run with the big dogs if you are going to piss like a pup;    Youth and inexperience are no excuse.   Think with your head and HEART.or otherwise this whole thing is going to bite you in the butt.     

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 2:50:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		with a long term relationship it is easy to transform the sex into whatever you want it to be. sorry a im twenty and i am not really looking for a long term relationship with all sorts of emoltional investments. but i do like bondage and rough sex. for a while i found it difficult to mix my fetishes with my promiscuouity becasue i thought girls would think i am weird. what is cool is that most girls i've been with have liked my kinky side and found the sex to be very enjoyable. maybe more people are into or at least open to bdsm than i thought.

i think a lot of people are exaggerating how disrespectful i am to girls, i'm talking about little things like for example, i'll help a girl with her chemistry and make her feel a little dumb, but i still helped her right? or telling a girl her six in heels look really confortable and then challenge her to a foot race, or commanding girls to bring me food while im studying. these things show dominance, they are kinda dick but its all fun.

some of my girls do want more from me than just sex, i try and accomodate that too. it does come around to bite me in the ass sometimes but whatever, it comes with the territory and 20 year old girls love drama anyway. i try to keep my relationships as fun and as light hearted as possible so no one gets attached. i think grief and attachment may be linked. fun is a little more single serving

thanks for your posts, ive read them all. things change all the time and i am sure what i want out of women will too. but right now i think i am doing exactly what i am suppossed to.

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