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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 2:55:53 PM   
IrishMist


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Ohhhhhhhhhhhh, come on Irish...say it...

LOL nope, sorry CD...I have actually been a very very good girl on these here boards in the last couple days and I don't plan to wreck it now

though I will admit that with his new postings, it is getting harder and harder to bite my tongue.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:02:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know where to begin. I guess as long as you're getting what you want, the world is in proper alignment for you. Your interchangeable girls are getting nights of good sex according to your report, and yours is but one of the doors they have apparently made the choice to revolve through. Your lifestyle and your approach to it are not for me, I could not find your attitude and your life fulfilling, but I wish you the joy of your decisions. I will say this much: if I met you, and you acted in this manner towards me, my girlfriends would be hearing allll about the asshole who'd just come up to me. I don't assume my opinion matters much to you though, since you pull in such heaps and heaps of quivering, much-spanked ass already. Good luck to you.

PS: I think your subject title should rather be, "Doms CAN'T HELP but show dominance everywhere," as TammyJo was saying. My dom doesn't make any particular effort to "be" dominant; it just happens. Congratulations on your hard work, I guess.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:03:29 PM   
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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:04:03 PM   
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i think a lot of people are exaggerating how disrespectful i am to girls, i'm talking about little things like for example, i'll help a girl with her chemistry and make her feel a little dumb, but i still helped her right? or telling a girl her six in heels look really confortable and then challenge her to a foot race, or commanding girls to bring me food while im studying. these things show dominance, they are kinda dick but its all fun.



Your kind of getting it now. I am actually happy to read these follow up posts..at least happier than I was before.

Your just looking at it from a very negative and degrading viewpoint.

Its not that your making the girl feal dumb is getting you layed, but rather the fact that you exerted confidence by helping her with the chemistry.

Your viewing this as your objectictation and degradation as what got you layed, when its really more the confidence you have exerted.

By focusing on that confidence, you can still be just as successful with women without any aspect of disrespect.

Plenty of guys do it...even with young girls who dont know any better.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:07:22 PM   
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...  this is one boy that needs to receive a "Come to Jesus" major strapon session .


Raises hand and volunteers!  ^5's to you LotusSong

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:08:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		 VASDEF187  to show dominance in conversations with women you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them. if you can do this in a light hearted playful manner girls will want you to fuck them.

I dont really know waht younger subs want and need in the way of dominance...maybe they do need and want this kind of behaviour.....but let me tell you, I surely would NOT.
If a Dom started this way with me, I would tune them off and out.... 
If they wanted to call me their whore or slut (humilting names)  I would allow it ONLY after we got to know each other and I knew I was his....
this "old woman" needs to know I am worth something to a Dom...more than being just a fuck bunny...
 
And NO, I will not submit (have sex) with someone who did those things to me.
NO I would not submit, be theirs/accept their dominance, if that is what they thought of me....a lowly creature who needs to be told I am worthless.
WHY?  Because that sort of dominance will NOT make me your fuckable slut.
 
I am sure there are girls like me your age who crave to submit...and you just might be letting an angel go whilst you speak to them, act towards them like like you are some prima donna dominant but only acting like a fool. 

But then maybe that is all you really want anyway..a fucking whore.  

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:12:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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Ohhhhhhhhhhhh, come on Irish...say it...

LOL nope, sorry CD...I have actually been a very very good girl on these here boards in the last couple days and I don't plan to wreck it now

though I will admit that with his new postings, it is getting harder and harder to bite my tongue.


Yes, I have noticed you have NOT been as cruel, mean and ugly as you were last week...last month or 3 months ago..... 
I often wondered why you had such a need to be mean, cruel and ugly.
If I were that way, I would be miserable and have absoultely NO friends..and who the crap wants to be that way..to drive people away instead of being the sweetness that draws the honorable?

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:17:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sublizzie
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So he's shown that he can manipulate and abuse girls who are used to being manipulated and abused. Groovy. Find the ones who have been molested and you'll find ones who think this is the way sex is supposed to be. But you aren't domming them, just abusing them some more. One day they'll wake up and realize they are worth more than what you're giving them. But will you ever wake up and realize you're just being a jerk?

I think that's a bit too presumptuous- plenty of people get off on the danger/naughty/nasty/bad boy who I can't wrap around my finger thing.  Nothing he's said seems to suggest this is non consensual.

I dislike people trying to make women less responsible for their own sexual choices. 


Come on LA... just becasue he says subs are addicted to him...does that make his truth fool proof?? 
Are all his lays subs or just idiots who think he is such a good looking boy with nothing between his ears but a nice cock...if he even has that??  Or even knows how to really use it?? 

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:26:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe im a "Radical Sub" but i like to be talked to as an equal until i know that this person is what I'm looking for and that my dom is sure im what hes looking for i think hes praying on the insecurities and low selfesteem of young women and  IMHO he needs a good hard slap witht he reality stick but hey thats just MO

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:27:35 PM   
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You seem quite proud of the having had to work to cultivate being a stereotype.  Usually people just fall into those rolls without effort.  What part of it is a source of pride for you, that you had to work at it or that you had a lightbulb moment regarding how to manipulate people?  Did the moment pass right after you had it or did you intentionally turn the bulb down to half watt?



I think I know the 40ish type comparable to him.
The greater power they seem to have in manipulation of emotions, sexual desires and intimacies, the more their cock swells.  The more demeaning and degrading they become, the more power they think they have...until,one day they find themselves so unhappy, so utterly self hated, they find solace in the bottle !!

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:30:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		wonders with all this sexual prowness.... which girls are left with VD?
He never does say he practices his ritual safely.........SSC eh LA??
Maybe he wont know till his cock falls off !!!!!!! 

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:46:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

...  this is one boy that needs to receive a "Come to Jesus" major strapon session .


Raises hand and volunteers!  ^5's to you LotusSong


Yeeeeee-ha!  I love double teaming!  The first one to make him cry get's a Hershy bar!!  (Do want to take the front or the back..?)

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:05:04 PM   
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Your kind of getting it now. I am actually happy to read these follow up posts..at least happier than I was before.

Your just looking at it from a very negative and degrading viewpoint.

Its not that your making the girl feal dumb is getting you layed, but rather the fact that you exerted confidence by helping her with the chemistry.

Your viewing this as your objectictation and degradation as what got you layed, when its really more the confidence you have exerted.

By focusing on that confidence, you can still be just as successful with women without any aspect of disrespect.

Plenty of guys do it...even with young girls who dont know any better.


OP, I think this is the best advice you've gotten so far.
When I was younger, I mistook your sort of approach and attitude for confidence. But not for long. I quickly learned the difference between the "bad boy" attitude and real confidence, which is what I think a lot of these young women who chase after the bad boys are actually looking for. They also will eventually learn the difference (hopefully).
However, if it's just sex and the women know it's just sex and aren't deliberately led to think it's going to lead to more...I see no problem with it if it works for you at the moment. As you mentioned, it's not like you're even pursuing or thinking about long-term relationships right now, and I think that's just fine for someone your age. I just hope that by the time you do start thinking about them, you haven't bought into your own act so much that it becomes your real personality rather than an act. Maybe you could focus some of that energy on cultivating true self-confidence rather than using it all to present a false image.
Regardless, definitely be safe and get regular std workups. Wild oat-sowing has its risks.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:18:19 PM   
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to show dominance in conversations with women you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them

Your choice of words here make you sound like a complete ass about yourself... when compared to...

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i think a lot of people are exaggerating how disrespectful i am to girls, i'm talking about little things like for example, i'll help a girl with her chemistry and make her feel a little dumb, but i still helped her right? or telling a girl her six in heels look really confortable and then challenge her to a foot race, or commanding girls to bring me food while im studying. these things show dominance, they are kinda dick but its all fun.


Everybody reading your post can only respond to the impressions of your own words.  In terms of having girls bring you food and doing things for you, it gives them a sense of being useful and needed.  This is really not making fun or humilition or anything negative.   Also helping girls with chemistry homework you taking hold of things and guiding them, challenging them to think more and not be lazy or taking homework for granted.  You are promoting the use of their mind or brain.  This might appear you or trying to make her feel a little dumb.  However, this is an effective method to sort of shaming them into using their mind more.  Hence what you are really doing is building them up for their own good and not tearing them down.   In terms of complimenting a girl in 6 inch heels but pointing out how impractical it can be, is also making them think more.  A sort of lesson in making a girl think in practical terms instead of dressing in a manner to impress the world.  Again, an example of something positive and not negative.  Yes, you are clearly picking at flaws.  Yes, making fun of them even.  You are doing things to bring their ass back down to earth and wake them up.   

In terms of doing these things, yes I believe Dom should show dominance everywhere within reason.  I myself do these same things, however getting laid is not my motivation behind doing these things.  There have been many times when I could have got laid, but what's the point to just getting laid?  I think many people couple BDSM and SEX together too tightly at times.  You don't have to get laid to prove that you exerted dominance.  Hell, just having a girl bring you food while you were studying can be the means in the end without the sex. 

The title of this thread is "Doms should show dominance everywhere", and my answer would be yes within reason.  However your opening post sounds more like the title should have been "Doms should dom and fuck every women they can", and my personal answer to this is simply No.

Again, I think you have a strong connection in your mind between Sex and BDSM.  

If you want to exert showing dominance everywhere with everybody, try doing the same things with male friendships or aquaitences.  This clearly decouples Sex from the picture and you can show dominance everywhere. 

Being Dom should mean a hell of a lot more then how many babes you can bang in bed...

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some of my girls do want more from me than just sex, i try and accomodate that too. it does come around to bite me in the ass sometimes but whatever, it comes with the territory and 20 year old girls love drama anyway. i try to keep my relationships as fun and as light hearted as possible so no one gets attached. i think grief and attachment may be linked. fun is a little more single serving..


At least shows you are somewhat aware of things...

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:51:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: myobedience

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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Ohhhhhhhhhhhh, come on Irish...say it...

LOL nope, sorry CD...I have actually been a very very good girl on these here boards in the last couple days and I don't plan to wreck it now

though I will admit that with his new postings, it is getting harder and harder to bite my tongue.


Yes, I have noticed you have NOT been as cruel, mean and ugly as you were last week...last month or 3 months ago..... 
I often wondered why you had such a need to be mean, cruel and ugly.
If I were that way, I would be miserable and have absoultely NO friends..and who the crap wants to be that way..to drive people away instead of being the sweetness that draws the honorable?

I am sure that you have heard the phrase 'fuck you' before, right?



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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:52:35 PM   
minnetar


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Status: offline 		Read all the posts and hopefully learn from them.  D/s is not about sex it is much more powerful than that.  You are just manipulating a situation in order to gain sexual gratification.  There are a number of younger Doms here that have given you great advice.  Try and use it.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:00:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

...  this is one boy that needs to receive a "Come to Jesus" major strapon session .


Raises hand and volunteers!  ^5's to you LotusSong


Yeeeeee-ha!  I love double teaming!  The first one to make him cry get's a Hershy bar!!  (Do want to take the front or the back..?)


Oh, for sure the front *WIDE EVIL GRIN* I bet it won't be usable again for some time.  

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:04:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		hey, junior, go back to the playground and let the real adults talk for awhile!  

you couldn't even attempt to have your way with a real woman like me even if you tried.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:09:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		"SNIP"VASDEF187 " to show dominance in conversations with women you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them. if you can do this in a light hearted playful manner girls will want you to fuck them. "

Who moved the rock and let this fucker out?????bounty

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 5:16:26 PM   
MadRabbit


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Status: offline 		You know...I cant really be THAT hard on the guy...

Because...when I was 17-19, the only thing I really cared about was getting layed.

I grew up and like to think I am a pretty decent guy. I would hope that people who know me from my posts think the same.

The funny thing is that the majority of men were the exact way at that age.

Hell, half the guys I work with and know have more or less the same philosophy on life.

So...is really what he's posting here that huge of atrocity or that big of a surprise?

Oh my god...a kid who only cares about sex....never heard of that before!

Most of the time, I dont disagree when everyone on Collarme.com puts on their high hats and readies the pitchforks and torches for a mob like public roasting.

But...really...can we come back down to Earth a little bit on this one?




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