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RE: Aura of violence - 12/25/2007 8:17:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		interesting question level.....the answer is yes, it surprised me, saddened me and excited me to find myself deeply aroused by a man who in a deep intimate cuddle mentioned that he wanted to break my jaw.

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/25/2007 8:51:58 PM   
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Something IrishMist said in another thread caught my eye.
 
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I am attracted to the aura of violence that a man has about him.

 
Any thoughts on this?
 
*thanks for the thread idea, IM *


Yup..... I just don't find the aura of violence in a man attactive to me....

I am not sure what doesn't do it for me the most..... the violence part or the man part....

I don't find a Peaceful Man to be attractive

and

I don't find a Violent woman to be attractive...

it's really quite the problem

....  PS... I have believe myself to have an aura of a peaceful man... yes it's sad... I don't get me hot and bothered and wanna fuck when I look at me...  I have to depend on other ummm special girls for that.

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/25/2007 8:58:43 PM   
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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 4:24:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I posted this on another thread before this one went up, but I think it fits. It is a generalization about submissives, but an aspect I've noticed.

Many submissives have an aspect where they want dangerous extreme pain and fear, but they also have a practical, careful side of self preservation and never let a Dom do such things.

This level headedness doesn’t stop the desire for a guy who is going to really do things to them they don’t want and can’t take. The desire may only be held to the fantasy realm, but if a trusted, sadistic Dom is able to carefully give that extreme beating every now and then beyond the usual play the masochistic submissive is going to reach another level of fantasy fulfillment and satisfaction. She looks at him in a more exciting way and bonds with him strongly. This play beyond her comfort zone is a valuable part of the relationship. Even if he is not always taking her past her limits, the knowledge that he can and will on occasion is a powerful tool.


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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 7:12:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		An aura of violence, I don't find that very attractive.  An aura of meaness, that is what I like.  I don't want to be abused, especially violently.  But being hurt, yes, although I don't enjoy pain, when I replay past experiences, the ones that caused me pain are the ones that stand out in my mind.  I sort of go along with it, thinking that I can't really control where my mind likes to replay and there must be a reason it goes there.  So for me a guy who isn't a sadist, yet gets some enjoyment out of being mean and creating some hurt, that's pretty good.

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 7:32:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

An aura of violence, I don't find that very attractive.  An aura of meaness, that is what I like.  I don't want to be abused, especially violently.  But being hurt, yes, although I don't enjoy pain, when I replay past experiences, the ones that caused me pain are the ones that stand out in my mind.  I sort of go along with it, thinking that I can't really control where my mind likes to replay and there must be a reason it goes there.  So for me a guy who isn't a sadist, yet gets some enjoyment out of being mean and creating some hurt, that's pretty good.


Could you explain this more, Katy?

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 7:37:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

Something IrishMist said in another thread caught my eye.
 
quote:

I am attracted to the aura of violence that a man has about him.

 
Any thoughts on this?
 
*thanks for the thread idea, IM *


Yup..... I just don't find the aura of violence in a man attactive to me....

I am not sure what doesn't do it for me the most..... the violence part or the man part....

I don't find a Peaceful Man to be attractive

and

I don't find a Violent woman to be attractive...

it's really quite the problem

....  PS... I have believe myself to have an aura of a peaceful man... yes it's sad... I don't get me hot and bothered and wanna fuck when I look at me...  I have to depend on other ummm special girls for that.




I hope you and yours had a good holiday, Knight.

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 7:43:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

An aura of violence, I don't find that very attractive.  An aura of meaness, that is what I like.  I don't want to be abused, especially violently.  But being hurt, yes, although I don't enjoy pain, when I replay past experiences, the ones that caused me pain are the ones that stand out in my mind.  I sort of go along with it, thinking that I can't really control where my mind likes to replay and there must be a reason it goes there.  So for me a guy who isn't a sadist, yet gets some enjoyment out of being mean and creating some hurt, that's pretty good.


Could you explain this more, Katy?

Not answering for Katy here but I think my view may be similar.
I am not capable of physically defending myself.  If I meet a man with an ‘aura of violence’ I walk away because an ‘aura’ suggests to me that he is not able to rein in his sadism.
I prefer “Clark Kent”, mild mannered on the outside; emerging from the phone booth with a capital S (for Sadist) when the time is right.  A tingle of fear can be arousing, terror is not. 


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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 7:57:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know how to explain it more fully.  Sadists scare the fuck out of me, because I know I can't handle major pain (of any sort, physical, emotional, mental).  Yet I want to be hurt enough so I have something to "get through" and can "feel good about tolerating".  I want something uncomfortable to submit to.  Hurt is arousing, but not too much hurt.
KatyLied = lightweight.



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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 8:44:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

An aura of violence, I don't find that very attractive.  An aura of meaness, that is what I like.  I don't want to be abused, especially violently.  But being hurt, yes, although I don't enjoy pain, when I replay past experiences, the ones that caused me pain are the ones that stand out in my mind.  I sort of go along with it, thinking that I can't really control where my mind likes to replay and there must be a reason it goes there.  So for me a guy who isn't a sadist, yet gets some enjoyment out of being mean and creating some hurt, that's pretty good.

That's interesting Katy. I have never thought to look at it as meaness instead of violence...though, the violent 'abuse' is really what gets my juices flowing ...but, meaness....well fuck...the two together just seem so....right........

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 8:49:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

An aura of violence, I don't find that very attractive.  An aura of meaness, that is what I like.  I don't want to be abused, especially violently.  But being hurt, yes, although I don't enjoy pain, when I replay past experiences, the ones that caused me pain are the ones that stand out in my mind.  I sort of go along with it, thinking that I can't really control where my mind likes to replay and there must be a reason it goes there.  So for me a guy who isn't a sadist, yet gets some enjoyment out of being mean and creating some hurt, that's pretty good.

That's interesting Katy. I have never thought to look at it as meaness instead of violence...though, the violent 'abuse' is really what gets my juices flowing ...but, meaness....well fuck...the two together just seem so....right........


I have it on personal knowledge from past girlfriends who were kinky.....that out of control anger was a bad thing-but that a steady ornery streak could be a *good thing*.

I used to have a somewhat bratty girl who would get sarcastic when I was looking for things....and say "If it was up your ass, you'd know!!!

Which was very inspiring....I developed and made a locking leather hip belt and crotch strap, just for her.  I love being sarcastic, she knew!



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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 9:18:15 AM   
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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 9:43:14 AM   
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that out of control anger was a bad thing-but that a steady ornery streak could be a *good thing*.

Now see...I actually ENJOY out of control anger....LMAO...lots of punching, kicking, hitting.............dayum...yummy

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 10:21:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		His "aura of violence" has to be tempered with an "aura of restraint" and the sense to know how to blend the two so that one or both of us don't end up in jail and/or ER., or the attraction wanes---FAST.
the interrogation/medical issues/edgeplay interaction with the authorities and ER staff isn't anything this slave is interested in experiencing.

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 10:48:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		my Trainer/Master didn't have the "aura of violence" when i met Him. It was thru much conversation, learning and my love of "marks" that He told me that He can be cruel/demanding. His "Cruel/demanding" persona definitely can get violent, but it's always discussed beforehand when He's in the mood for a more "violent" session or when i screw up but again, He'll let me know i'm to be punished accordingly and He won't be gentle.  His loving/caring persona definitely outweighs His cruel/demanding one but as LA said, it's definitely the caramel ribbon on the proverbial cake. (Paraphrasing some, my apologies LA)  Know matter what His mood is for the current session at hand, He could be at His most "violent", i never get scared and always know i'm safe.

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 11:02:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: catize

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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

An aura of violence, I don't find that very attractive.  An aura of meaness, that is what I like.  I don't want to be abused, especially violently.  But being hurt, yes, although I don't enjoy pain, when I replay past experiences, the ones that caused me pain are the ones that stand out in my mind.  I sort of go along with it, thinking that I can't really control where my mind likes to replay and there must be a reason it goes there.  So for me a guy who isn't a sadist, yet gets some enjoyment out of being mean and creating some hurt, that's pretty good.


Could you explain this more, Katy?

Not answering for Katy here but I think my view may be similar.
I am not capable of physically defending myself.  If I meet a man with an ‘aura of violence’ I walk away because an ‘aura’ suggests to me that he is not able to rein in his sadism.
I prefer “Clark Kent”, mild mannered on the outside; emerging from the phone booth with a capital S (for Sadist) when the time is right.  A tingle of fear can be arousing, terror is not. 


What gives you the "tingle of fear"?

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 11:04:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I don't know how to explain it more fully.  Sadists scare the fuck out of me, because I know I can't handle major pain (of any sort, physical, emotional, mental).  Yet I want to be hurt enough so I have something to "get through" and can "feel good about tolerating".  I want something uncomfortable to submit to.  Hurt is arousing, but not too much hurt.
KatyLied = lightweight.






This "hurt", is it purely physical, or emotional, or both?

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 11:05:48 AM   
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That's interesting Katy. I have never thought to look at it as meaness instead of violence...though, the violent 'abuse' is really what gets my juices flowing ...but, meaness....well fuck...the two together just seem so....right........


Like peanut butter and chocolate??

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 11:10:47 AM   
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His "aura of violence" has to be tempered with an "aura of restraint" and the sense to know how to blend the two so that one or both of us don't end up in jail and/or ER., or the attraction wanes---FAST.
the interrogation/medical issues/edgeplay interaction with the authorities and ER staff isn't anything this slave is interested in experiencing.



Hi beth. I'm thinking that your view is the majority one, and finding a partner that meshes well with you, knows how to "heat the dish" without "burning it", is the key.

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RE: Aura of violence - 12/26/2007 11:12:56 AM   
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my Trainer/Master didn't have the "aura of violence" when i met Him. It was thru much conversation, learning and my love of "marks" that He told me that He can be cruel/demanding. His "Cruel/demanding" persona definitely can get violent, but it's always discussed beforehand when He's in the mood for a more "violent" session or when i screw up but again, He'll let me know i'm to be punished accordingly and He won't be gentle.  His loving/caring persona definitely outweighs His cruel/demanding one but as LA said, it's definitely the caramel ribbon on the proverbial cake. (Paraphrasing some, my apologies LA)  Know matter what His mood is for the current session at hand, He could be at His most "violent", i never get scared and always know i'm safe.


*emphasis added*

Good post

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