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Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 2:09:00 AM

NewMaster86

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As a sub/slave (which I am neither) how important is it to you to be attracted to your Dom/Master physically?

I only ask because I feel as though I've been judged alot on my appearance by what few sub's I've approached and its been really bothering me.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 2:17:40 AM

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It is vital for me - but then this sub can spend hours just gazing at her Master whilst thinking how beautiful he is. The thing is, another woman might think he's not attractive at all .. and that I am out of my tiny mind for swooning over him.

There is someone for everyone. Beauty, like art, is subjective - and as the old saying goes 'in the eye of the beholder'.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 3:32:49 AM

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Chemistry is very important to me...and attraction is apart of that.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 3:43:26 AM

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Physical attraction is my first filter. I have to be physically attracted to someone to even want to find out if there's any kind of chemistry at all.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 3:56:47 AM

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i am a person who goes on intellect first, for me sometimes physical attraction grows from intellectual stimulation. i have been with some guys when at first i didn't think they were good looking at all but when i got to know them i found them more appealing and very attractive.
It all boils down to the indivual though and different strokes for different folks.it all boils down to what is attractive to the person, and it's not just a sub thing its a people thing

Sadly most people do base things on looks, especially online where it is easy to forget someone even existed or is a real person behind the screen. But hopefully you will find someone interested in you and what you have to offer. Good luck

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 4:01:58 AM

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even the most beautiful person can be the ugliest while the ugliest person can be the most beautiful

for me it's about compatiablity, chemistry, and the inner beauty then the rest falls into place - the outward physical beauty is probably somewhere in the middle of my list.

if i can honestly admit i'm not one of the "beautiful" people (which i truly feel i'm not), then i can give someone who's not physically attractive a chance.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 4:09:11 AM

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For me it is about physical attraction. It's hard to go forward in a relationship of any kind if you aren't attracted to them

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 4:31:52 AM

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i agree 100 percent.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 4:38:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Physical attraction is my first filter. I have to be physically attracted to someone to even want to find out if there's any kind of chemistry at all.

/agrees-wholeheartedly

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 5:08:37 AM

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quote:

As a sub/slave (which I am neither) how important is it to you to be attracted to your Dom/Master physically?

Extremely important; just as it is important in almost any relationship

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 5:09:12 AM

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Physical attraction, for me, is never instant; it's something that developes.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 5:09:46 AM

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The seductive thing is that the closer you get to someone, the more interesting they usually are.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 5:14:56 AM

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I don't see why subs aren't attracted to you. You look fine to me.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 5:28:06 AM

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It's very important to me to be physically attracted to my Dominant, but chemistry has to be there also. Without chemistry, there is no relationship for me.

I checked out your profile before answering and you said that your pic was 2 or 3 years old and that you were working on getting an updated one. You're young, which means your pic is you at 18 or so. You may want to update it, just so any potential matches know who they're speaking with!

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 6:20:31 AM

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I think much depends on what it is your looking for.
Chemistry in a Font doesnt always lead to Chemistry in the Flesh.
It seems that some are happy at the Font level and keeping things online.
Although if your looking for Real Time that Chemistry will usually be needed in the Flesh too.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 6:32:59 AM

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 7:12:48 AM

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For me, physical attraction is very important to me, but it's only what opens the door. Most people aren't going to think Mistress is attractive because She's either plus-sized or gothic, but to me, that is what I find sexiest about Her. I don't care if other people find Her attractive. She is a goddess to me and that should be all that matters. She can put on weight or dye Her hair a funky color, but I would love Her no loess and still look at Her as the mos beautiful woman in the world.

A lot of dommes don't think I'm attractive. I'm not a stud built like an NFL linebacker with muscles on top of muscles, I'm not an effeminate male sub, nor do I have long, flowing hair that most women swoon over. I don't care about what others think of me. If some ladies think I'm cute or attractive, that's great. If not, I'm not losing any sleep over it. Mistress makes me feel like the most beautiful and desired slave on earth, and last I checked, Her opinion is all that matters.

NewMaster86, relax, my friend. Make friends on the forums and put yourself out here. This is a good way for the ladies to see not only a picture or profile, but to read your opinions and thoughts. That is the best exposure possible, to me. So contribute to the forums and show your true side. Look at it as free advertisement. You'll find someone out here if you put forth the effort, trust me.

Good luck and happy hunting!

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 7:19:13 AM

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I believe there there to be a certain level of attraction between the two, regardless of whether the general public deems either one as attractive. As an old European maxim goes: There's a cover for every pot. And I'll add that there's probably many more than one!

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 7:19:23 AM

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OP, I am going to go out on a limb and make an assumption that you may not be asking and if so, sorry, but if I am right, it will help you since you say you are new to all this.

As everyone has stated, physical attraction is first step towards chemistry, for most. In all types of relationship, vanilla or otherwise.

I got, from your question, that you may, as others have from posts in the past, erroneously thought that because we are Dom/subs, there may be a different set of standards applied in our pursuit of each other.

Otherwise, I would not see why you would ask the question of attraction, knowing that all humans have preferences.

Being a submissive woman does not lessen the need to be physically attracted to a Dom anymore than a vanilla woman to her boyfriend.

There is enough variance in levels of attraction in this world and most everyone has someone who is attracted to them, so keep trying, but don't assume that it is not important, and most importantly, that it is less importanat in D/s.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 7:21:38 AM

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Mental attraction has, and always will, trump physical attraction for me. My Owner is, in my eyes, the most beautiful woman walking God's green Earth, but her mind is what I love the most about her...hands down. She can keep up with me in a conversation...she's got an amazing sense of humor. She's just as intelligent as I am, and moreso on a few things. When can spend hours talking about stuff.

Mental attraction is much, much more preferrable to me.

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