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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/30/2008 4:33:34 PM

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Years ago while still in high school had the chance to know a certain girl, she had that disfiguring form of acne that actually roots itself into the bone. The scars that it produced upon her face made her the subject of many a tease. They used to call her ET, but she always replied Extra Terrific with a smile that followed. She was a very beautiful person inside with the personality that could knock over a mule.
Heard about her years later, since no one would date her in high school, eventually she made honors, found her self a very well paying place of employment that enabled her to get surgery. Now she is a 5' beauty, smart as a whip and witty, with the personality that can still knock over a mule.
Appearances are a deceiving illusion.
Sometimes however someone comes along that you do not even notice their appearance, because their true beauty is on the inside. Like so many have stated here in their profiles, the largest sexual organ is the mind. I certainly believe this.

There is something I know about. People become beautiful to you often from the inside out. It's when you are positive you know a true personality.

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Maybe some women weren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they are suppose to run wild until they find someone just as wild to run with. Sex and the City

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/30/2008 5:34:23 PM

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for me it's not physical that attracks me but personality... you could look like vin desil but have a ugly personality I wont touch you with a 10 ft pole.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/30/2008 11:13:38 PM

needlesplease

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Yes, there has to be some attraction there for me, but it doesn't neccesarily need to be a stomach bending experience upon first sight. I fell in love once with a man I thought to be just 'alright' in the physical attraction department, but his self confidence, intelligence and lack of drama were what made me go ga-ga. However, I would have never showed up for the first date had there not been something there in the way of attraction.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/31/2008 12:21:53 PM

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When it comes to male submissives, I could not care less what they look like because we do nothing physically sexual. My male subs more often take the role of "toys" in My life, I never feel sexual attraction to them, even if both of us are getting sexual thrills from the scene. If the experience they have to offer is strong enough, I can see past anything physical.

For female subs, I have slightly less rigid requirements then I would put on a girl if I'm looking for a girlfriend. Since the act is suddenly incredibly sexual for Me I require certain things, like at least 3 inches shorter, cute face, takes care of her body, clean, no drug users, etc. for the relationship to go anywhere. That's just human nature though, we like to look at nice things, especially when we are looking down (or up) at them.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/1/2009 8:44:08 AM

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mental/emotional attraction is more important to me. thinking back on *every* partner i have had since i became an adult, each one of them has been what many would call flawed. too short, too much height difference, too heavy, bad teeth, balding, poor, married (not so much an issue when both parties are openly poly, but still), too thin, too much an age difference.

but i've obviously found something wonderful in each of them, or i wouldnt have gotten involved with them, you know? (or my tastes are just weird.

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TheEngineer, for example. i teasingly call him a were-bear. or make sounds like i'm coughing up a hairball if we're snuggling. it *was* a mental issue at first glance, but he's such a lovely OMG-intelligent person, that after a while it just didnt register. now it only registers when i'm cleaning the shower, or the lint trap in the dryer.

for me, beauty of the person isnt dependent on what their outsides look like. and its a good thing for this short, fat, 45-yr-old, health-impaired woman that the ones who love/have loved me feel the same way, too. (unlike the 22 year old sub male who informed me that the photos on my profile, and indeed the profile itself, were "gay". hee!)

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/1/2009 9:58:55 AM

alandraofMists

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ORIGINAL: NewMaster86

As a sub/slave (which I am neither) how important is it to you to be attracted to your Dom/Master physically?

I only ask because I feel as though I've been judged alot on my appearance by what few sub's I've approached and its been really bothering me.

For myself, it is not so much about how you look, it is how you carry yourself, present your self and your self confidence. I do not have any preference for who I am attracted to, it is all about the attitude and charactor stengths you have as a person.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/1/2009 11:22:23 AM

MasterTslave

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I must say that I was very attracted to Master T from the get go...and I still am. I will say tho...I have gone out with many guys that were very handsome...beautiful even...but the one that was the most handsome (in a model way) was one of the most self centered jerks I have ever met...I think that I went out with him just because he was beautiful and it made other girls jealous. Sad, but I admit, I have had my very shallow points in my life. I am just glad that I now have a Master that is both beautiful on the inside and the outside. I agree with other posts...to each his own..one person's beauty is another's trash.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/1/2009 11:41:38 AM

MasterLark

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TemptingNviceSub -- best answer so far. It's the presence of the person that attracts at the end of the day -- or not -- however that presence is expressed.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/2/2009 10:58:42 AM

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I was attracted to my Master before i even met him. Through our e mail and through the phone espicially. I liked his sense of humor, his confidence ans well heck everything about him. Looks don't really mean that much to me. I happened to be lucky Master is the most handsome man i know and he also has a great personillity. Master is the same way he wanted me as his before we even met face to face because he likes my personalitty. He also thinks i am beautiful.

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