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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/22/2008 12:09:56 PM   
rikki105


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Status: offline 		Something that's important to me about profiles, in terms of appearance, is that I'm imagining that the gentleman is trying to post a photo in which he looks his BEST.  He's thinking that a woman may be reading his profile and looking at his picture and trying to make a decision on whether to contact him or not. 

So when I see a picture where the guy is not looking so hot, or where the picture is not flattering, I begin to wonder - Is that the best he's got?  It can only go downhill from here, right?

If the guy is working his style, got his best foot forward, grooming, clothing, and setting is on point, and looking to make a good impression, that's what I'm looking for.  Personally I prefer the skinny kind with dark hair and big noses, but a well-groomed, big blond would have just as much of a chance with me - now that I've gotten past the outside features, it's time to check his profile more thoroughly.

This applies to the ladies, too.  Even when you're not *trying*, you still need to look your best.  Example:  I'm now going out, just to the grocery store.  I have on overalls with a decent hoodie underneath.  Color-coordinated eyeglasses.  Lip gloss and earrings.  A nice day coat, not a fugly parka, and a cute purse.  Now, the chances of meeting a man who wants to dominate and discipline me at the grocery store are fairly low.  But still, if I did meet one, he would know that I liked myself and respected myself enough to dress decently for the public as a whole.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/22/2008 12:59:07 PM   
Feliciasub


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Status: offline 		on my profile i have a note that says:
 
i think mental and physical attractions are important and one does not go without the other. Meaning that i have to be physically AND intellectualy attracted to my partner ( Boyfriend/ Dom )

Should i say more ?

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/22/2008 3:47:27 PM   
boytoyinatlanta


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Status: offline 		it's not really important because i don't sexually get involved with tops...as long as i am getting my ass beat i could care less what you look like...if i really need sex then i will chase after vanilla women or switchy women....it's ridiculous to think that bdsm means yeah i am suppose to fuck you.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/22/2008 4:36:20 PM   
Aszhrae


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Status: offline 		Years ago while still in high school had the chance to know a certain girl, she had that disfiguring form of acne that actually roots itself into the bone. The scars that it produced upon her face made her the subject of many a tease. They used to call her ET, but she always replied Extra Terrific with a smile that followed. She was a very beautiful person inside with the personality that could knock over a mule.
Heard about her years later, since no one would date her in high school, eventually she made honors, found her self a very well paying place of employment that enabled her to get surgery. Now she is a 5' beauty, smart as a whip and witty, with the personality that can still knock over a mule.
Appearances are a deceiving illusion.
Sometimes however someone comes along that you do not even notice their appearance, because their true beauty is on the inside. Like so many have stated here in their profiles, the largest sexual organ is the mind. I certainly believe this.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/22/2008 5:20:54 PM   
mummyman321


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Status: offline 		For me, I am more interested in the person's personality than I am on looks. And that is a change for me compared to when I first got involved into the scene. Now I am more focused on finding out if a potential partner has similar interests/values as me. Stimulates my mind and well as me stimulating thier mind. I am not sure if I can really put into words the personality traits and values I seek. But if those items are there then looks does not matter to me.

I have to laugh at the profiles that demand you send a picture with your initital email. That statement alone tells me that person it not for me. I would rather a person look at me interests first than a picture of me. But everyone is entitled to their own wants/desires.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/22/2008 5:25:37 PM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		they just have to be funny and smart and sexy for me to want them. Sexy is something that you know when you see it but its hard to define.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/24/2008 9:32:52 PM   
RiotDoll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Physical attraction is my first filter.  I have to be physically attracted to someone to even want to find out if there's any kind of chemistry at all.

This, but I don't hold to mainstream standards of attractiveness either. If I can't stand to look at (or smell, hygiene is a biggie and poor hygiene generally comes with poor physical attributes, though not vice versa) the person, how am I supposed to stand being intimate and waking up with the person?

It's just a filter, though. Attraction in general can increase or decrease with interaction.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/25/2008 1:07:22 PM   
brownbutterfly


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Status: offline 		sambamansligirl I agree with you about even the most beautiful can be ugly and vice versa.

A  person can be the most beautiful physically but have an ugly personality. I am not saying physical looks do not matter to me but I like to get know what the person has to offer me intellectual as well.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/26/2008 12:21:20 PM   
panthersub


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Status: offline 		i base some of my looking fors on physical attraction, but it's not all that important to me. Just have a nice smile and good breath and i can look past anything else. Like you, though i'm a sub, some of the guys that i've talked with on here and other sites, don't like what they see. Oh well. Just need to move on.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/27/2008 7:22:46 AM   
Arillis


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Status: offline 		For me it is as much about stylish grooming, in vogue stunning attires, and the aura surrounding them, as it is shapeliness and features. Long before the first spoken word, the magnetism is there or it is not.  
One who is impeccable in grooming tells me more about their love of self, how they hold themselves in esteem, and the projection of what is the content of their character. One glance tells me more then all their intellectualized words string together. The fragrance they adorn themselves with speak loudly too.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/28/2008 1:54:07 AM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		It's very important to me,I have to be physically attracted to my Dominant.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/28/2008 4:08:53 PM   
kdmfl


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Status: offline 		Self confidence is very attractive to me as well as physical appearance

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/28/2008 6:35:25 PM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		Call me shallow....hell, I call myself shallow.... but looks are number one.Confidence is good but it isn't going to make me wet.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/28/2008 7:29:52 PM   
Trampledblue


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Status: offline 		I don't know if looks are #1, but yes they're very important, at least to me.  It isn't just the face or eyes, but the entire body for me.  I'm not super picky though, obviously mannerisms, confidence, voice, all play a factor as well.  They're average looking women who I find very attractive because of the way they carry themselves.  I do feel shallow at times because I really don't give big girls a chance, if the girl is fit and not over 45 I'm probably attracted to her.  :)

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/28/2008 8:25:25 PM   
parakeet89


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Status: offline 		It's important to a degree. It's not like I have to think they're the most amazingly handsome man on the planet, but there has to be some kind of attraction there. The wonderful thing about attraction though is that there's someone out there for everyone.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/28/2008 10:16:13 PM   
devotedinSD


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quote:

ORIGINAL: boytoyinatlanta

it's not really important because i don't sexually get involved with tops...as long as i am getting my ass beat i could care less what you look like...if i really need sex then i will chase after vanilla women or switchy women....it's ridiculous to think that bdsm means yeah i am suppose to fuck you.


You're thinking from a man's perspective, non sexual relationships between female subs and male dominants are not as common as with male subs and female dominants. There is nothing ridiculous about it.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/28/2008 10:57:10 PM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		I know that a lot of  Dommes do not have sex with the bottom but if its a Pro Domme I would hope you get yourself a pretty one.Why pay for someone ugly to top?


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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/29/2008 1:03:26 AM   
JustDarkness


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BondageBarbieX

I know that a lot of  Dommes do not have sex with the bottom but if its a Pro Domme I would hope you get yourself a pretty one.Why pay for someone ugly to top?





lol good point..and there flow some pretty ones around on CM

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/30/2008 1:52:30 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		I can name quite a few Dominants that may or may not be considered physically attractive,but are highly appealing all the same, because they have a way of expressing or being that I find stimulating and frankly "HOT" and thus attractive to me in all manners of who they are, including appearance.Tempting

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 12/30/2008 2:36:13 PM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		I have encountered a few dominas who are not beauties, who may have a few years on them, but they are still very sexy and hot.  A super sexy persona and dominant personality can transform a six into  a ten.

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