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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 2:44:07 PM

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Ladder Theory

thank you...does it mean you declared me a nutcase ;)

Neah just curious why you advise it to me :P

http://www.laddertheory.com/

this one?

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 2:45:58 PM

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Oh, wasn't to you, was to the OP, lol, but yes, that is it... Darn Quick Reply.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 2:47:53 PM

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lol gonna check it out anyway

saw the word "fuck" a lott beeing mentioned haha

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 2:56:12 PM

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Frankly, I've never thought Myself at all attractive; I actually think I look like a hound-dog. But I don't dwell on it, because I've never lacked for companionship and never had difficulties in relationships...although that hasn't come without effort. I firmly believe that not only should one keep oneself physically healthy, one must also continually and rigourously exercise the mind-- and a commanding, Dominant mind is universally attractive.

Having said that, from My perspective, only an extraordinary person could possibly be a Master at age 21. I frankly cannot imagine how one so young could attain the understanding, wisdom and life experience required to Master others.

Finally, your words reek of self-doubt and self-centeredness, both antithetical to attraction.

You've already been given the benefit of excellent advice by others. I'll just add that you should spend significant time first mastering yourself...and strengthen your mind. Learn five languages. Study poetry. Become the world's foremost authority on something (it matters not the subject-- just pick anything that you love, no matter how esoteric). And remember that Rome itself was not built in a day; nothing worthwhile comes easy; and you shouldn't expect to become God's Gift to Submissives overnight-- or in a month.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 2:56:32 PM

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The ladder thing is the funniest thing I have read all day. And it is all true!!!!

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 2:58:29 PM

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-bows- And that, my dear, is my peace offering to you.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 3:02:11 PM

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I am Fat and ugly and jewish

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 3:04:46 PM

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-bows- And that, my dear, is my peace offering to you.

-curtsies- And that, was such a gracious thing to say, that I accept. Humor is a wonderful way to go!!

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 4:09:19 PM

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The ladder thing is the funniest thing I have read all day. And it is all true!!!!

I love the ladder theory. David D'Angelo is another read along the same line.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 6:41:23 PM

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Physical attraction is important to me, that's not to say that I have this cookie cutter image and if someone doesn't fit it they're out. I've been attracted to many men (mannnnnnny

) and none of them look the same. Their characteristics may be similar (most of them anyway) but their physical appearance is unique. I suppose that's why I've been so fortunate to have had such great relationships with several men over the years, I don't seek a specific look, it could be their eyes, smile, bod, or the over all package.... I just happened to luck out when it comes to my Sir.... He's got it all!!

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 8:01:22 PM

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Its important to have chemistry..with anyone..Everyone is judged by their appearance...i get rudely hit on just because i am a redhead...and come on if a leaper approached you ..would you be attracted???The trick to it is seeing the beautiful in people ...beyond...beautiful, fat, grey hair, skinny, small penis, huge boobs...etc...good or bad...its all in the eyes of the beholder..keep your chin up...youll find someone...:)Pamela

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 8:47:05 PM

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i love Ladder Theory! That should be in Psych/Bio Books all over the place!
(sorry to interupt the thread)

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 9:59:43 PM

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Ladder Theory is possibly the ONLY cure for the "I just want to be friends" speech. It should be required reading, because it can be applied virtually anywhere.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/28/2008 10:17:29 PM

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For me it is vital. I wish to look good and hope that my Master finds pleasure in my apperance, but i cannot imagine any Master being thrilled with the prospect of me looking at him and not being filled with lust, awe, adorationa and, of course respect. i think there MUST be some level of physical attraction

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/29/2008 2:21:05 PM

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Physical attraction comes and goes. A man can be the most beautiful person I've seen, but when he opens his mouth, his physical beauty fades rapidly. Then there is someone not conventially attractive, but whose mind is stunningly beautiful. Suddenly, he has become a thousand times more attractive! For me, it is the intellect, and everything that goes with it that makes someone beautiful, everything else turns to dust. If a man cannot stimulate me mentally, there is no way I could submit to him. I must respect a man before I can belong to him.

There does have to be some physical attraction, but I believe the importance of it is highly overrated.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/29/2008 2:49:01 PM

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I am Fat and ugly and jewish

well...i always liked Jewish guys, myself...and saw your pic...dammit if You were a Dom, i'd soooo wanna jump ya!(winks)

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/29/2008 2:53:34 PM

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lol how can one like "Jewish guys"? I am sure they don't look all alike...lol..aren't they individuals too

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/29/2008 3:02:41 PM

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As a sub/slave (which I am neither) how important is it to you to be attracted to your Dom/Master physically?

I only ask because I feel as though I've been judged alot on my appearance by what few sub's I've approached and its been really bothering me.

You need a thicker skin. People only judge you on what you are willing to be judged on.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/29/2008 3:04:17 PM

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well, i'm from Long Island NY, and we have a large Jewish population...many Jewish guys are smart, funny, and have "Chutzpah"...always enjoyed their company...it was more a "hug" to bschwimmer...since some girls like his type....alot.

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RE: Importance of Physical Attraction? - 1/29/2008 5:06:23 PM

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As a sub/slave (which I am neither) how important is it to you to be attracted to your Dom/Master physically?

I'm not a sub/slave but physical attraction is important to me. I am attracted to a wide variety of shapes, sizes and looks but there still has to be a visual attraction or things go nowhere.

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