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RE: Aftercare...is it necessary? - 3/2/2008 8:28:47 PM

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um this goes back to the child parent thingy but some are like that wamb bam thank you subbie thingy shrugs. then some go what if they want that to be treated bad

I have to say to them get some prozac and be happy lol

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RE: Aftercare...is it necessary? - 3/3/2008 2:58:20 AM

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Me and my Sir always do after care or our form of it. We go to the quiet room and just relax for a bit usually shareing a drink and smokeing. Rarely I need to eat after a scene, And Sir usually knows before we are finished if I will need food after or not and tends to keep a stock of salty foods around for me (I CRAVE potatoe chips after a heavy scene weird huh?)

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RE: Aftercare...is it necessary? - 3/3/2008 3:36:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey

Me and my Sir always do after care or our form of it. We go to the quiet room and just relax for a bit usually shareing a drink and smokeing. Rarely I need to eat after a scene, And Sir usually knows before we are finished if I will need food after or not and tends to keep a stock of salty foods around for me (I CRAVE potatoe chips after a heavy scene weird huh?)

Actually not too weird... A person tends to crave what the body needs...and chips have carbs and potassium(salt)....after heavy play thats exactly what your body needs

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RE: Aftercare...is it necessary? - 3/3/2008 3:11:13 PM

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I am a switch and aftercare is extremely important to me, both as a submissive and as a Dominant.

As a submissive, when my trust has been earned to such an extent that I'm willing to play with a Domme, I loose myself fairly easily. Laying on the ground in my most vunerable state, and having a Domme who's willing to anchor me to earth long enough for me to start putting myself back together is extremely important. It shows me that despite how tired they might be they still see my submission is the precious gift that it is.

As a Dom I view it as very irresponcible to simply cut your submissive off at the end of a scene. While I'm certain there are submissives out there who don't want aftercare because it ruins the end of the scene, I have never met one in real life. Reminding your sub/bottom/slave that their gift of submission is precious to you is vital to deepening the relationship.

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RE: Aftercare...is it necessary? - 3/3/2008 9:31:28 PM

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I think that aftercare is not always necissary, and it depends both on how people themselves deal with sessions and how the sessions themselves go.

I personally, being quite new to it, find that its an emotional rollercoaster after a session, depending on the circumstances. There was one session in which I had to travel a significant amount of distance (as in several hours travelling) to see a Dom, and he could not accomodate. Due to this the scene was cut short so I could return home, and though there was a bit of aftercare, I think perhaps it was not enough due to time constraints that I needed at the time. Leaving I felt auful, tearful, hurt, depressed and rejected (which was foolish really as if anything he had been more than kind and considerate of me). I think had there been more time to spend after the scene that this would not necissarilly have happened.

So I think it is necissary for some scenes, and some people, but not all and not all the time.

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RE: Aftercare...is it necessary? - 3/4/2008 1:31:15 AM

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to reply to the original poster:

Aftercare is an important facet for me as well. But often times the aftercare she provides me with isnt always cuddles and snuggles.. often times it is allowing me my space and time to come back down, be it vegging out and watching tv, or playing video games.

Its different i think for each and every person. but... some way shape or form, i think aftercare is important.

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RE: Aftercare...is it necessary? - 3/4/2008 12:37:43 PM

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If I thought the lifestyle was based solely on getting used, beaten and tossed away like garbage on a regular basis I certainly wouldn't respect and admire it so much. Then again not every little boo-boo needs a bandaid.

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RE: Aftercare...is it necessary? - 3/8/2008 4:04:18 PM

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'Aftercare - Is it necessary ?' In my books yes. Damm straight.

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RE: Aftercare...is it necessary? - 3/15/2008 1:09:57 AM

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To the lovely KCherry(Who just so happened to join on my B-Day),
When I took my sub/wife to a club and began tieing her up, we both started into our own special places. She was preparing herself mentally for the upcoming onslaught of pain and torture, and I was preparing my self and the whole scene around us, including her, my tools, my toys, the bindings, the piece of "furniture" I had chosen.
This was never anything that a bandaid could cover up, nor a pat on the back and some kind, but useless words of praise can mend.
When I see Dom's "take-on" a sub for a session and there's no emotional bind between them, when it's over, I see and feel that sub's loss and pain if he doesn't follow through with an honest attempt at warmth and praise for this brave, tough soul, who's just gone through her own personal ordeal, of her choosing yes, but none the less, she/he still deserves our unfaltering gratitude. Which means we as Dom's should at the very least, give her/him back maybe 5-15minutes of our time. I was always so proud of my sub/wife after a long, hard session.
But maybe that's the difference betwen having, or wanting a slave, as opposed to being a Daddy and wanting someone to teach and correct and to show them the vastness of their minds, their sexuality, and their strengths. Not just to beat them and walk away, or to come in their mouths and not to praise them for it.
To me, they are not always just playthings. There is a time and a place for all sorts of roughness, but never for rudeness.

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