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typical domme? - 9/28/2005 4:46:44 PM

prettyfellowme

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here is a tale that's true. It happened today in fact.

I met a domme on this site a few weeks ago. We talked and arranged to meet last Friday. Two days before the meeting she told me she was having trouble making her rent, so I offerd to help. I gave her $200 toward her rent. After lunch we went to a fetish store. She found a collar there she liked and told them to hold it for her. It was roughly $60. She saw a leather dress that was $175 and said she'd love to have it. I told her to have them hold that, and I would buy it for her this weekend. After I left her (she stayed at the store), I went home. When I got home, she informed me that she took the dress home with a promise to pay for it this week. I called the store personally on Monday, and they told me that paying them Saturday when I planned on seeing her again was no problem. Yesterday she told me that she called the store and they told her it had to be paid today.

Today she called me on the way back from the fetish store from her car, and said she just left. She said she gave them a check that she can't cover, so I had to have the money to her on Saturday.

She knew from our first conversation that I am seeking a LTR 24/7 relationship with a domme. She's 17 years my junior. In passing today she mentioned to me that she's decided to take a clerk at the store as her sex sub, and when could I be there Saturday, or wire her the money for both the dress and the collar. Believe it or not folks, this is the second time in less than two months that a domme has tried to hustle me. Am I nuts, or are all dommes here like this?

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 4:55:22 PM

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Anyone got any popcorn? I'm pulling up my chair for this one.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 4:56:18 PM

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In my eyes it seems as though people tend to use another for personal self gain...regardless of the consquences of others. I think is is a norm for people in general.

In my mind being Dom/me one must be concious and aware of their actions and the impact of them on their sub(s). I find that for a Dom/me to use a sub for perosnal gain..by unconsensually walking on them is irresponsible, and certainly not in a dom/mes creed.

I believe that you will find a Dom/me with a good moral code. You just have to decren them from the weeds. THe more you find DOm/mes with traits you dislike, you are narrowing your search for Dom/mes you like.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 4:57:52 PM

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quote:

She knew from our first conversation that I am seeking a LTR 24/7 relationship with a domme. She's 17 years my junior. In passing today she mentioned to me that she's decided to take a clerk at the store as her sex sub, and when could I be there Saturday, or wire her the money for both the dress and the collar. Believe it or not folks, this is the second time in less than two months that a domme has tried to hustle me. Am I nuts, are all dommes here like this?

I think you know VERY WELL all dommes are NOT like this, and am not sure why you are making yourself look like a fool on the boards. She didn't force money out of you, you handed it over because you had "SUCKER" on your foreheard or desperation in your heart.
I think money/bodies, kinks should be shared with your significant other in a relationship, but if the first thing a man tells me is I need $200 to fix my car (and men have done this to me), I tell him never to call me again. You had just met the woman, so why are you paying part of her rent, and taking her shopping without even knowing whether you're going to see her again? M

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:00:25 PM

LadyAngelika

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quote:

ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme
Am I nuts, or are all dommes here like this?

I would venture and say that you trust people to quickly. Is that a sign of being nuts, no.

This person identifies as a Domme. That is what she tells you. This person acts like a scammer, that is what she shows you. So the traits you are recognizing are the traits of a scammer, not a Domme.

Of course, since a Domme holds a position of power, it is an interesting position for a scammer to emulate. Pray on the weak, right? Many scammers will find posing as a Domme to be a wonderful opportunity.

However, being a Domme does not equate to being a scammer. And being a scammer does not equate to being a Domme. I think you need to understand that. I hope you do.

- LA

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:01:33 PM

DreamyLadySnow

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Of course they're not all like this.
However when you wrote that first cheque, you opened the door to her for further financial abuse.
That's what that behavior is - abuse.

If you don't want to be treated like that, don't allow people to treat you like that, Domme or otherwise.

Just my two cents.

Lady Snow

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:01:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Anyone got any popcorn? I'm pulling up my chair for this one.

Move over mate....I'll join yiou

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:24:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

here is a tale that's true. It happened today in fact.

I met a domme on this site a few weeks ago. We talked and arranged to meet last Friday. Two days before the meeting she told me she was having trouble making her rent, so I offerd to help. I gave her $200 toward her rent. After lunch we went to a fetish store. She found a collar there she liked and told them to hold it for her. It was roughly $60. She saw a leather dress that was $175 and said she'd love to have it. I told her to have them hold that, and I would buy it for her this weekend. After I left her (she stayed at the store), I went home. When I got home, she informed me that she took the dress home with a promise to pay for it this week. I called the store personally on Monday, and they told me that paying them Saturday when I planned on seeing her again was no problem. Yesterday she told me that she called the store and they told her it had to be paid today.

Today she called me on the way back from the fetish store from her car, and said she just left. She said she gave them a check that she can't cover, so I had to have the money to her on Saturday.

She knew from our first conversation that I am seeking a LTR 24/7 relationship with a domme. She's 17 years my junior. In passing today she mentioned to me that she's decided to take a clerk at the store as her sex sub, and when could I be there Saturday, or wire her the money for both the dress and the collar. Believe it or not folks, this is the second time in less than two months that a domme has tried to hustle me. Am I nuts, or are all dommes here like this?

Here's a thought:

Chalk it up to bad judgment on your part, write off the $200 you already gave her, hang onto the cash you've got, and cut your losses while you can. She's got the dress. She wrote the bad check to the shop. Let her deal with it.

I can't believe you even have to ask for opinions on this one. It's a no-brainer!

Denise
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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:35:51 PM

IronBear

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In many places if you leave your car keys in the car, and it gets stolen, you can be charged for assisting in the theft of your own car… That is exactly what you did. You opened your wallet/cheque book and gave here money as soon as she said she was having trouble making rent. So she didn’t steel you car but from what you have said, she used false pretences (perhaps but I don’t have enough information to determine that yet) to remove sums of money from your bank account with you making it dead easy to do so.

I’m not going to beat up on you and hopefully you have learned a valuable lesson which could have cost you much more (like being bled dry). You are guilty of being a soft touch, soft hearted and easily conned, not to mention being a Wally.

At the risk of sounding like a heartless prick, you are both mature adults so act like it. Accept the responsibility for your actions. Accept your share of the blame. Unless you had a neon sign flashing over your head with an arrow pointing at you saying “Mug…. Rip him off” and Ronald McDonald dancing nikid about you, you couldn’t have made it easier for her to get money off you. (Unless you gave her your bank account).

Ok lecture over. Yep it hurts, as sure as day turns to night it hurts like hell. I can understand your hissyfit by asking if all the Dommes here are like that. I know they are not and so do you. Out there is the right Domme for you. Never doubt that the sleen who ripped you off with get hers one day and hopefully with interest. Chill out mate it isn’t the end of the world.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:37:45 PM

MsSonnetMarwood

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So what you seem to be upset about is that you offered her money, and you offered to buy her gifts, and she said ok....but didn't feel obligated to spend the rest of her life with you in return for said gifts and cash.

What is the world coming to.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:39:37 PM

MsSonnetMarwood

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quote:

a Wally.

What's a wally?

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:39:37 PM

sultryvoice

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When you meet someone for the first time and they want money out of you....run, run as fast as you can...Please learn from this incident and move forward cautiously..Don't jump in to the deep end...Look carefully first..I am sure you will find someone to meet your needs and you will meet hers...

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:43:40 PM

AAkasha

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quote:

ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

here is a tale that's true. It happened today in fact.

I met a domme on this site a few weeks ago. We talked and arranged to meet last Friday. Two days before the meeting she told me she was having trouble making her rent, so I offerd to help. I gave her $200 toward her rent. After lunch we went to a fetish store. She found a collar there she liked and told them to hold it for her. It was roughly $60. She saw a leather dress that was $175 and said she'd love to have it. I told her to have them hold that, and I would buy it for her this weekend. After I left her (she stayed at the store), I went home. When I got home, she informed me that she took the dress home with a promise to pay for it this week. I called the store personally on Monday, and they told me that paying them Saturday when I planned on seeing her again was no problem. Yesterday she told me that she called the store and they told her it had to be paid today.

Today she called me on the way back from the fetish store from her car, and said she just left. She said she gave them a check that she can't cover, so I had to have the money to her on Saturday.

She knew from our first conversation that I am seeking a LTR 24/7 relationship with a domme. She's 17 years my junior. In passing today she mentioned to me that she's decided to take a clerk at the store as her sex sub, and when could I be there Saturday, or wire her the money for both the dress and the collar. Believe it or not folks, this is the second time in less than two months that a domme has tried to hustle me. Am I nuts, or are all dommes here like this?

You've been hustled. Learn a lesson and move on. This has nothing to do with the fact that she is or is not a femdom -- vanilla women hustle men for rent money (so they say) or gifts too.

You shouldn't buy gifts for someone out of the gate. It's not appropriate. If I was with a guy I just met and he offered to buy something I was gawking at, I'd get weirded out. What does his offer mean to me? It means there'd be an obligation hanging over my head to give him something in return. Taking a lady out for dinner or showing up with a rose or token without being put in that position is one thing; buying something for her outright after meeting so quickly is another thing.

Oh -- and another warning sign is that she was having "trouble paying her rent." Why get mixed up with someone else's drama who you just met? The minute you offered to pay that for her you got labeled as a sucker.

Akasha

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:44:59 PM

IronBear

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

quote:

a Wally.

What's a wally?

Some one who is far to kind hearted for their own good and needs a keeper to protect them from themselves. It is an affectionate term not insulting.... Often used when someone does something silly. E.g. Yopu put a bucket down and turn about forgetting the bucket is their and take a pace to the rear, stand in it and fall A over T. You would be a Wally. We are are Wallies at one time or another.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:47:01 PM

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quote:

So what you seem to be upset about is that you offered her money, and you offered to buy her gifts, and she said ok....but didn't feel obligated to spend the rest of her life with you in return for said gifts and cash.

I didn't even get to dealing with that aspect of the post, which says $200+ should buy me lifetime devotion.
I don't know about anyone here, but the decent restaurants where I live will easily cost $200 for a dinner, bottle of wine (not the best), and maybe a little desert. M

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:52:14 PM

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Unfortunately, some of us get taken. hopefully lesson was learned.

misfits of the world unite!

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:53:08 PM

prettyfellowme

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Like The Capitol Grille? hehehe

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:54:29 PM

prettyfellowme

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let me add to the original post. She told me she was interested in a long term relationship with me.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:54:56 PM

Awakener

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Hey I saw this Cat, it was extra long 48". Well I was gonna just make it myself as it was 385$. but maybe you'd buy it for me huh?

Immedietly stop all contact with this Domme, stop looking for a relationship, and work on yourself awhile. No Domme or person is gonna value someone that comes to them with no worth.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 5:59:31 PM

AAkasha

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

quote:

So what you seem to be upset about is that you offered her money, and you offered to buy her gifts, and she said ok....but didn't feel obligated to spend the rest of her life with you in return for said gifts and cash.
I didn't even get to dealing with that aspect of the post, which says $200+ should buy me lifetime devotion.
I don't know about anyone here, but the decent restaurants where I live will easily cost $200 for a dinner, bottle of wine (not the best), and maybe a little desert. M

Absolutely. Maybe he needs to look for women that will take advantage of him for $20 (and there are plenty on the web) at a time.

A guy would spend $200 or more for dinner and I wouldn't even feel like I 'owed' him domination afterward. But I know a lot of guys that would expect something in return. I used to wine and dine boytoys for more than that.

Akasha

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