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mind you i am a slut  

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ORIGINAL: hopelessfool

Colour,
Im a slut, just selctive, Ive always wanted to meet someone at a bar sleep with them and never see them again, but... I dont have the nerve/balls to do it.

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ORIGINAL: katsmeow

So, I don't post a lot, but something is really bothering me more and more on here. The more I read e-mail, the more people just want 'play.' Is it impossible to keep your morals in tact and still be in this lifestyle?
 
I talked to someone today who wrote a nasty journal entry about me, because I'm apparently prude. Just because I don't want to take my clothes off and play with a stranger I just met? I call that being safe... But really, my point of view on this is, play being like a vanilla second date, the initial one is a nice dinner, and second one is bringing over edible body paint and licking it off of one another's nude bodies with no emotional connection. I don't deny that there are exceptions to this, but really, is it that common?
 
What happened to the days when people were sane, and didn't want girls that fucked everything with legs?  =[

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ORIGINAL: katsmeow

So, I don't post a lot, but something is really bothering me more and more on here. The more I read e-mail, the more people just want 'play.' Is it impossible to keep your morals in tact and still be in this lifestyle?
 
I talked to someone today who wrote a nasty journal entry about me, because I'm apparently prude. Just because I don't want to take my clothes off and play with a stranger I just met? I call that being safe... But really, my point of view on this is, play being like a vanilla second date, the initial one is a nice dinner, and second one is bringing over edible body paint and licking it off of one another's nude bodies with no emotional connection. I don't deny that there are exceptions to this, but really, is it that common?
 
What happened to the days when people were sane, and didn't want girls that fucked everything with legs?  =[

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ORIGINAL: maisy10

I totally agree with you, Katsmeow. Its gets me down sometimes because sometimes this lifestyle or site seems like one big porn show.

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ORIGINAL: missbratly

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ORIGINAL: katsmeow

So, I don't post a lot, but something is really bothering me more and more on here. The more I read e-mail, the more people just want 'play.' Is it impossible to keep your morals in tact and still be in this lifestyle?
 
I talked to someone today who wrote a nasty journal entry about me, because I'm apparently prude. Just because I don't want to take my clothes off and play with a stranger I just met? I call that being safe... But really, my point of view on this is, play being like a vanilla second date, the initial one is a nice dinner, and second one is bringing over edible body paint and licking it off of one another's nude bodies with no emotional connection. I don't deny that there are exceptions to this, but really, is it that common?
 
What happened to the days when people were sane, and didn't want girls that fucked everything with legs?  =[

I read this, and then I read the flood of posts that followed it claiming that there was nothing wrong with being a bunch of whores, and I despaired.

Unfortunately, it would appear that being submissive is too often confused with being a slut. As to all those who say "oh what's so wrong with enjoying sex?" Well, nothing, but there are some of us who enjoy it more when it is with someone who cares about us. The problem with fucking a lot of people is that you can hardly cliam that you care about them or vice versa.

Katsmeow, you're right. Being on this site does often mean that the males treat you as if you were a free whore. Unfortunately, thats because a great deal of the women here are free whores. They like it, it apparently works for them (though to be honest, with the amount of mental illness reported amongst people here, I doubt that it is actually all that good or safe, but hey, they're grown ups, if they want to allow their bodies to be used by all and sundry, its their funeral).

There's nothing wrong with having one's own moral code, and there's nothing wrong with desiring to be treated in a fashion that is respectful and doesn't assume that you're a cheap damaged slut looking for a fix of sexual affection. 

Unfortunately, being here means being exposed to both the small percentage of men who value submissives as people with feelings, and the wider horny majority who just want to dump their cum in you.

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ORIGINAL: missbratly
I read this, and then I read the flood of posts that followed it claiming that there was nothing wrong with being a bunch of whores, and I despaired.

Unfortunately, it would appear that being submissive is too often confused with being a slut. As to all those who say "oh what's so wrong with enjoying sex?" Well, nothing, but there are some of us who enjoy it more when it is with someone who cares about us. The problem with fucking a lot of people is that you can hardly cliam that you care about them or vice versa.

Katsmeow, you're right. Being on this site does often mean that the males treat you as if you were a free whore. Unfortunately, thats because a great deal of the women here are free whores. They like it, it apparently works for them (though to be honest, with the amount of mental illness reported amongst people here, I doubt that it is actually all that good or safe, but hey, they're grown ups, if they want to allow their bodies to be used by all and sundry, its their funeral).

There's nothing wrong with having one's own moral code, and there's nothing wrong with desiring to be treated in a fashion that is respectful and doesn't assume that you're a cheap damaged slut looking for a fix of sexual affection. 

Unfortunately, being here means being exposed to both the small percentage of men who value submissives as people with feelings, and the wider horny majority who just want to dump their cum in you.

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ORIGINAL: katsmeow

Okay, so let me clear a couple things up; (1) I am not a prude, (2) I never called anyone here morally corrupt, if you took my comment about my morals to have anything to do with you, I apologize and (3) I still do not understand why it is okay in this life to be, to put it politely, overly active with relative strangers, but if I did not want a collar around my neck and did the same things, I'd be branded dirty\STD-ridden, etc. Number three was the direction of my first post, as I was just completely lost that I was attacked and branded just because NSA play wasn't something that I felt maintained my character.
 
Finally, as for the bits about unhappy marriages, that had absolutely nothing to do with anything that was said, and now would be a good time to come off of that soap box.  =]

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ORIGINAL: katsmeow

So, I don't post a lot, but something is really bothering me more and more on here. The more I read e-mail, the more people just want 'play.' Is it impossible to keep your morals in tact and still be in this lifestyle?
 
I talked to someone today who wrote a nasty journal entry about me, because I'm apparently prude. Just because I don't want to take my clothes off and play with a stranger I just met? I call that being safe... But really, my point of view on this is, play being like a vanilla second date, the initial one is a nice dinner, and second one is bringing over edible body paint and licking it off of one another's nude bodies with no emotional connection. I don't deny that there are exceptions to this, but really, is it that common?
 
What happened to the days when people were sane, and didn't want girls that fucked everything with legs?  =[