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ORIGINAL: tigerstyle

Echoing what others have said, it really does not take all that much to run a house if you A don't have ridiculous expectations of perfection and B are organized and on-the-ball.

It also helps to minimize clutter.

I do the cooking. Everything else is women's work.

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

Sometimes its the slave who is being lazy.

I had a submissive staying with me for awhile who aspired to be my slave.  Her only job was to clean the house, cook the meals, do the laundry and serve me.  Meanwhile I worked full time running my various businesses, plus construction, plus all the other stuff I do.  My days are often 10-12 hour days.

The problem was she couldn't keep up with me.  I work hard, I expect a slave to work hard.

You bet your ass a slave is there to serve me... I work damn hard and have built a good life for myself, one where I can afford to support a slave or three.  I intend to enjoy it.  So while I don't particularly have a problem with being a "sugar daddy"... they are soooooo gonna earn it.

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ORIGINAL: Willowmoon

Thank you for everyones thoughts on this topic. I posted it after being annoyed at the amount of people i have come across that expect that it doesn't matter if both the Master and slave are working full time because she is slave she should also do all the housework, cooking etc.

In my own situation I can't do it all. i suffer from chronic fatique syndrome and have to carefully manage my energy level so that I can be of any use to my Master. Some days I can't even get out of bed yet alone go to uni, go to work, come home and spend another hour cooking (I don't beleive in just add water instant meals, all my sauces etc are made from scratch) then another half an hour doing the dishes, wiping down the benches, sweeping and mopping the kitchen floor. The days that I can do all that by the times its done its 9pm and time to go to bed so that i can hopefully have the energy to do it all again the next day.

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

that was nicely said.

It may look, from an outside perspective that the one who does the household chores is doing more while the other just flits around.  I know that when I am doing something that frees up time for him, I'm not enabling laziness but enhancing an environment that he enjoys and I reap the benefits of that.

I'm also still stuck on Stella's enegy thoughts.  I have possitive energy when I clean, I like being in a clean environment and I like providing that environment to those that I care about, be it my offspring or m'Lord.  I aslo know that it creates possitive energy for those around me.  I know that this possitive energy stimulates the creativity in my son and it creates a more productive side of m'Lord.  Some people just get stressed when their envorinment isn't pleasing and it stifles what they are capeable of doing.

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ORIGINAL: MaamJay

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Hello willow.  I would love to know how you zeroed in on My life just now.

I am currently sitting home, alone and bored on a Friday night.  Why is this, you might ask?  It is because My sub was, in My opinion, too tired to attend Community At Play with Me this evening.  We literally turned the car around, en route, so that each of us could go to our alternative resting places, and skip the plans I had come up with.

Right now, I am very torn.  Yes, I honestly believe that My own sub should do what it is that pleases Me.  In other words, he most certainly should have been willing to make the trip with Me, and have O/our little bit of escape.  Due to other reasons, I needed to do this, but before even getting out of town, I could tell that he was not prepared in the way I feel he should be.  This might be skewed because of My personal perception.  Long story short, I did not feel that he wanted to serve Me, and I am now home this evening.

Needless to say, I am greatly disappointed.  (Does the phrase all dressed up and nowhere to go make sense to anyone?)  I have yet determined on how to handle this.  Part of Me says, "screw it".  I refuse to sit at home, when social opportunities are available.  I do not, for a moment, believe submission is an option, done when it is convenient, or taken with selective choice.

Yet, I understand his position, and am empathetic to his needs.  Had he told Me from the beginning that he could not live up to My expectations, it would have been different.  However, he did not come to Me, in the proper way, which he knows is important.

Perhaps I will have a better answer in the morning, when My mind is clear.  I would hope that he knows that submission is not an option,  It is My belief that either one serves Me or they don't.  It is his time to chose.

LadyPact, I definitely understand the miserable feeling of "all dressed up and nowhere to go". It's no fun at all. But I was concerned to read Your last paragraphs, sounds perhaps more serious than that? That You are questioning his commitment to You? I offer these words, hope maybe they help.

From My reading of the situation, it sounds as if he did try to do what he knows You wanted, ie to go out with You. That's why it got as far as being en route to the function before You chose to turn around and go home. Perhaps his mistake was in not being fully open with You and fessing up to how tired he was. As a sub myself, i know how very hard that is to do. Being the object of your Dom/me's disappointment feels terrible, so i can't entirely blame him for trying to put a good fist on it and turning up anyway. The fact that You could see he wasn't in the right frame of mind is due to Your own sensitivity and perspicacity ... but perhaps You might be judging his actions just a tad harshly. It's true that You and the whole family are under great strain at the moment anyway, and so i think that he would try anything than to disappoint You ... and yet, now he has. he must be feeling awful. As do You. Hope You can work it out!

Empathy hugs from both sides of M/me!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]