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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 5/17/2008 5:49:53 PM

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We carry each other, i'm there to make a Master's life easier but that doesn't mean i become His full time "mommy".

To me, Both Dom and slave are adults and if We are both working then in all honesty Both share the work load....now granted i'm not married or in a live in relationship right now but, that policy sticks no matter what on my end.......

and your right, there is no way that i could personally do that, with a commute i work 14 hours out of my day, i'm home long enough to grab a salad or something healthy for dinner (or at least try to most nights) and crash.......i'm exausted.

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 5/18/2008 4:28:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: batshalom

Not to be contrary, but I haven't seen any regular posters say that they do nothing while their slaves do everything. I have seen a few posts crop up from people who pop in, act all "Domly" and then hit the bricks after the hornet's nest is stirred up, but it seems to me that folks here are pretty well grounded in the reality of reality.

Had to do it... sorry. I haven't read the whole thread but wanted to help batshalom out here. I'm a regular poster and I'm one of those. Twice does it all. Scooter works and we stay at home. Twice cooks, cleans, does the laundry, prepares my meals, takes care of the yard, services the bikes and vehicles, takes care of the hot tub... pretty much does it all. Then in her spare time she also takes care of the neighbors flower beds and animals when they go on vacation. And she does it all with such expertise and organization that she does have spare time. I do pretty much whatever I want to do during the day. Our third anniversary is coming up soon and there doesn't seem to be an end in sight. She thrives on what she does and does it extremely well. We couldn't take the cooking part away from her... mainly because we aren't stupid, she an amazing cook, but because she has the kitchen set up in such a way that we can't find anything!! She calls it "job security". And the yard work? That's her "zen" thing. Servicing the bikes? Also a "zen" thing for her.

We are well grounded in reality and the reality is that some subs/slaves are happiest when in complete service.

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 5/18/2008 4:31:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

We are well grounded in reality and the reality is that some subs/slaves are happiest when in complete service.

Jewel

If every body is happy..who could be against this set-up.

I like to cook myself, so I would occasionally allow my slave to cook...but not for ever...it is my zen thing...for afther work
( i love that..zen-thing)

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 4:08:24 PM

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I sit at home all day posting to fun threads. My girl goes to work and supports us, comes home and cooks dinner, and a handful of other duties.
You gotta admit, it's a cool job if you can get it.

OK, more seriously, in the end, I see our M/s relationship as a partnership, just like our vanilla marriage before it... it's just we have clearly defined and assymetric roles now. I stay home mostly because I am retired and, having earned enough in my life, don't particularly want to earn more right now. She works mostly because she goes bat-crazy when she doesn't (we tried that once before, it lasted about a year). The house chores are nominal when it's only two adults, but I look at it like this.... I could absolutely do nothing all day and have her come home and do it all. That's absolutely my perogative as her Master. Of course, the time after work, when she is home with me, is the most valuable time of the day for me. Why I would want to squander it on doing dishes when there are so many other more delightful things to be done with a slave girl is a bit of a mystery. The problem with all the decisions being mine is that I also have to accept all the consequences for them. When ALL of her time became mine, suddenly it became imperative to consider how I was spending MY time.

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 5:49:47 PM

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f a slave is working all day just the same as the Master works all day how can she have the energy to do the housework, shopping and prepare all the meals as well as having to serve her Master and have the energy to play if he decides he wants to play that day. It doesn't seem realistic or fair to me. The slave does everything, falls in to bed exhausted to get up and have to do it all again the next day while the Master can sit on his ass watch TV and just relax.

I don't know where you've been reading this, but I would encourage you to get out into the real scene and meet people. We have real lives. I've met NO ONE who lives the scenerio you describe above. Oh yes, people will say that's what they are looking for on their profiles, but in my experience, for Sir and I it's not realistic. Fair's another story that I'm not going to comment on.

We are a couple. We are partners. I am the submissive part of a D/s relationship. He's a responsible, respectable Dominant man. He knows how to get his hands dirty and he's not afraid to do so. He doesn't ask me to do anything he wouldn't or couldn't do for himself. He expects me to be along side him when we have house projects to do, and he should expect no less. He frequently will put his own dishes in the sink (which still feels weird) and he's been known to throw a load of laundry or two in. I am his slave, his submissive, but we have a house to run and things need to get done and they don't if one person is doing nothing while the other one is doing everything.

Basically we have to pre-plan our play, and most nights we are both falling into bed from exhaustion, but, it works for us :)

That's how our relationship works, but of course other people's milage may certainly vary.

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 5:54:03 PM

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If a slave is working all day just the same as the Master works all day how can she have the energy to do the housework, shopping and prepare all the meals as well as having to serve her Master and have the energy to play if he decides he wants to play that day. It doesn't seem realistic or fair to me. The slave does everything, falls in to bed exhausted to get up and have to do it all again the next day while the Master can sit on his ass watch TV and just relax.
Willow

I guess you don't really know what the word "Slave" means, eh?

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 5:58:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: Willowmoon

If a slave is working all day just the same as the Master works all day how can she have the energy to do the housework, shopping and prepare all the meals as well as having to serve her Master and have the energy to play if he decides he wants to play that day. It doesn't seem realistic or fair to me. The slave does everything, falls in to bed exhausted to get up and have to do it all again the next day while the Master can sit on his ass watch TV and just relax.
Willow

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I guess you don't really know what the word "Slave" means, eh?

Hmmm, apparently I don't either...who knew? Why don't you give us the nickle tour? C'mon humor me and tell me what the word "Slave" means?

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 7:06:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: batshalom

Not to be contrary, but I haven't seen any regular posters say that they do nothing while their slaves do everything. I have seen a few posts crop up from people who pop in, act all "Domly" and then hit the bricks after the hornet's nest is stirred up, but it seems to me that folks here are pretty well grounded in the reality of reality.

Had to do it... sorry. I haven't read the whole thread but wanted to help batshalom out here. I'm a regular poster and I'm one of those. Twice does it all. Scooter works and we stay at home. Twice cooks, cleans, does the laundry, prepares my meals, takes care of the yard, services the bikes and vehicles, takes care of the hot tub... pretty much does it all. Then in her spare time she also takes care of the neighbors flower beds and animals when they go on vacation. And she does it all with such expertise and organization that she does have spare time. I do pretty much whatever I want to do during the day. Our third anniversary is coming up soon and there doesn't seem to be an end in sight. She thrives on what she does and does it extremely well. We couldn't take the cooking part away from her... mainly because we aren't stupid, she an amazing cook, but because she has the kitchen set up in such a way that we can't find anything!! She calls it "job security". And the yard work? That's her "zen" thing. Servicing the bikes? Also a "zen" thing for her.

We are well grounded in reality and the reality is that some subs/slaves are happiest when in complete service.

Jewel

I need some service done on my bike. Can I borrow her for a little while?

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 7:15:10 PM

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I have read so many posts on these boards where I have seen the Dom types talking about how their slaves do the housework and make them breakfast, lunch, dinner, get them what ever they want when ever they want or are punished and it makes me wonder just how this can really work in the real world where the majority of people have to work fulltime jobs to pay the rent, buy the food etc and where households tend to need two full time incomes to really survive.

If a slave is working all day just the same as the Master works all day how can she have the energy to do the housework, shopping and prepare all the meals as well as having to serve her Master and have the energy to play if he decides he wants to play that day. It doesn't seem realistic or fair to me. The slave does everything, falls in to bed exhausted to get up and have to do it all again the next day while the Master can sit on his ass watch TV and just relax.

Yes I know a slave is there to serve her Master and makes his life easier but in the real world a little thing called life gets in the way of the slave does everything so the Master doesn't have too mindset. I am glad that my Master doesn't make me serve him like that. As it is most days by the time I get home I am exhausted and don't have the energy to even climb in to a warm bath that Master has run for me. In our home we share the chores and cooking and to be honest Master does more of the chores then I do because he would prefer that I focus on my study or that I have the energy for him to play with when he wants too. I do the cooking though as his not the worlds best cook.

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 8:55:56 PM

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I do the housework at home. Master works hard all day and when he comes home I like to have a nice meal and a clean house ready for him. I see nothing wrong with the sub doing the housework. I go to school full time and I'm usually tired when I get home but I still do it. And Master helps out when I'm sick and helps with my homework. I think that it can work out if you help it work out.

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 9:00:54 PM

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isn't what was described what our moms did back in the 1950's? Dad worked, came home and sat on his behind.

Today women have more help BUT they do the majority of the work. So the slave does everything and must be willing to serve till they drop?
They are not allowed to be tired, human or fallible?

Just trying to understand what is expected...

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 9:04:43 PM

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Just trying to understand what is expected...

You cant, because it is soo different for everyone

for me, I work 12 hours a day in a very high-stress enviroment, when I get home I expect a certain amount of cleanliness and a good meal to come soon. I pay all the bills, and spend all the extra I have on making sure that shit is taken care of, so yeah, when I get home, im not at a point where I want to do shit.

other people arent me, and expect either less or more, just like there are s-types that enjoy cleaning and cooking, and those that dont

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/12/2008 9:58:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: SubRefuge

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ORIGINAL: Willowmoon

If a slave is working all day just the same as the Master works all day how can she have the energy to do the housework, shopping and prepare all the meals as well as having to serve her Master and have the energy to play if he decides he wants to play that day. It doesn't seem realistic or fair to me. The slave does everything, falls in to bed exhausted to get up and have to do it all again the next day while the Master can sit on his ass watch TV and just relax.
Willow

I guess you don't really know what the word "Slave" means, eh?

Bravo!! I make no pretense about doing all the work, however, I do all the work that SJ will allow me to do. Having said that, there are times I get tired and cranky and it generally has little to do with the load he has given me and more to do with me not taking proper care of myself (though I know I need to do it). When those times occur, it is SJ who stops my activity and has me take a break, asks if I've eaten, checks in with me emotionally and manages me. Thank God he does too - I'm not one prone to taking breaks.

SJ does 90% of the cooking. He is an awesome chef and I am the lucky recipient of his sumptuous meals. If he did nothing else, this is worth gold! He takes care of plenty of things because it is his choice to do them, and his wishes are all that matter to me.

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RE: Slaves do everything while Master do nothing - 6/13/2008 12:35:59 AM

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My Concept of a Master is that he is the one who decides what the slave does and what he does. He doesn't force the slave to do all the work, but that he chooses what the slave does.

If the slave does not have a job, then obviously she should earn her keep with choirs. If they both work, a wise master would split the work load up a bit.

Personally I see cooking cleaning and shopping as "women work" (although I like to cook occasionally) and paying the bills, planing finances, yardwork and handy work around the house as "men's work" but that's the beauty of Free Will- a different master would choose a different set up. :-)

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