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RE: collaring a married sub - 5/25/2008 1:10:36 PM

BondageBarbieX

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How would you feel if you were her husband?To me its morally wrong but i am one of the last remaing monogamists alive.

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RE: collaring a married sub - 5/25/2008 5:40:39 PM

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Firstly I will say I am new to this forum, but not new to the lifestyle. I wont presume to call my self a "Master" or an "experienced Dom" but lets say I have had a few D/s relationsips, putting me at about 5-6 years in the lifestyle.

I now find myself in a new situation (as is every new relationship, D/s or not) this one may get me flamed on here for ethical reasons but, hey, I never claimed to be a sweetheart.

Anyway, through the power of the internet I found myself in contact with a woman from my youth, over 20 years has past since I saw her last. Through emails and chats we come to find out we have both have an interest in D/s, bondage and a bit of pain.

She is now married with kids and lives maybe 45 minutes away, she did come to see me and the energy between us was as incredible as ever, but we were both strong and nothing happened. However, she has now begged to be collared and owned.

Aside from the moral issues of sexual deviance with not only a married woman but the wife of a childhood friend.
Are there any others out there experienced in this? thoughts? ideas on how to keep the domination in effect, while apart... while with her husband... while maintaining discretion....etc.

Get your childhood friend, her husband, on-side. Make him a cuckholded slave. Et voila, immediatemon, everyone is catered for.......

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RE: collaring a married sub - 5/25/2008 5:48:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx
Make him a cuckholded slave.

MAKE? So much for consent.

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RE: collaring a married sub - 5/25/2008 5:56:21 PM

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Ask her if that collar is worth more than her children...because if her kinky relationship with you is found there is a chance he can used that in divorce/custody hearing and she potentially could lose her children and there is also a good chance her children will told of what she did to destroy the marriage if her husband finds the fetish lifestyle offensive . Ask yourself if this is something that would be mentally harmful to her ..losing her marriage ..children ...and her children's respect..... as a Dom it is your responsibility to look after her and make sure she does not come to permanent harm bothe mentally and physically even if it means terminating the relationship to protect her.

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RE: collaring a married sub - 5/25/2008 6:57:53 PM

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I'm a married sub and so is my M'Lady. it is a rule that the dynamic be clear,and all have a veto on play. now mind you my wife and i have been together for years and have a fairly good communication with each other. now the rewards that poly can bring are truly wonderful for all involved. my only suggestion is to have a good long chat with her and learn exactly what it is she wants and after you have digested this, get a sitter for the kids and have the 2 of them for a nice meal and openly discuss the situation. once limits are set it can be a great thing.
i wish you well on your journey

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RE: collaring a married sub - 5/27/2008 8:06:41 AM

Mavis

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You might want to consider what kind of submissive you're actually getting..

She has demonstrated she will do anything to get her "needs" met... EXCEPT tell the person she should look to first to get them filled.

Given this manipulative way of feeding herself, how do You propose to know what she needs as your sub? Will she be honest about meds or issues at playtime? Say she's been taking aspirin and will bruise heavily. but she NEEDS spank play, and won't tell you because she's going to get what she needs.

That is a control freak in subs clothing yanno.She's never going to submit to you in any way, you are her playtoy, a Service Top.

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RE: collaring a married sub - 5/27/2008 8:14:51 AM

Leatherist

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That's the biggest issue I have with married people too. They always seem to want to have thier cake and eat it too.

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RE: collaring a married sub - 5/27/2008 8:26:52 AM

Mavis

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well, i am married, but like LP and clip, or others mixed-married folk here, we're all open and spouses aware and participating.Married and on the sneak is just plain risky business.

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RE: collaring a married sub - 5/27/2008 1:33:10 PM

Deliena

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Just sounds like a path fraught with danger to me. Talking it through with the husband is the only way there's a possible good outcome - all other paths lead to hurting people who are innocent in this matter. Again, maybe I'm odd, I'm monogomous and happy with that (shrug)

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