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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/20/2008 11:42:37 AM

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Like Em, I go for the total fullfilment route.
However, I do not and never had understood the point of 'searching' - to me it is a waste and loss of time.

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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/20/2008 9:35:44 PM

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I want both, a life partner and someone who can lead me in an awesome D/s relationship.

Go big or go home....

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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/21/2008 1:25:11 AM

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I'm still figuring it out.... but I know this..... any life partner will have to let me be equal in day to day public life.... but the minute we are private.... I will submit.

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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/21/2008 3:07:18 AM

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For me, I need equal parts domme and girlfriend. I can't have one without the other, so I refuse to settle. I may be happy to serve and play with a domme I'm just really friends with, but in the long run, I'm going to need more. I dated a vanilla girl and while I loved her very much, my submissive side was completely neglected by her. Now, I have the perfect mix of a very dominant goddess, and a loving and caring girlfriend.

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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/21/2008 6:44:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Not withstanding other issues such as your age, sex, experience etc; what do you as a submissive seek as a primarely goal?
Is a life partner foremost in your search at the expense of other issues; or are the aspects of a very nice D/s fit are what riings your chime?

a primary goal? as in herself/his self or in a Dominant?

No a life partner was not what i was looking for when girl met Master, though i had previous experience with M/s, i was a bisexual, poly, switch, now i am a slave who at the whim of Master may top on occassion....and loving it!!!!! :0
so to say that the party girl in me has settled down and never thought it would...so all of my "outlooks" on what i was really looking for went clear out the window...
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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/21/2008 5:22:17 PM

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I think pet said it best, having one and not both in the same person always has that 'gap' like something is missing. I'm very happy to have pet, I must say I am lucky he found me. I could not imagine pet mearly as a sub and not as a lover as well, he's able to do both so well. He is what keeps a smile on my face and that little string of sanity from breaking. ~Lorelei

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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/22/2008 11:23:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Not withstanding other issues such as your age, sex, experience etc; what do you as a submissive seek as a primarely goal?
As is true most of the time this inquiery is fostered by reading profiles of many, not all, of respondes to various thread here on CM as well as other sites that I visit at times.

Is a life partner foremost in your search at the expense of other issues; or are the aspects of a very nice D/s fit are what riings your chime?

i've been married 16 years on the 10th to wolf. his response about BDSM? "buncha freaks!"

needless to say, that particular want/need/desire has not been met with him, at all. we're poly, so i found others. two passed away. Daddy found me despairing, and took me in his arms as his own.

nearly 8 years ago, i met TheEngineer. he's been a friend, an occasional lover, and by the end of the year plans to marry me, as wolf and i have finally come to the decision that while we are good as friends and as parents, we are just not well-suited as spouses. he isnt alpha, he isnt dominant in the bedroom, and he wants someone else to be in charge so that he can leave all responsibility at the door when he gets home. i cant be that, its not the way i'm wired.

if i had been able to move in with Daddy, things wouldnt have gone this way. but i couldnt, and TheEngineer has been waiting this chance with me for about 6 years and never thought he would have it. he's dominant, he's loving, and he likes my kinks, along with having kinks of his own that mesh with mine nicely.

so yes, i'm going into "having it all" and am still amazed at it...although one of my friends told me i shouldnt be, as cats seem to land on their feet.

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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/23/2008 2:59:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: summersprite

I'm still figuring it out.... but I know this..... any life partner will have to let me be equal in day to day public life.... but the minute we are private.... I will submit.

My sentiments exactly.

It's such a thin line.

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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/23/2008 6:52:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: wandersalone

I would love to find a life partner with an incredible D/s fit. What can I say...I want it all!!

I want it all too!!!!!

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RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner - 5/23/2008 7:39:28 AM

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When i first started training with my Dominant, He told me to never ever settle for anything less then what i wanted. i want that relationship that is both emotionally fullfilling and physically fullfilling.
i want a mixture of D/s and vanilla.
i have tried to have play partners and while physically it helped for a while. emotionally it took it's tole.
Even though since my Dominant has fallen in love and some of the D/s ascpects of our relationship has taken to the back burner, i am still mostly fullfilled and working on the rest.
To answer the OP's question. Right now as things stand, i want a life partner and hope it continues to incorporate the D/s.

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