Padriag
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ORIGINAL: MistressDREAD
Please excuse My Post on Your boards Masters
You might as well, everyone else does. You are at least the first I can recall so much as tipping your hat about it.
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ORIGINAL: sweetieboop
I don't understand why Masters don't feel that "all living expenses provided" is a necessity when trying to aquire a slave. If you want to own someone, then you need to be responsible for them, IMHO. Living expenses doesn't mean anything the slave WANTS you to buy her, it means anything she NEEDS. If you want someone to come live in your house, take care of your wants and needs, and do as you say, then don't you have the responsibility to take care of them and provide for them?
Maybe they just missed the check box, maybe they think she ought to work and pay her half of the bills. There are about as many definitions of a "slave" in this lifestyle as there are slaves. So exactly what definition are you using and are you sure that's the same that they are using. I've met slaves, who live with their master and both work. Met some where the slave works and the master is also a full time "house husband". There's even one I know who is a slave but does not live with her owner. Whatever floats their boat, everybody has to find their own arrangement. And surely you aren't going to tell me those slaves aren't really slaves if they aren't kept locked up at home kneeling naked on a silken pillow or leashed to the bed are you? No, I don't think that's what you had in mind.
But it does seem like you had a particular image in mind, maybe its that image that needs adjusting, broaden the frame of reference a bit. You seem to have made a lot of assumptions about exactly what arrangements those masters, whoever they were, had in mind. Now if the slave goes to live in their house that seems to me they're providing one "need" already, they're putting a roof over her head. You talked about the slave taking care of his wants and needs... exactly what are we talking about. Let's define things, get down to particulars. Are we talking about affection, companionship, the need for someone dependable and reliable, someone who will walk in the door when everyone else in the world is walking out it? Or are we just talking about sex and kink? Which is it, it makes a difference. And just what needs of hers are you referring to... the same need for love, for affection, for a shoulder to bury her face in when life gets to be just a little too much. Or is the price of having his needs met buying her off with clothes and nice meals at nice resteraunts and pretty baubles? There's a word for a woman who trades herself for material things... whore. Now that's the plain ugly truth of it, and while some may hiss and spit and arch their backs it won't change the fact the world's oldest profession is alive and doing quite well. Madonna said it best, we live in a material world, and there's a whole lot of women out there who want material things and don't mind being a whore to get it... long as you don't call them that directly. Its a trend these days, people reduce relationships to financial choices. There's an old saying I used to hear growing up, if you marry for money, you'll earn every cent of it. Same thing goes for "slaves" who expect their master's to pay for them... there are those that will pay, and you'll earn every last penny of it... believe it.
But then there's the real question, why is she with him? Was it out of love, out of affection for the man himself... or just what he could provide her. You want the plain ugly truth why some won't check that little box. Here it is sister-woman and its not pretty, they don't check it cause they don't care for all the freeloading, gold digging, whores in inevitably attracts. I've turned away a few from mine and I won't be surprised to find a few more show up in the future.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying men have no responsibilities. Look around and you'll see me say plenty on that subject. I think if a man is going to call himself a master he ought to damn well act like it. An that means you start by putting your own house in order before you do anything else. He ought to be able to provide life's necessities for himself and his slave, but whether or not he actually does or she earns her own way is another matter and one the two of them will have to settle between themselves, privately.
Here's another fact, long as I'm laying out some plain truths. The majority of women, in or out of this lifestyle want certainty, they want assurances, they want security and they look for a man that can provide that. A man can be a hard talking, hard living, pain in the ass, but if he can provide a woman with security she'll respect him anyway and even love the SOB. A man can be a gentle soul with the heart of poet and enough compassion to assauge the whole world and most women will swoon over him but they won't marry him... it's a funny kind of values how we pay lip service to admiring one thing when in reality we value something else, we live in a world of mendacity. Women want equal rights, equal opportunity, but when it comes to security the majority still go looking for a man to provide it.
You hit on a simple truth Sweetieboop, whether you meant to or not, most women who want to be slaves are looking for a man to provide them with security, that includes financial security among other forms (not all, I've met a few jewels that wanted something more intimate as their main priority). For those of us who can do that, we get respect, we get the pretty slave/s, we get to have things our way because we can afford to have our way. Its the golden rule... the real one, he who has the gold makes the rules. Equality or not, not much has changed in this world in 2000 years and by the look of it I don't think its going to in the next 2000 either... human beings are creatures of habit, and that's one habit women have yet to kick. Don't believe me, then ask your self why Hugh Hefner has three gorgeous girlfriends... cause of his dashing good looks or that large checking account?
Money is power, power is freedom... there's a truth this world revolves around.
But while that is true, its also why this is such a raw nerve for many masters. Nobody likes being reduced to a number, especially not when its your bank balance, but it happens often enough to us anyway. You would-be master's hearing that? Got your life together yet or is your life as messy as that pile of dirty laundry you call a bedroom? Hard truths, but there the are and I just bet there's a whole lot people who I just made squirm.
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A stern discipline pervades all nature, which is a little cruel so that it may be very kind - Edmund Spencer
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