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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 10:34:05 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Why put up with a man who's not going to make any effort to please you. Why not try to gently instruct him on you and what turns you on an makes you go, tell him you cant take me from 0 to O in minutes, then if he don't listen well find someone else who w*ould.
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ORIGINAL: KyttynTheMynx

And sadly, it seems with the new guy faking is the only thing that will get'r'done.  I cant stand a guy who doesnt understand the art of the build up.  You cant just make a car go, ya gotta warm it up, ya know?

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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 10:43:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
I think don't think its embarrassment.  I just don't think they are paying attention.  If someone does not know how to sing the ABC song after hearing it a few times and still recites it as "elemenopee", is it really our responsibility to teach him?  Sometimes you just want to move on in what ever way is the most expedient.
Guys can fake it too, for the same reasons.
Kyst


I disagree. I think that all too frequently, even amongst us supposedly "enlightened" kinksters, many women are still very uncomfortable with getting very specific about how our bodies react. We expect men to just somehow magically "know" us and how to make us work. We are all individuals who respond differently. Yes, I do believe it is our responsibility to teach our partner about ourselves. If I'm with a partner who can't figure out how *I* work, what *I* find pleasing or not and how to get *me* to the end goal....if I have not bothered to tell him I have no one to blame but *me*.

It's an entirely different story if you have been specific and you have a partner who refuses to listen or learn. But then again...that would not be a partner who I would stay with for long.

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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 10:46:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		with my ex, sure.  let's just say my occasional fakes were nothing compared to the major fake he turned out to be.  and still is, from what his latest gf has told me!
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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 10:48:29 AM   
firstslaveca


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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 10:51:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am stupified that erin wouldn't know how to fake an orgasm...gheesh I knew that before I knew how to have one.
 
Yes, I have faked..and with Doms too.  Those so stuck on themselves they think they know better'n me what makes me cum..and the 'cum on command' thing just doesn't work for me. 
 
I won't do it anymore...erin is right...we have an obligation to our partners to show them how to make us cum..and I was just fascinated to learn that men can fake orgasms...why would they?
 
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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 11:07:48 AM   
cuddlemesoft


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Status: offline 		I think repeatedly faking one would only build up resentment. Your partner's strutting around like some kind of sex god and your avoiding sex all together as it becomes an unsatifying chore if you are faking it all the time.

I agree with candystripper and mistoferin. And being honest and taken responsibilty for your own pleasure is more satisfying for both in the long run.

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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 11:29:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		And there you have it.  If you read closely you will note that most of the fake stories were for ex's, or people for who we didn't have a great investment in keeping.  Sometimes you click when you meet but when it comes down to seeing how things run you can tell they are not set to the same wavelength.  Then it is hurry up, I bought the wrong game.
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

It's an entirely different story if you have been specific and you have a partner who refuses to listen or learn. But then again...that would not be a partner who I would stay with for long.


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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 12:46:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

Ok, I've heard from people who know exactly what an orgasm is.  Has anyone ever faked one to please their Dom/Master?


Never.
Lying is pointless and self defeating.
 
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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 12:55:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Part of it is that we're still not comfortable taking control of our sexuality and being fully responsible for it.  We're not at all ok teaching someone, if we've been lucky enough to even be ok exploring our own bodies.

The other part is that the other person often seriously DOES take it badly and simply reinforces the whole cycle of hiding it.

I learned the hard way, but I learned- faking in the long term does NO one any good, you either take responsibility for your own happiness and make the relationship work, or there's just not going to be a relationship at all for me.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_828167/mpage_1/key_orgasm/tm.htm#828533
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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 1:12:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh jesus all the time .... before I learned it was ok not to be having an orgasm ... that it wasn't my fault ... or that I was broken.
I have *frequently* faked it with both casual and serious play partners ... even my girlfriend of two years couldn't have told the difference between my real ones and my fakes. Or I have forced a really half hearted one ... I never felt it was a huge emotional betrayal ... plenty of them were faking something to me because they thought it was what I wanted

One thing I have noticed recently (maybe the last year or so) is that now I no longer feel obliged to orgasm or "orgasm" ... I find it much easier to actually have one. It used to be something I stressed and worried about, and resigned myself to only ever having reliable ones alone. Now its something that happens or not, that I dont have any control over, and so have no need to worry about. Since finding myself in that place .. plus a few other tiny factors like my Owner ... I haven't needed to fake - and thats great for me

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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 1:54:49 PM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		i faked O's all the time in my teenage vanilla days, but not since being owned (have been owned since 19). besides the fact that it would be dishonest and deceptive, what purpose would it serve for a slave? the way i was trained, the physical pleasure of lack thereof is irrelevant, so there'd be no reason to fake an orgasm or any other sign of physical pleasure.

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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 2:00:44 PM   
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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 2:43:14 PM   
pandoravampire


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Im a mature experienced woman. I, and every single female i know has.

Superimpose that vanilla reality onto a submissive that needs to please the dom/me that's trying to get her to orgasm, and well, lets not fool ourselves eh? this little bunch of people, just coz they've given themselves fancy titles, and a special vocabulary or form of syntax, dont change who we are. HUMAN.



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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 2:58:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KyttynTheMynx

I've faked to the point where I got bored with the faking, zoned out, and then realized I hadnt made noise for a little while and ramped it back up. 

I have done this so many times, I'm so glad I'm not alone.  Mind wanders off, makes a list of things to do later, and suddenly "oh wait, I'm having sex" thought and noise is produced accordingly.

I've faked orgasms, I've faked multiple orgasms, I've then had to remember how many I've faked, or my personal favourite lie "I stopped counting after X"

At the end of the day, I very, very rarely orgasm, such is life and all.  I don't fake it in a relationship (what's the point/I'd be at it all day/I'd far rather him know that I actually came that time so perhaps he could do that again in future, please?), and don't do the casual thing anymore, but, back when I did, a lot of faking.  Some people don't understand that I'm just going to enjoy the journey, becuase I know there won't be an end destination, and think if you haven't arrived they haven't been good enough/should keep driving forward.

-R

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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 3:20:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		This thread is a huge faked orgasm!


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:::::::::::Smak::::::::::::focus::::::::::::::::smack::::::::::::When I say cum you better not fake it!:::::::::::


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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 3:26:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KneelingSilently

The longer I go at it the more... numb I become down there and the harder it is for me to ejaculate. So yes, I did fake one once because she really wanted me to cum but I was just at it for so long that I couldn't anymore. I would like to think that I wouldn't do it again, though. For some that may be too much information and I apologize for that.


For the ladies that don't already know this about guys, this is actually very true.

You're not the only one.  Same thing with me, and probably with a lot of guys.  If you keep yourself restrained so you can keep going for a long amount of time, after a while your brain gets stuck in the mindset of holding out,....and physically you get numb down there,... even when fully erect and hard as a rock, you can keep performing but you still can't feel anything.

It's happened with me several times,.... I never fake it, I just decide to stop.  It has annoyed 4 of my girlfriends before, and even though they were very bothered by it, I told them the truth and for me, personally, that was more important. 

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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 4:27:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

Ok, I've heard from people who know exactly what an orgasm is.  Has anyone ever faked one to please their Dom/Master?

Yes but only during vanilla marriages.......to keep the roof over my head or the car keys or the credit card. Isn't that the purpose of faking an orgasm?


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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 7:54:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Only in My second marriage which is no more. I tried to teach him how to do it better ... but as in every other aspect (including his attempt at submission), it was all about him and he proved unteachable about anything! It got to the point where I avoided sex if possible, always had to use lube, and while I told him it was fine for him to cum and for Me not to, that challenged his ego a bit too much so I'd fake it to get it over with.

Now with Master ... no i've never had to and wouldn't try. He'd know! He's very wired into my body, so much so that He can control my bladder better than i can ... and He can finger me to orgasm way faster than i can! Also, it's absolutely ok and expected that at times He will seek His pleasure and i am the vehicle for that, and i actually really enjoy NOT having the O at those times because i get to enjoy His more! There are lots of other times when He makes me cum and seeks no pleasure for Himself, or starts and His dick has other ideas! (Blasted things have a mind of their own some days!). There's no loss of face for Him in that, it's just part of real life. And there are times when We both cum, make enough noise to scare the dogs and have a great time! It's ALL good. And the lube sits on the bedside table unused unless We decide to take a different route . That Man just turns me on ...

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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/12/2008 10:46:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		I must say I have, yes indeed. It is easier than explaining that I must become accustomed to him and his ways and to us (the two of us) before I can reach that wondrous plateau. So until then, I tell a little white lie in the form of the big O.

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RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 10:38:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have, but it was during masturbation, so I don't think I fooled anyone!

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