Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? Page: <<   < prev  3 4 [5] 6 7   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 11:51:24 AM   
youngsubgeoff


Posts: 900
Joined: 9/25/2007
From: The Asylum
Status: offline
*raises hand* guilty of faking. I did it to my first domme. First thing in the morning Im usually hungry rather than horny ( I know, Im a bastard )

_____________________________

You dont need to question my sanity, I can assure you Im quite mad. Its ok though, all the best people are

(in reply to WinsomeDefiance)
Profile   Post #: 81
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 5:55:59 PM   
sweetwenchie


Posts: 1993
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Sacramento, California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: christine1

no i've never faked it with a Dominant, but i faked it all the time with my ex husband.


    Yup, what she said!    Slightly off topic, but i have faked not having an orgasm too, just because i was mad at him and i knew it would bug him if he couldn't make me cum.   Yes, i know, what a bitch!    

< Message edited by sweetwenchie -- 7/13/2008 5:57:51 PM >


_____________________________

"To make oneself an object, to make oneself passive, is a very different thing from being a passive object." - De Beauvoir

"You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist." - Nietzsche

(in reply to christine1)
Profile   Post #: 82
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 7:26:40 PM   
mixedemotions


Posts: 123
Joined: 8/16/2007
Status: offline
guilty

(in reply to sweetwenchie)
Profile   Post #: 83
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 7:48:14 PM   
ThinkingKitten


Posts: 447
Joined: 6/15/2006
From: Ontari-ari-o
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: WhisperSupremacy

It's happened with me several times,.... I never fake it, I just decide to stop.  It has annoyed 4 of my girlfriends before, and even though they were very bothered by it, I told them the truth and for me, personally, that was more important. 


Hallelujah. I'd far rather a guy admit that its just not going to happen for him as 'a-fact-of-life-situation', and stop. I certainly wouldn't take it personally. You can still enjoy the sex a lot, without the orgasm (story of my life).

_____________________________

Thinking Kitten

If you can't stand the heat... tell the chef to get out of the kitchen.

(in reply to WhisperSupremacy)
Profile   Post #: 84
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 9:04:03 PM   
eienKuraiTenshi


Posts: 8
Joined: 7/13/2008
From: Kentucky
Status: offline
 
    Fake an orgasm, who me… lol Yes I did for a long time, very often in fact. It was so hard for me to have one, difficult for me to let down my walls enough to allow myself to be that vulnerable. I did it to stroke there ego because I felt so guilty. In the more vanilla days, I did as many others stated here, faking for the sake of getting them to stop. It was so horrible usually that now it seems pretty funny… Men pumping away very methodically many of them seemed totally clueless. Once in the lifestyle, I didn’t want to disappoint, and I feared having to admit how hard it was for me to trust, afraid somehow that me just being me, needing growing time meant that I had already let them down somehow. I was there to please them, whether I had an orgasm or not shouldn’t matter as long as they did. At least this is what I tried to convince myself of, to wash away my guilt and fear.
    Then one day I was taught a lesson, by the one man who knew I couldn’t lie to him, and who had made me promise Him years ago that if we ever actually did get together, I wouldn’t fake it. After nearly 5 years of knowing each other and roughly 18 months now in service to him, I have the most mind blowing orgasms that I never thought possible. He was right, I couldn’t lie to him and I learned the hard way that sometimes, a Dom/me wants there sub to orgasm. They want the satisfaction that comes from allowing there sub to have pleasure. That even they themselves enjoy the satisfaction that comes from such an achievement.
    Incase anyone is wondering… He wouldn’t ejaculate from sex with me of any kind, know matter how hard I tried, regardless of how much I begged nothing… We had plenty of sex, pretty amazing sex actually and if he really wanted to get off, he would jack off while I kneeled near by and watched him do it. Once he achieved release, he would let it go, in a garbage can or toilet and tell me how wasted it was, how disappointed he was that he couldn’t share it with me.
    Now, while I am not sure if that makes sense to A/all but to me, it made more sense then I cared for. To make things even worse, I was not allowed to masturbate either, and well eventually it happened. It was mind blowing and I still thank him every time, he lets me have his cum inside me and of course whenever he allows me to orgasm. He had a long talk with me after that first climax about how special orgasms are and how there is no way for me to reach it with anyone else if I do not communicate and if I don’t reach orgasm then it is only my fault from now on. Obviously there are occasional health reasons that can hinder but, everyone gets my point all the same.

eien- the long winded one

_____________________________

Perhaps all the dragons of our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once beautiful and brave.
-Rainer Maria Rilke

(in reply to WinsomeDefiance)
Profile   Post #: 85
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 9:46:07 PM   
MasterZen22


Posts: 72
Joined: 11/16/2006
Status: offline
Yeah, I faked one time. we'd been going it for well over an hour, and I really felt like stopping so I acted like I came. (not easy for a guy to do, lol)

I had to turn my back to her quickly and remove the condom before she had time to figure out something was off. It was funny to me at first, but looking back on it, I woudn't do it again, I did not like the feeling of deception.

(in reply to eienKuraiTenshi)
Profile   Post #: 86
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 10:01:21 PM   
tasha_tart


Posts: 385
Joined: 2/20/2004
From: Ontario, Canada
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterZen22

Yeah, I faked one time. we'd been going it for well over an hour, and I really felt like stopping so I acted like I came. (not easy for a guy to do, lol)



Pull out, roll over, go to sleep...piece of cake!
 
Tasha

(in reply to MasterZen22)
Profile   Post #: 87
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 10:06:33 PM   
NormalOutside


Posts: 622
Joined: 1/8/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: eienKuraiTenshi


   Fake an orgasm, who me… lol Yes I did for a long time, very often in fact. It was so hard for me to have one, difficult for me to let down my walls enough to allow myself to be that vulnerable. I did it to stroke there ego because I felt so guilty. In the more vanilla days, I did as many others stated here, faking for the sake of getting them to stop. It was so horrible usually that now it seems pretty funny… Men pumping away very methodically many of them seemed totally clueless. Once in the lifestyle, I didn’t want to disappoint, and I feared having to admit how hard it was for me to trust, afraid somehow that me just being me, needing growing time meant that I had already let them down somehow. I was there to please them, whether I had an orgasm or not shouldn’t matter as long as they did. At least this is what I tried to convince myself of, to wash away my guilt and fear.
   Then one day I was taught a lesson, by the one man who knew I couldn’t lie to him, and who had made me promise Him years ago that if we ever actually did get together, I wouldn’t fake it. After nearly 5 years of knowing each other and roughly 18 months now in service to him, I have the most mind blowing orgasms that I never thought possible. He was right, I couldn’t lie to him and I learned the hard way that sometimes, a Dom/me wants there sub to orgasm. They want the satisfaction that comes from allowing there sub to have pleasure. That even they themselves enjoy the satisfaction that comes from such an achievement.
   Incase anyone is wondering… He wouldn’t ejaculate from sex with me of any kind, know matter how hard I tried, regardless of how much I begged nothing… We had plenty of sex, pretty amazing sex actually and if he really wanted to get off, he would jack off while I kneeled near by and watched him do it. Once he achieved release, he would let it go, in a garbage can or toilet and tell me how wasted it was, how disappointed he was that he couldn’t share it with me.
   Now, while I am not sure if that makes sense to A/all but to me, it made more sense then I cared for. To make things even worse, I was not allowed to masturbate either, and well eventually it happened. It was mind blowing and I still thank him every time, he lets me have his cum inside me and of course whenever he allows me to orgasm. He had a long talk with me after that first climax about how special orgasms are and how there is no way for me to reach it with anyone else if I do not communicate and if I don’t reach orgasm then it is only my fault from now on. Obviously there are occasional health reasons that can hinder but, everyone gets my point all the same.

eien- the long winded one


I just wanted to say, great post.
Was a good read.

(in reply to eienKuraiTenshi)
Profile   Post #: 88
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/13/2008 11:14:43 PM   
Leatherist


Posts: 5149
Joined: 12/11/2007
Status: offline
Only to get rid of someone who thought she was irresistable at phone sex.

_____________________________

My shop is currently segueing into production mode.

I'm not taking custom orders.

(in reply to chamberqueen)
Profile   Post #: 89
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/14/2008 10:32:24 AM   
akisha


Posts: 2071
Joined: 6/25/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

There are worse things than undeserved stroking of the male ego...I've fallen asleep on a couple of guys. 
 



I'm glad I'm not the only one lol


_____________________________

I'm confused.... No wait!!! Maybe I'm not

It's not a blonde moment! It's momentary peroxide posioning. ;)

Your pain makes me smile ~ Happy Bunny

532-095-649

(in reply to SylvereApLeanan)
Profile   Post #: 90
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/14/2008 10:50:16 AM   
FRSguy


Posts: 653
Joined: 9/4/2007
Status: offline
I have in my vanilla years.  Every now and then I would come across a woman who was absoulty horible in bed. I have even had a few that thought that they were the worlds greatest and then turn out to be nothing but cum reseptical at best.  In any event I have had to fake it a few times because I was literally going soft in the middle of whatever we were doing. I allways felt kind of bad about it afterwords because lets face how bad does a woman have to be for a guy to have to fake it one them.  The most horible is durring blow jobs.  I am really sensitive about those and it takes a lot for a woman to earn my trust enough to relax and let it all go. It was really common for me to take several months of blow jobs from the same woman before I could get off so that made for some prety interesting experiences. What really has allways thrown me is how badly some woman can melt down because of it.

(in reply to akisha)
Profile   Post #: 91
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/14/2008 10:58:24 AM   
AquaticSub


Posts: 14867
Joined: 12/27/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

Ok, I've heard from people who know exactly what an orgasm is.  Has anyone ever faked one to please their Dom/Master?


No, because that wouldn't be pleasing to him.

_____________________________

Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

(in reply to chamberqueen)
Profile   Post #: 92
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/14/2008 11:09:30 AM   
AquaticSub


Posts: 14867
Joined: 12/27/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I've never faked it and actually I don't even understand how such a thing is even possible. There must be some really naive guys out there. There are lots of things that happen during an orgasm...and yeah I have heard women say that all of those things can be faked....but I don't have a clue how they do it. I don't understand why anyone would WANT to fake an orgasm either. I would prefer they know I didn't....and keep trying in that case. I also see faking an orgasm as being dishonest. If I had a partner who faked an orgasm I would feel hurt by that and lied to.



It's very possible - provided a woman pays attention to what her body does during an actual orgasm she can mimic the behavior. Particularly if she does kegels. Now, as far the man figuring it out... presumably, he's having as much fun as the woman is pretending to have and therefore isn't doing a scientific assessment of her body to determine if orgasm has actually taken place. When you factor in that many women don't have exactly the same orgasm every time, it makes the task easier.

I agree with you that faking it isn't going to help anything in a relationship or with a partner. However, if it's a one-night stand or similar situation, sometimes it's easier to just fake and leave.  Edited for spelling

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 7/14/2008 11:10:09 AM >


_____________________________

Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

(in reply to mistoferin)
Profile   Post #: 93
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/14/2008 5:41:06 PM   
Griswold


Posts: 2739
Joined: 2/12/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

Ok, I've heard from people who know exactly what an orgasm is.  Has anyone ever faked one to please their Dom/Master?


Uhuh.


_____________________________

Never make someone a priority...who refuses to do any more than make you an option.

The man on the top of the mountain didn't just fall there.




(in reply to chamberqueen)
Profile   Post #: 94
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/14/2008 9:21:11 PM   
mistoferin


Posts: 8284
Joined: 10/27/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I've never faked it and actually I don't even understand how such a thing is even possible. There must be some really naive guys out there. There are lots of things that happen during an orgasm...and yeah I have heard women say that all of those things can be faked....but I don't have a clue how they do it. I don't understand why anyone would WANT to fake an orgasm either. I would prefer they know I didn't....and keep trying in that case. I also see faking an orgasm as being dishonest. If I had a partner who faked an orgasm I would feel hurt by that and lied to.



It's very possible - provided a woman pays attention to what her body does during an actual orgasm she can mimic the behavior. Particularly if she does kegels. Now, as far the man figuring it out... presumably, he's having as much fun as the woman is pretending to have and therefore isn't doing a scientific assessment of her body to determine if orgasm has actually taken place. When you factor in that many women don't have exactly the same orgasm every time, it makes the task easier.

I agree with you that faking it isn't going to help anything in a relationship or with a partner. However, if it's a one-night stand or similar situation, sometimes it's easier to just fake and leave.  Edited for spelling


How do you fake that dinner plate sized wet spot?

_____________________________

Peace and light,
~erin~

There are no victims here...only volunteers.

When you make a habit of playing on the tracks, you thereby forfeit the right to bitch when you get hit by a train.

"I did it! I admit it and I'm gonna do it again!"

(in reply to AquaticSub)
Profile   Post #: 95
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/15/2008 4:27:16 AM   
LittleWench


Posts: 265
Joined: 11/27/2007
Status: offline
Why does faking have to be negative?  It doesn't.  If I don't think I am going to cum, then I will fake, it often gets me in the mood to have a real one.  The simulation of the breathing, the squeezing of the pelvic muscles, the moaning, the act of pretending to be very aroused can often make you very aroused.



(in reply to mistoferin)
Profile   Post #: 96
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/15/2008 4:30:20 AM   
divi


Posts: 11109
Joined: 9/4/2007
Status: offline
Yes.. many times

_____________________________

( imho )

I really could use a wish right now

(in reply to LittleWench)
Profile   Post #: 97
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/15/2008 8:41:19 AM   
pixidustpet


Posts: 857
Joined: 6/4/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin
how do you fake that dinner plate sized wet spot?


i'm old and dont get that wet all the time...therefore i dont always squirt, and there isnt always that big a wet spot.  *shrugs*

not that i fake any longer, it doesnt do a relationship any good to be teetering on lies.

kitten

(in reply to mistoferin)
Profile   Post #: 98
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/17/2008 9:17:03 AM   
Nymphetish


Posts: 25
Joined: 5/7/2008
From: California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: hlen5

I never have faked it, ever.


Me neither...there have been times when I haven't orgasmed during intercourse, but I feel like I would be lying and cheating if I faked them.

(in reply to hlen5)
Profile   Post #: 99
RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? - 7/17/2008 10:42:05 AM   
YourhandMyAss


Posts: 5516
Joined: 6/25/2006
From: Sacramento
Status: offline
I don't know if you were being facetious, or not, but I don't make wet spots, never have. Not every one in sex makes wet spots.
quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

How do you fake that dinner plate sized wet spot?

(in reply to mistoferin)
Profile   Post #: 100
Page:   <<   < prev  3 4 [5] 6 7   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Anyone ever fake an orgasm? Page: <<   < prev  3 4 [5] 6 7   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094