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on command - 11/28/2008 10:46:47 AM   
sobayblackmaster


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Status: offline 		as an addendum to my previous post on the subject of keying in on the most sensitive part of the female body, I shared that my "initiation" onto D/s was primarily owed to a woman I was seeing who had a very sensitive clit. we used to spend a lot of time fooling around in her car (she never wore panties), and it got to the point-as I became more bold, where I pretty much trained her to cum on command.

among the subs/slaves out there (or doms/masters), have any of you experienced that level, where between direct stimulation of the clitoris and harsh verbal instructions-you can cum on command?
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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 10:50:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sure I can....just so long as the command comes at the same exact moment I am about to cum.

I have had quite a few girlfriends who swore on their mother's graves that they could cum on command.....only to have them confide to me later that they really could do no such thing and that they were stroking their dominant's ego by faking it.

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 10:54:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Sure I can....just so long as the command comes at the same exact moment I am about to cum.

I have had quite a few girlfriends who swore on their mother's graves that they could cum on command.....only to have them confide to me later that they really could do no such thing and that they were stroking their dominant's ego by faking it.


lol. you made my morning! thanks for being honest. I really think this lady was extraordinary, however once the precedent was set my hunger took root.

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 10:57:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		No, I have not had this experience. I have been able to make my sub/slave control when she orgasms as in, if she is masturbating and is ready to orgasm I force her to contain it for a long period of time until I allow her that release. She is forced to continue masturbating at the same level and intensity until I am ready for her to orgasm.

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 10:59:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Sure I can....just so long as the command comes at the same exact moment I am about to cum.

I have had quite a few girlfriends who swore on their mother's graves that they could cum on command.....only to have them confide to me later that they really could do no such thing and that they were stroking their dominant's ego by faking it.


same here.


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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:05:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		No, not even if I'm ready to cum at the exact moment he tells me to.  In fact, it has the exact opposite of the desired effect on me, i.e. no orgasm.

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:06:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nope, I haven't ever be able to accomplish that particular feat and I've got a hair trigger clit myself. I've attended public play parties for a couple of decades now and have never witnessed it being done although there was this time at APEX where I saw it (obviously) faked but apparently the dom in question was so cool ::koffs:: that everyone just oohed and aahed and bought into it hook, line and sinker. It just made me roll my eyes. That said, I don't need physical stimulation to have an orgasm.. I can get there with just my brain, but it takes a good long time and seems sort of pointless to spend that much time just to have an orgasm. Someone else getting me to cum without some sort of direct stimulation has never happened and I don't anticipate it at this late in the game. Aroused, sure.. actual orgasm, nope.

I can't be hypnotized either.  

More power to those that can get there from here. I think it would be kind of funny to make the command word some sort of mundane, every day word like .. I don't know.. lettuce. Then ya go to the produce aisle and see if it really works. ::chuckles::

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:09:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		This is a topic where those who don't believe it can happen will accuse those who can do it of faking it, and those who can do it will get frustrated at being called liars.

I came on command for my former owner. The pool of gushings at my feet were enough proof for him that it was real. I don't know if I could do it again, because it was the connection between us that allowed it the last time. Whether or not anyone believes that is really of no consequence to me, because the experience was between my owner and I. It's not a topic I usually talk about anymore, because I don't have anything to prove and I get tired of the "liar" label.

Some people think D/s, BDSM, LMNOP, XYZ is a sort of competition, and those who can do things that others can't (isn't that pretty much all of us?) think they're "ahead" somehow. I don't understand this way of thinking, but I try to stay clear of it when I can, as it isn't productive.

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:12:49 AM   
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The one thing I have never understood is the faking thing.  Why do people have to do it to protect egos?  I just don't get it.  But meh, that is another thread.
 
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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:15:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		I believe it can be done.  I don't believe it's terribly common, but, neither are lottery winners, but they're definitely out there.  My Dear One can very nearly do so, and hell, he's male.  *shrug*  Either that, or I just have pretty damned good timing... may very well be the case.  Who knows.


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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:15:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		The problem with the phrase "cum on command" is that when anything is done "on command", it TYPICALLY is instanteous.  If you train your dog to do something "on command", like fetch, stay, down, come, drop-it, it is done instantly, not at some point in the future from that time forward (whether that is one minute, five minutes, whatever).

But MOST people I have seen that say they can "cum on command" do not mean they cum instantly from a cold start, but that it takes several minutes from the command being given to the end result.

I think that is why so many people have difficulty believing it, because the concept of "on command" is that of instantly.


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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:15:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		dark (you gorgeous woman you), I've faked so that it would be DONE.. If I was worn out and ready to be finished, I'd fake so that we could STOP....

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:22:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		If you're manipulating the clitoris, then it's not on command, it's on stimulation and command.

I don't, and likely never will.  There are plenty of females who can orgasm after brief contact either from someone else or from squishing their legs together and pressing against the clitoris.  And there are some who can orgasm, legs spread, no build up mentally or physically. 

Although I've never known one that could orgasm on command with no stimulation when their emotional or spirit balance was lacking. 

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:23:13 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

The problem with the phrase "cum on command" is that when anything is done "on command", it TYPICALLY is instanteous.  If you train your dog to do something "on command", like fetch, stay, down, come, drop-it, it is done instantly, not at some point in the future from that time forward (whether that is one minute, five minutes, whatever).

But MOST people I have seen that say they can "cum on command" do not mean they cum instantly, but that it takes several minutes from the command being given to the end result.

I think that is why so many people have difficulty believing it, because the concept of "on command" is that of instantly.


Cali



If that is indeed what they mean then I would find it highly believable. Heck, with clitoral stimulation I cum several times within a period of minutes....command or not.

I'm not saying it's impossible but....I am saying that what I have direct knowledge of has been fake. Also, the instances of it that I have seen are when a Dom just states the command...not providing any clitoral stimualtion at all....and the sub instantly goes into her best "When Harry Met Sally" impersonation.

I was once at the Ren Faire with another couple, the girl was a very good friend. We were all standing there in conversation....not about sex. In the midst of the conversation he suddenly looked at her and said "cum NOW slut". She immediately went into moans and gyrations. A woman came rushing over to loosen her corset, asking if she was eplileptic. I was mortified. I suggested we go to the ladies room "so she could dry off". When we got inside I said "Why? Why do you do that?" not even asking if it was real because it was sooooo obviously not. She replied simply that it makes him happy.

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:24:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

When we got inside I said "Why? Why do you do that?" not even asking if it was real because it was sooooo obviously not. She replied simply that it makes him happy.



We women really have to eliminate that phrase from our vocabularies...

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:25:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick


I think that is why so many people have difficulty believing it, because the concept of "on command" is that of instantly.


Cali


It can be done instantly, but it was a lot of (mental and emotional) work to get to that point, wasn't easy and wasn't fun. But as you can see from the comments of this thread, we're all faking it, liars, ego strokers, etc. Eh. It really isn't worth it to go there.

So, ya know, exit stage left and all that...

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:26:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

dark (you gorgeous woman you), I've faked so that it would be DONE.. If I was worn out and ready to be finished, I'd fake so that we could STOP....

I can cum just looking at how yummy GT is...(opps did I say that out loud).
 
Awwww, GT- Maybe I am just a heartless, cruel woman... 
If a man can't make me cum, then he's no man for me.  I have been totally known to say that it's just not gonna happen.  Otherwise I just can't deal with the lie of how awesome they were after.  I couldn;t deal with the bragging, knowing the truth... It would just all blurt out..... 'Dude I never came - suck it up and stop being such an asshole.'
I definately couldn't be with someone who thought it's all about my orgasm.  SO yeah, I am probably more heartless because I would tell them and that's that.
 
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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:27:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

When we got inside I said "Why? Why do you do that?" not even asking if it was real because it was sooooo obviously not. She replied simply that it makes him happy.



We women really have to eliminate that phrase from our vocabularies...


Yes we do, especially when it leads us to make a public spectacle (ass) of ourselves. The other thing that bothers me about it is that every one of the women that I have talked to about it has said they could do it because they have this "amazing" connection to their dominant. Well, that to me implies that those of us who can't manage it must just not be connected deeply enough.

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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:30:52 AM   
RCdc


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
It can be done instantly, but it was a lot of (mental and emotional) work to get to that point, wasn't easy and wasn't fun. But as you can see from the comments of this thread, we're all faking it, liars, ego strokers, etc. Eh. It really isn't worth it to go there.

So, ya know, exit stage left and all that...


NV babe... I know your not faking and your not a liar hey.  But then there are people who don't believe in hypnotism either and it's all coming from the same kind of place hey.
It's the same for people who can't comprehend orgasm without touch.  Or even being touched anywhere but the clit.  And yet it is perfectly believable that spanking can bring on an orgasm.  Funny huh?
 
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RE: on command - 11/28/2008 11:31:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have known ONE woman who could do the come-on-command thing, but honestly, she came so easily after awhile you weren't even proud of doing anything for her!    We had a mad crush on each other, her dom and I were close friends, but I don't think it was any "connection", just her innate skills and control over her body.

I have had orgasms with no physical contact, but damn rarely!  I can stop myself from having one much more easily. 

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