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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 10:13:28 AM

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I think he was talking about someone else, Lockit

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 10:15:55 AM

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KEvin, listen to me at least.

I know depression can be crippling, but right now the only advice you can give your friend is to consult an attorney (legal aid can help out) and just be there emotionally at this time.

As for your own depression and lack of friends, look into support groups in the area. Your mate might want to look into those as well. I am not sure how Ireland is set up, but here in TX, I go to the local MHMR (mental health mental retardation) unit to get my meds and to talk with a doctor about how I am. I also attend group off and on for positive reinforcement.

Ask your Domme for emotional support as well. Sir is one of my lifelines and when I get depressed, his shoulder is there to cry on. Alexis helps me out as well, telling me to get off my duff or handling me the paddle when she acts out (seeing a rosy bottom makes me smile).

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 10:17:20 AM

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that was another mate not this guy. He never ruined anything nor did anything bad to anyone. There were people who knew him on the course i did with him and no one had a bad word to say about him. he was sociable friendly a nice guy. the guy who ruined my weekend was always complaining , to be honest i tried to be friends with him because i felt sorry for him
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 10:18:54 AM

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Now for you Kevin... it is time you stopped with what you are doing here on this thread and maybe others. You cannot get the positive feedback, fun... attention or anything else the way you are going. People will respond and that is better than no response eh Kevin? But is it? You are not making friends. You are alienating people. That will get you maybe one more month here without a new ass hole drilled into your ass.

Stop.

It is better to deal with issues... and isolation from a more positive stand and without the anger you manifest in much of what you say. Part of getting through mental illness or emotional problems is learning to be in society and function there. You need to stop trying to get something from this negative shit. If you don't... I see no good thing. You continue... even I will walk away and wash my hands of the situation. You have a few who are willing to listen a bit or to understand... do you wish to blow that?

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 10:38:20 AM

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Yes the thread has probably gone on long enough anyway, feel free to conclude it as you wish, bottom line is , it has been fascinating to see the different reaction but yeah your right it does not really help my friend one bit and neither does bitterness, so i will close it up now unless others want to suggest things, there is nothing i can do really anyway, at the end of the day its his situation , what im doing at the moment is giving him space to work thing s out , i hope it works out for him but i cant influence it and 200 more responses wont change anything
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 10:53:47 AM

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 11:08:21 AM

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Stop using his depression as an excuse for no friends and no job...that's all it is..an excuse.

I suffer from clinical depression and I still work a fulltime job, I have friends, I spend time with them and I am in a relationship. I don't let my illness set me back. I pick myself up and force myself to move on with my life.

If you truly want to be his friend and if your friend has depression tell him to seek some professional help.

Its people like that who make the illness sound like a death sentence.

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 1:09:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
Kevin... think about what you just said. If he ruined your weekend by being inconsistant... think about living with him and those inconsistancies... his wife and um's are living with it day in and out.

Bingo!

Some aren't seeing this particular point and some are. If it's possible for you, kevin, I want you to take a look at how frustrated people have become just trying to make you see simple things. Just imagine living with that kind of frustration for three long, long years. That means, literally, over a thousand days of having to deal with the exact thing that this thread has brought out. Day in and day out. Never stopping and never knowing if there was an end in sight.

There's been a lot of research done on the effect of being someone's primary caregiver to a person who is dependent due to being physically or mentally ill. It can be such a drain on the person who is healthy to the point of them becoming ill themselves. Yet this woman has managed to handle the situation for three years. If I had to deal with what's been exhibited in this thread, I'd have taken action before that for the sake of My own sanity and for the sake of My ums.

I honestly don't know if your friend's mental issues are the same as the ones you describe as having yourself, kevin. I will say that there is more to it than the depression you are willing to admit to and have every intuition that there are other mental illnesses in combination that you are not willing to admit. If your friend was in the same reintegration to work program that you are, I have to think the problems are as severe as yours. This on top of you saying that you were able to move on in courses where he could not even makes Me think his issues are greater than yours.

If this man has no friends or family he can rely on, perhaps it is because people couldn't tolerate dealing with him. Yet you expect someone to be able to live with him. Being similar to him, don't you see how this is reflected in your own life?

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 2:24:23 PM

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His problems are more severe than mine in emotional . in financial terms, i dont know , he has six years redundancy pay, but i dont know if the wife was given that i just dont know
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 3:19:36 PM

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Have either of you been to the Homeless Person's Unit of the Housing Department of the local authorities?

Is this friend being treated for depression by a doctor?

How about a bed and breakfast hotel while things are being sorted out?

What efforts have been made, besides posting to these boards, to contact the relevant agencies to see that your friend is getting the help and support he needs?

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 4:16:15 PM

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thats why i come here. it stops from feeling isolated lonely and worthless
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Then Kevin there is a great way to take advantage of this board. As I mentioned before, Im chronically depression, on top of having severe anxiety disorder which limits my socializing.

Why not wants to the lower boards and play and have fun, the people there form tight bonds, are sincere, honest and caring, If your having a bad day Polls and Random stupidity will guarantee you a laugh, there is plenty of opportunity to interact with others, share laughter, giggles, spew whatever beverage you might be drinking because a post will havie you laughing so hard you cant help it. It also is a place to share difficulties, as long as thats not all you do.

Participate there for a couple of weeks and report your findings in the say I love it when or I hate it when thread.
You would be surprised how many that have posted here are in those threads and can be fun and supportive.

Let your mate work on his own marriage and stop trying to save his world...in a word what you do will not matter in the end. Work on yourself mate, go see, get a few giggles. Set aside the underdog and Im going to save the world and just enjoy yourself.

You will find the same people that have been on this thread arent hard hearted at all and a joy to be around.

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/14/2008 11:45:55 PM

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i only found out on Friday so in answer to your question none. He is not homeless yet and i hope he wont be
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