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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

i think you misunderstood. i have not said anything to Her personally. Nor would i dare. i have never met his wife and i dont plan to either. i just advised him as a mate to stick in and refuse to leave. i think thats reasonable particularly when he said he would do that anyway. i think its unreasonable to threaten to evict a jobless male or a jobless anyone for that matter even with the carrot of $18,000, the point is he will effectively end up on the streets, if he were to rent he would be paying $350 a week for a flat do the maths and he is left with $1,200 for food, that would run out pretty quick and then what, i think She needs to give him just a little more time. its not as if he is doing nothing, he is doing a course, which shows his determination to get back to work, if he were doing nothing She would have a point but he is doing his best to get back into a position where he can earn money. She needs to also realise that there are no jobs out there now anyway, we are in a recession in ireland and She should recognise that. many people are out of work. many married males are out of work, and married women but not everybody is separating and throwing their partner out over it, its very upsetting for him and i feel for him i really do.  And the guy  She get s in his place if they do separate, will She treat him the same way, it could be me , it could be anyone, i think the guy is right to take a stand, in some ways Feminism has gone too far, does women's rights extend to making life miserable for men , to threatening's a man's security by putting him out of his own home, it shouldnt but if it does its a sad reflection on how selfish some women have become, i say some most Women are fine and honour their partners wishes as She is done and i hope She continues to do i really do but at the moment its tough for him and so unneccessary, i hope She never falls ill thats all i can say and if She does i hope someone is more charitable to Her than She appears to be to him
kevin

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

my mate was never unfaithful if thats what you are trying to infer. he never did the dirt on Her, he loves her with everything he has. He has done everything for her, like i mentioned earlier a lot of what She now takes for granted is due to his hard work
kevin

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

No i met him yesterday, he was in bits. he has nobody outside me, his Mistress is his rock, he worships the ground She walks on, in his own words he idolises Her, if  this is all true, i cant see why She turned on him. i m telling him to keep his head up and bottom line to refuse to leave. If anyone leaves in my male opinion it should be Her, after all to me She is the instigator of this problem and She unlike him has an income and could live outside comfortably, he does not
kevin

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

i  have known him since 2005, we meet occasionally, he lives in a different part of the city to me, i had daily contact with him for a year as i did the same course as him. we have now gone different ways and for the past two years. i was moved on from the course and he stayed because he was judged not well enough to progress
kevin

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

well depression is partly the reason. people shun others who have mental illness, sad but true. there is even one on this board and i wont mention names here who feels people with mental illlness are a threat to the whole community and could destroy, Her words not mine, the whole community, the ignorance is just staggering. there is this perception that people with mental illness have a contagious disease which they can pass on to others, that they are somehow harmful to others, no wonder people with depressioon find it so hard to integrate, they are faced with prejudice which sadly all too many people have of them
kevin

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

in my view divorce should not be legal and it should be illegal to separate unless there is violence involved
kevin

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Who says anyone is sponging so like if your sick your a sponger, im sorry but it doesnt apply if you want to go down that route then i can safely say he paid for your term spongers for 28 years , for 14 of the 18 years he was bringing in most of the income to keep his Wife, who was sponging then, not him
kevin

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

well im sorry but to me short of abuse, his Wife is duty bound to stay loyal to him for the rest of his life come what may happiness sadness whatever
kevin

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Who says anyone is sponging so like if your sick your a sponger, im sorry but it doesnt apply if you want to go down that route then i can safely say he paid for your term spongers for 28 years , for 14 of the 18 years he was bringing in most of the income to keep his Wife, who was sponging then, not him
kevin

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

A friend of mine has told me that his Mistress is forcing him out of her house as and from January 09.  She says that as She owns him , She has the right to make him homeless. Surely this is wrong. My question is does a Mistress have a minimum obligation to a servant to provide minimum welfare, ie if in contract to her, a roof over his head or does a slave's comfort even minimum comfort become obsolete once owned
kevin