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ORIGINAL: catize

Soooo, you wanna play philosopher???  Heh heh heh! 
 
I have a life, not a life-style.  Every facet of my personality, every asset and weakness, everything that gives me joy or makes me cry is all part of the big picture which makes up my life.
Do I need to dance 24/7 to be called a dancer?
Do I have to be a musician to enjoy music?
Is it possible to regain virginity if one abstains from sex?
If a couple is married, are there any hours in the day when they are not in that marriage?
If I pee standing up, does that change my gender?
We refer to the un-kinky as vanilla, as if their lives are never exciting, as if ours are never mundane.
My life is not just one thing; it is many things blended together. 
 
I too will ask your definition of D/s, and add to it, what is your definition of vanilla?
Am I ‘vanilla’ because I scrub my kitchen floor to please myself?  Am I D/s because I am subordinate to (or boss of) someone at work? 
Is there anyone in this world who has no one and nothing that dominates them?  Is there anyone in this world who has never mastered some skill or some one, even if it is the self?