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I am going to lay out why

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I KNOW I am not alone in feeling this way but I am going to lay out why some of us ONLY want a strong powerful independent opinionated picky selective and even arrogant woman for our submissive partner.

Many dominants like myself have the power to dominate meetings, people we meet on the street, situations, business deals, gun fights, or whatever. Doing so is an adversarial contest, one we tend to win by browbeating, overpowering, force of will, or whatever else it takes.

(note, I am not alone in this but the rest is written in first person for clarity)

I DO NOT WANT AN ADVERSARIAL CONTEST WITH MY PARTNER

In order to do that, I need to know that she has the strength to say no to me, to look me in the eye and when she says "yes", even if it is only by not saying no, that I have not overpowered her but that she has freely chosen to submit to my will.

How else would I feel safe to venture into the very dark places I long to explore. I want to turn her world upside down, blackmail her, violate her, force her to do unspeakable things, train her to respond and crave acts that I could not speak of in public.

I would not, I could not, feel safe going there with someone whom I might break, or who might do it because she couldn't say no to me. I need to know that no matter how hard I force her, push her limits, violate her, that she retains the willpower, the emotional strength at her core to say "no, I am not ready" or even "not tonight Sir"

The sort of dominants I speak of want to explore the dark with someone who is capable of keeping up with us. We could easily convince some weaker woman to do those things but at some point, those dark acts would break her. We don't want to break someone, it is not a challenge to us, it is the kinky equivalent of taking candy from a child, of picking on the weak.

I want to walk with a lioness on the end of my leash, one fully capable of ripping my head off. There is the excitement, there is the challenge, and there lies MY goal, my partner, my woman.

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Strong Subs and the Men Who Love Them

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There is the excitement, there is the challenge, and there lies MY goal, my partner, my woman.

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I want to walk with a lioness on the end of my leash, one fully capable of ripping my head off. There is the excitement, there is the challenge, and there lies MY goal, my partner, my woman.

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If only there were more like you, not afraid to man up and take a strong, opinionated submissive.