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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/18/2006 8:29:24 AM

Evanesce

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As for exercise, I am doing okay though I could do better. I keep saying I need to find a gung ho physical trainer submissive LOL. Mostly because I *know* my form sucks ass, and that I'm not working out effectively or efficiently since it's been decades since I did weights. It would be nice to have someone that was "in the know" to tell me to tuck in my elbow when I forget and to remind me to keep my knees in line and that I'm slacking on my posture, etc. Plus I always feel so dumb around the blasted machines especially when I know I'm being sloppy and I don't think I'm really using them efficiently or correctly. Wind up doing far more cardio than I do weights, which isn't ideal. Ah well. Better than nothing, I guess. LOL

SD, I absolutely LOVE your posts, and your honesty.
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Like you, I'm fat. Sometimes, I'll use BBW, but to me it's a lie, because I'm NOT beautiful. Not to myself. Even when I was thin I never felt I was beautiful (although Master says I am and I think He needs glasses). I know what I see in the mirror every day, and I don't kid myself about what it looks like.

But... I wanted to give you a link to something I've found that combines cardio AND weights, and it WORKS! It's called Walk Away the Pounds, and it's the best all-over workout I've ever done! In looking at the site again, I see there's now a 4-Mile walk. I might have to get that one. I do the 3-mile super fat burning walk every day, and I'm feeling muscles I haven't felt in one VERY long time! And the best thing about it is that I don't even have to leave the house! I LOVE these workouts. Master even does the 1 and 2-mile walks with me, and enjoys them as much as I do. You have to buy the weights separately, but I just went to Target and picked up a cheap pair of 2 and 3-pound dumbbells.

I have a bellydance for fitness video, too, along with a set of Tai Bo videos, but they're too hard for me right now.

And if you've got room in your house for it - get a Bowflex. They're awesome. One day, I will be able to say, "I'm 50 years old and I have a Bowflex body." Only got 150 lb to go.

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/18/2006 2:15:44 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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Ach! everybody has their prefernces..wether in height,weight,social status,whatever..I think there are some who like BBW and some who dont no matter how wonderful a person is they will be rejected by the ones whom weight is an issue,a BBW could have a most beautiful face,intelligience,personality plus but to some, they just cannot get past the weight issue,I do not think this makes them a bad person..however..it does limit their choices when seeking their match.To myself looks are not an issue,what is an issue with me is intelligience,I crave an intelligient man,does this make me perjudicial?to some no to others yes,depending on which side of the intelligience fence they are on.I mean face it we all have preferences.But lucky enough they all vary,so what someone finds unattractive another finds appealing.Eye of the beholder folks!....be well..Tempting

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/18/2006 6:50:07 PM

ShadeDiva

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Evanesce
SD, I absolutely LOVE your posts, and your honesty.
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Like you, I'm fat. Sometimes, I'll use BBW, but to me it's a lie, because I'm NOT beautiful. Not to myself. Even when I was thin I never felt I was beautiful (although Master says I am and I think He needs glasses). I know what I see in the mirror every day, and I don't kid myself about what it looks like.

But... I wanted to give you a link to something I've found that combines cardio AND weights, and it WORKS! It's called Walk Away the Pounds, and it's the best all-over workout I've ever done! In looking at the site again, I see there's now a 4-Mile walk. I might have to get that one. I do the 3-mile super fat burning walk every day, and I'm feeling muscles I haven't felt in one VERY long time! And the best thing about it is that I don't even have to leave the house! I LOVE these workouts. Master even does the 1 and 2-mile walks with me, and enjoys them as much as I do. You have to buy the weights separately, but I just went to Target and picked up a cheap pair of 2 and 3-pound dumbbells.

I have a bellydance for fitness video, too, along with a set of Tai Bo videos, but they're too hard for me right now.

And if you've got room in your house for it - get a Bowflex. They're awesome. One day, I will be able to say, "I'm 50 years old and I have a Bowflex body." Only got 150 lb to go.

Awww thank you! I always wonder if I have shared TOO much when I hit send but then I figure oh well - what the hell. LOL. I came online to strip all my masks OFF and lay myself bare and after ten years of doing that - why stop now? Besides I learn a LOT about myself and others in the process.

Thanks for the link! Ray has a disability that prevents him from walking fast enough to keep up with me but we are trying to find different ways to get around that. Going to try to teach him how to ride a bike this spring - trying to figure ut of toe clips or toe cups are the best options. Worried a bit about him getting foot free while falling, and I never used the special shoes with the clips. Oh geez I just realized I'm hijacking this thread! Sorry! I'll stop now!

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/18/2006 9:09:34 PM

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And I'm supposed to remember to eat SIX times? I'm nearly never freaking hungry! It just seems REALLY wrong to eat when you are fat when you aren't hungry at all. LOL! It's a HUGE mental block and I have a REALLY hard time getting around it and I haven't managed to be successful yet.

When i started the South Beach plan, eating the snacks when i wasn't hungry was hard for me too. But it makes sense and works if you avoid refined carbs and sugar, by keeping your blood sugar even throughout the day which prevents sweet and starch cravings.

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/19/2006 12:01:31 AM

LadyThornrose

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Greetings!

I would like to touch on LadyElizabeth's original post about being a BBW in the D/s community.

I think the term BBW is a bit silly but it certainly gets the point across! On the one hand I hate labels but on the other hand I'm proud of my labels: bbw, redhead, tall, etc. I like being the way I am and I like finding people who like the way I am. Some people like underweight women - like I was when I was modeling 20 years ago - and some like voluptuous, big-breasted women - like I am now, and always thought was more beautiful, even when I was skinny. I think there are a plethora or reasons why people weigh what they weight - and frankly, I don't think it's anyones business but theirs. We all have our challenges and we all have our preferences. This would be a very boring world if we all looked the same or wanted the same things.

I make a point of expressing myself as a BBW because I don't want to waste my time with people who don't adore that body type - especially since I don't have a picture on my profile. In my experience, there is very little middle ground where being a BBW is concerned. People love it or hate it. I prefer not wasting my time with people who hate my body type. And if they say "I don't care about physical appearance - it's what's on the inside that counts." that turns me off too. I like men with great taste, who know beauty when they see it. I'm not interested in a man who is "above" physical attraction and likes me for my sparkling personality and tolerates my looks. <giggle> Too funny! Beauty comes in every size, every color. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think I'm beautiful and I like being around people who I think are beautiful.

I did want to share one quick experience. I received a "concerned" letter from a sub - a stranger - one this website. He asked me how I could accept being a BBW rather than hating myself and trying to unsuccessfully lose weight like he was trying to. That cracked me up! Too funny.

For the record, I think you're ALL beautiful!!!
Lady Thornrose

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/19/2006 12:36:34 AM

upherass

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(Didn't read through responses, ignore if redundant)

My experiences have been mixed.
The men who like bbw's are respectful, pleasant. They encourage and compliment. You can tell the men who are genuine in liking bbw by the way they speak in mail. They aren't thinking you're desperate and an easy lay. They take their time, don't ask for a pic straight off, and are as interested in stimulating your mind as well as body.

Then on the flip side, there are those who send me rude mails, expecting my undying gratitude, and to be eternally on my knees orally worshiping their cock, for them even considering me, and blessing me with their presence in my mail.

As for in the scene, well...there are positions that won't work. I am a little more hesitant in baring my body, and my soul. But when comfortable and encouraged, with patience, I will work hard to find ways to do things as well, though perhaps differently, as my slim counterparts.
I am confidant in myself in my submission, less so in my body. But I like who I am, and it shows.

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/19/2006 2:19:25 AM

Lashra

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DelRey

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BBW being used I think she is saying, "I am a lazy fat ass that has given up".

I would say the source of this is ignorance. I'm a big woman but I haven't always been. I used to be a size 9 until 8 years ago when I became ill with a genetic medical condition. Now Im a size 20 and diabetic, I eat right, work out and nope the pounds arent coming off. Am I lazy fat ass that has given up? Not by a long shot buddy. I'll keep trying even though the doctors tell me it could be futile. For those that have given up its probably because they lack inspiration and are sick of hearing what a *lazy fat ass* they are.

AND FYI
size 8 to 16 are concidered by todays standards to be normal to small in size.
The BBW sizes dont start till size 18 up for the clueless.

To me anyone who is a size 8 to 16 should just be damn grateful because once you skip over into the 18+ sizes the selection of clothing dwindles quite a bit. Different clothing manufacturers state that a "large" can be anywhere from a size 12 to a 16 and most say a 18 is *extra large* it just all depends upon on the manufacturer.

As for me, how do I feel being a BBW? Well I tell ya, if I had a choice I'd rather still be a size 9. I probably wouldn't be diabetic, I wouldnt have alot of the health issues going on I have now and there's lots of choices in clothing and sex positions.

But since I am this way I love myself, enjoy life to its fullest and love those that I have been blessed with to come into my life. I have a a family and a BF that loves and adores me just as I am...female, Dominant, sexy, sadist, biting fetish freak lol the list goes on

One major thing that does bother me is lack of understanding by the common person and by some medical personal. I went to a surgeon once (male if that matters) who looked at me and said "Do you know your fat?" My reply was "Gee no shit? I hadn't noticed and by the way genius did you bother to read in my chart WHY I'm fat? Or had you not gotten that far when you decided to try and attempt to insult someone?" Needless to say he turned red in the face, I got up and walked out of his office and never went back.

The outside is only a shell that is easily cracked, what matters is on the inside.

~Lashra

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/22/2006 9:34:45 PM

bklynbbw

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this is my first time posting i just had to I have had no bad experiences, no one calling me names or any such thing. I do have bbw in my name to let it be known that I am no barbie. I am a beautiful woman inside and out. Im comfortable with who I am. And anyone who passes by just because I am a full figured woman, I say its their loss. As for not posting my weight, I am not hiding anything, but my weight in # would not give an accurate picture of me so why bother. I am big but I still have an hour glass shape, something that would not be thought if i put in numbers. I have in no way given up nor am I a "lazy ass" I guess everyone is entitled to their opinion though.

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 8:48:45 AM

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i have been following this thread , and must say i have mixed emotions about this topic. it was asked why "lable" one's self as BBW or any other label for that matter. i am a big girl, not obese, but over weight. i have not given up on the potential of losing weight, but one who doesn't know me and know my day to day dealing wouldn't have a clue if i had given up, was happy with my apperance, or was working extremely hard on the issue.

that being said, i have received numberous emails that said, if You were small, i would be interested in You, You have all the qualities that i am searching for, but You are a large girl. not just on this website, but other BDSM sites as well. for a long time i didn't put a picture up on my profiles. then i decided to heck with it, i am not ashamed of who i am, i am me, my Master loves me for me, for who i am on the inside, not what i look like on the outside.

i can completely understand where a large woman would want to state that she is BBW as beauty is in the eye of the beholder. what is beautiful to one, might not be to another, that is what makes this such a wonderful world. we all have our own opinions. but does that make one's opinion right and another wrong. no it does not. just as many in this lifestyle state....Your kink might not be my kink....well the same goes here....Your appearance may not turn me own, but another's might.

BBW simply keeps those that do not prefer heavy set women from messaging those said women, just because they read the kinks in the profile.

to those that choose to label themselves BBW, i tip my hat to Yyou for being comfortable enough with Yyour apperiance to admit that Yyou are a large woman, and again remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder and not one of Uus can sit in judgement of another.

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 9:12:04 AM

BeachMystress

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I've had wonderful experiences being a clinically obese Domme. I think it is attitude and personality that make a Domme interesting. I've met some thin Domme who had about as much verve as a coat hanger. One of the sexiest and most sought after Dommes I've met weighed 360 lbs.

One thing I've found, is that men are willing to "overlook" my weight to get to my Dominance. If I determined that I was not a normal vanilla dating choice of the male in question, I would not Domme him. It didn't make me angry or bitter. I just didn't want to put my valuable energy into someone who didn't find me to be intoxicating for my whole self. Preferences are preferences. We don't really pick and choose what our brain finds irresistible. (My personal preference that usually causes men to get upset, is for a man to have a thick cock longer than 6 inches.)

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 1:04:46 PM

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Most (note:I did not say all) girls discriminate against short M/men, most (note: I did not say all) M/men discriminate against what they ( note: I did not say I ) would call "fat chicks". That's reality, O/one should either accept it (or O/one), change who or what O/one is, or live in misery. Tough world.

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 1:23:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: proudsub

if you avoid refined carbs and sugar, by keeping your blood sugar even throughout the day which prevents sweet and starch cravings.

I've been eating five times a day recently going with: 1/2 bran muffin, buttered, cottage cheese, and 1/2 an apple. This is pretty tasty and blends well together --- and I've cut three pounds in the last 7-10 days. The key is definitely eating a lot AND losing weight. Its important that one's metabolism remain FULLY REVVED all the time.

I think it also helps to make killer salads. My favorite salad has:

chopped spinach leaves
1 sliced and diced fuji apple
sliced onion
1/2 sliced and diced bell pepper (red, yellow, or orange will do)
chopped nuts
sliced tomato

---all tossed with Italian dressing

Pasta, Potatoes, Ice Cream, Chocolate, et. al. can all be eaten --- but the portions need be small.

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 1:24:33 PM

ProtagonistLily

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Just curious as to how many BBW's there are out here and what their experiences have been like. Good or bad. Or any advice that you might wish to share would be awsome.

LadyElizabeth,

I've always been a big girl, and I never found it a particular 'problem'. I've had great play partners over the years, and have been active in my scene. My weight was never an issue because I didn't allow it to be.

I waited a long 8 years for Sir. I don't feel that my weight was a factor in this; mostly, I am and have always been picky and I wasn't willing to settle for any "Dom" in the storm. I was waiting for the right One.

When he came along, I knew he wasn't looking for me. I'd seen his profile prior to the day I ended up late at a munch and sitting next to this man, and his profile said 'no heavies.' While we had conversation and he seemed nice, I was not thinking that this man could possibly be the Dom of my dreams. And frankly, I don't think he was either.

He joined the organization I belonged to and when we'd see each other at a party or an event, we always ended up spending a significant amount of time chatting and laughing and getting to be better friends, which lead to emails, and about 3 months after our initial meeting, we started dating in mid June. He offered me a training collar and contract in December which I accepted.

When I tell this story, I feel sort of like 'Cinderella' in the respect that I went to an awful lot of parties and workshops by myself, unpartnered, for a long time. And although I was a respected member of my local community, I think that people start to wonder about you if you are around a long time and have never been in a committed relationship in the scene other than a few regular play partners.

I had pretty much resigned myself to the fact that I really wasn't getting any younger, and that perhaps what I was looking for in a Dom may never avail itself to me. When Sir came into my life, it was like the Fairy Godmother showed up and turned the mice into footmen and the pumpkin into my carriage.

I think, in the long run, those who are inclined to shun you because of a 'weight' issue aren't the people you want in your life to begin with. I'm 45 pounds lighter than I was when Sir and I met because I wanted to be able to keep up with him and do the kinds of 'running, jumping, climbing trees' kinds of things he's into. While he may run four 5k's a week just to stay in shape, I doubt that will ever be me. But, I started to do more exercize, started to be more careful about what I ate and have been cigarette free (God, I want one SO bad right now LOL) for 13 days without any 'cheating'. And so far, so good.

So I don't know if this helps, but if I can give you one piece of advice it's this: the women I know who feel badly about themselves due to their weight, reflect that. Those who I know who accept themselves and love themselves reflect that. The "weight" thing has much more to do with how we feel about ourselves as individuals, than whether we are 'pleasing' to others.

my 2 cents,
Kassie

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 3:01:48 PM

MySweetSubmssive

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Lady Elizabeth,

First I'll answer the question that you don't care about (what I think of the phrase BBW), and then the question that you do care about (how I've fared in the D/s world as a "BBW."). This is also my first post, so hopefully I will not step on toes ... or lips ... or other body parts.

I've always found the phrase BBW to be rather coy. There seems to be some conflation of being Big and being Beautiful, as if one necessarily follows from the other. I've thought, too, that the term is used as some kind of mask or justification. If I think I'm beautiful, I shouldn't also have to say that I'm big. And I'm not the boastful sort, so I'm not likely to go around saying that I'm beautiful anyway. Or maybe that's more ambivalence. (thinking out loud here) I use the term to let people know that I'm fat, and it's the accepted term. I don't know how to talk about my physique. It seems like a thin line between being acurate and being compassionate to myself. BBW is kind of a silly phrase (in my book), but it's better than "fat as fuck." ... though in my happiest moment, I do like that phrase, too! I like how unapologetic it is. Margaret Cho had some great things to say about that.

It's a funny balance for me. I really do want to weigh less, and know that I feel better when I do. On the other hand, I hate the absolute oppresiveness of women being judged by their appearance in this culture. It's such poison. (For example, the poster who is 130 pounds and is uncomfortable with herself) To be "fat as fuck" and to feel fine with yourself is a triumph, a rebellion.

It's funny, I am disappointed by men who don't enjoy my body type, but I'm also a little disappointed in men who say that they loooooooooooove BBW women. It makes me feel like a fetish rather than ... well ... a human being. There are a lot of different parts of me, and my body is just one of them. And men who say that they "aren't shallow" are just implying that they're doing me some kind of favor. Ick.

As to BDSM ... I started doing D/s after a looooooooooong period of not having any sexual partners and being ill. I hadn't exposed myself to anyone, and so it was awkward exposing myself to someone else. I still have to ease myself in, like a bather in a very cold pool, with new people. I'll admit it, it's true. I recently spent time with a submissive who just thought I was the sexiest thing, that I was beautiful, both my spirit and my body. I could see it in his face, that he could see all of me. It was so amazing, like getting back a part of myself.

I think that men are more open to BBWs in D/s than in the wider culture. I get many more messages on this site than I would on match.com. Knowing what the ratio is of submales to dominant women, I do wonder if this opennness sometimes has to do with scarcity, that submissives are willing to slide to get the experience. (Or as I tongue in cheek said to my best friend, "Who knew that fat and bitchy would get me so far?") Not all of them, of course, just some.

I've mused here for too long. I hope that no one will tell me that I should love myself more or that I really *am* beautiful -- saccharine! I'm just trying to be honest and sift through my own feelings on this.

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 3:15:40 PM

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I think that being happy with yourself is the most important thing, I was a somewhat big girl, I was 245 lbs and 5'4 so I slimed down, loosing about 85lbs in all, now I hover around 160 - 165, some people class me as tiny, some people class me as huge, I jsut class me as me, my outer self changing has made no real difference to the inner self, my feelings are still the same, my thoughts, I have not magically changed personality upon loosing weight, I have a little more confidence but not much. i actually stopped about 20lbs off my target as i got to the point of being happy, i am a uk size 12 top and skirts, 14 in trousers and it suite me fine.
I guess my point is that it's about whats inside and no matter what size you are beauty is more than surface deep.

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 4:34:53 PM

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IrisMist said "Same here. I personally hate labels of any kind, no matter what they are ( BBW, thin, skinny, model material...caucasion, white, black, african american...pfft...labels are EVIL EVIL EVIL ) The only use I can see for a label is to distinguish oneself above or below another.

On that same note...why does a person feel the need to label themselves in ANY way? Not being sarcastic...generally curious"

I am assuming that "irishMist" is a label?

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 4:39:45 PM

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"Most (note:I did not say all) girls discriminate against short M/men, most (note: I did not say all) M/men discriminate against what they ( note: I did not say I ) would call "fat chicks". That's reality, O/one should either accept it (or O/one), change who or what O/one is, or live in misery. Tough world."

How can O/one change being short?

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 5:10:51 PM

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As a submissive BM, I wouldn't use H for Handsome as I don't really think its important Handsome is different for everyone, I have had good experiences with all kinds of woman outside of the D/s setting. I am 6'0 325lbs with broad shoulders and even if I lost weight down to what I "should" be at, I would still not be a small person.

As a BM, I would say I am definetly more attracted to BBW-type woman. I think that it has to do with the fact most BBW woman are very comfortable with their bodies. In the past dating a woman who is 10 pounds overweight and is constantly saying that she is "fat" gets very annoying quickly, and shows how little self-esteem they have about their bodies.

As for the term BBW, if woman enjoy using it, then thats fine, as for the BHM classification, if a woman asked me if I was one, I think I would say yes, but I wouldn't call myself one. Not out of dislike for the term, but I just don't think of myself like that.

Brendan

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 5:19:37 PM

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"When Y\your heart is full of love, Y\your 10 feet tall." - Danny Kay

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RE: BBW's in a BDSM world - 3/23/2006 5:30:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShadeDiva
I don't have an overeating issue, in fact it is the reverse. Something that is VERY difficult for me to overcome is the fact that in order for me to LOSE weight, I have to eat. And eat a LOT compared to what I have been eating and am currently eating. I just have a REALLY hard time wrapping my brain that for me, a fat person, to get my metabolism going, that I have to literally triple my caloric intake (in a healthy way obviously) and eat 6 meals a day - EVEN IF I'M NOT HUNGRY. I just have a really hard time forcing myself to eat when I'm not hungry and that's what I'm supposed to be doing along with exercise.

I can completely understand that. I've always been "chunky" but it wasn't until i moved out on my own that i got truly fat. I spent over 4 years eating once meal a day, usually around 10pm. The reason? The kitchen in my apartment is dark and dreary, and i never learned how to cook. As a result, i had a very very poor metabolism.
I started dieting and excercising this past November, and i've found that i LOVE cooking and exercise is fun if you have someone to work out with. I've seen definite results, as have those around me. Even so, it took over a month of dieting and exercise to see those results. It took that long for my metabolism to kick into gear.
Right now i'm at 199 at 5ft 3". I'm in a size 16, which is the smallest i've been in several years.

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