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RE: Seeking Advice for Punishment - 9/5/2009 4:27:00 PM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

quote:

ORIGINAL: sensualvisions

My original post was asking advice on Punishment ideas, I really was not seeking anyone to determine my guilt, I already knew/know I am in the wrong- . Daddy even joked that I should know how to snoop better and cover my tracks and he knows I am sorry. Now after all this discussion I am lead to the point where I am now at trying to figure out if this relationship can be salvaged and repaired.  Is He really the ideal Daddy Dom for me.
Thank You all for your words and thoughts.  I have really had my eyes opened and have lots to consider.

Blessed Be
~sv


if your eyes had been opened you wouldn't be posting here because you really don't get the point of the silence, or at least what you should have taken from it. i was tempted to explain before but i hoped that you would sit down, be quiet, and figure it out on your own instead of seeking input. but since you haven't here goes.

isolation is meant to hurt. meant to make you stop and seriously see what you have done. nothing can make a submissive more reflective and cognizant of him than going without. your constant focus on him, him, him, is mind numbing. this isn't about him anymore but truly about YOU. why are you here seeking our ideas for something you've done? the two weeks of silence should have allowed you to create a host of them on your own. which can only come about when regret and acceptance have taken root. it is about modifying your behavior, not fixing the situation. because the very thing that led you to do this will cause you to do something similar once again unless you address that deficiency.

you have an opportunity to learn and maybe grow a tad from all of this. whether it means you're beside him or starting anew with a different dominant. the journey of submission is one that we each take back to our true selves. that means ripping away all the bs and getting to the heart of the matter. so take the time and figure out what's really lurking beneath the surface that led you on this crazy ride in the first place. it was never about him, it was about something else that his presence merely triggered.

porcelaine


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RE: Seeking Advice for Punishment - 9/5/2009 6:27:24 PM   
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sometimes our own insecurities get the better of us - but that is very much 'our' problem and should not be projected onto someone else and exorcised by going through private things for personal reassurance. 

i think a good punishment would be for him to ask you to write an essay on YOUR trust issues, YOUR insecurities and where they come from, why they manifested and how you thought it acceptable to rifle through his private things.

for a start it might help you to work through this issue for youreself and it would give him insight into youre actions.

clearly the two weeks of silence arent enough for him, frankly im not surprised, its to his credit really that hes coming back for more and giving you another chance.

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RE: Seeking Advice for Punishment - 9/5/2009 7:29:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sensualvisions

"I love You and I hate You, Time will determine Your fate". What's a sub to do?


sv




Sounds like he's watched a few too many soap operas. 

Personally, I'd change the channel.  

~sgs

< Message edited by sweetgirlserves -- 9/5/2009 7:31:31 PM >


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