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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 9:20:09 AM   
Elisabella


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Can some of you Masters share with me why most all require anal sex ?  Whats the big deal ?   Every time I see that the Dom is looking for a 3 hole girl, I just cringe, literally my cheeks tighten.  My ass has not been penetrated by a cock, or dildo. It has however been fingered and plugged with a very small plug. Are there any Doms that don't require anal sex?I  don't understand the anal sex thing,  every photo that I have seen has big ole stretched out anal holes,  I don't mean to be gross here but, ummmm  yuck. my question would be: How is that big ole stretched hole appealing and there must be some long term damages that are sustained from stretching out the anus.Thank You for sharing any thoughts on the subject.


I can't say for certain but maybe the "Daddy dom" types would be less likely to require a girl be so extremely sexually explorative.

I dunno, you have 3 pages here of "anal is great" and I think that's pretty representative...I'd say if you're looking for dominance without high levels of sexual perversion look somewhere more like takeninhand.com or something - on a site like this where the vast majority of ads show explicit porn pictures, it's going to be harder to find someone who isn't into explicit porn sex.

Good luck though! And don't feel pressured to do something you don't feel comfortable with. You're the one who'll have to live with yourself after.

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 9:22:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		I hate anal. I've tried to like it for years upon years. Every guy I've ever been with wanted me to do anal and I've tried. I've done everything I can to try and enjoy it but still find it's very difficult for me and very painful.

But Master enjoys its and so I do whatever I can to try and work through it.

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 9:33:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think there is anything wrong with anal sex, unless he out right refuses to let me do it to him. The male body is set up to ENJOY anal sex, the female body not so much. When a man starts denying himself sexual gratification based on some stupid homophobic mentality, that is when he loses all respect from me.


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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 9:33:59 AM   
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Pleasure/arousal often begins with the mind/thought processes.  Some enjoy 'enduring' pain for his/her dominant.  There is something purely animalistic about being used for another's pleasure, regardless of my own desires - this can experienced through rough sex, anal sex, or even NO sex.  I don't have any imperial evidence, but I personally believe that the attraction of anal sex is that in the minds of many it IS an act of domination. 

That said, my first thought when I read the post subject line was
I dont' know that everyone  is nearly as 'anal' as they should be...bunch of sloppy bazturds! 


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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 10:14:42 AM   
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I don't have any imperial evidence, but I personally believe that the attraction of anal sex is that in the minds of many it IS an act of domination. 



Many people seem to believe this.  I have a question, though: Why is anal sex seen to be more of a dominating act than other sexual acts that display dominance?  Is there something going on intellectually that adds to the sense of domination when engaging in it?

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 10:20:20 AM   
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I don't have any imperial evidence, but I personally believe that the attraction of anal sex is that in the minds of many it IS an act of domination. 



Many people seem to believe this.  I have a question, though: Why is anal sex seen to be more of a dominating act than other sexual acts that display dominance?  Is there something going on intellectually that adds to the sense of domination when engaging in it?




Because of the taboo, the number of people who express discomfort, distaste, disgust, unwillingness, fear.  If it was easy and enjoyed by all, my money is that it wouldn't be considered such an "act of domination".

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 10:27:57 AM   
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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 10:31:05 AM   
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I don't have any imperial evidence, but I personally believe that the attraction of anal sex is that in the minds of many it IS an act of domination. 



Many people seem to believe this.  I have a question, though: Why is anal sex seen to be more of a dominating act than other sexual acts that display dominance?  Is there something going on intellectually that adds to the sense of domination when engaging in it?




Because of the taboo, the number of people who express discomfort, distaste, disgust, unwillingness, fear.  If it was easy and enjoyed by all, my money is that it wouldn't be considered such an "act of domination".


Windchymes pretty much sums it all up.  :)



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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 10:44:51 AM   
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im an asshole does that count?


sloppy ones don't count :P

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 10:56:29 AM   
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FWIW, been there, done that many years ago. No attraction for me at all now.

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 10:58:19 AM   
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im an asshole does that count?


You make a good point.  I've actually wondered, when an asshole uses anal...is it masterbation?

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 11:21:00 AM   
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I don't think there is anything wrong with anal sex, unless he out right refuses to let me do it to him. The male body is set up to ENJOY anal sex, the female body not so much. When a man starts denying himself sexual gratification based on some stupid homophobic mentality, that is when he loses all respect from me.



Most men aren't aware that their prostate can be reached anally and are reticicent for many reasons to try it, one absolutely being the learned opinion that it's a homosexual activity. But just as it is a learned opinion, it can be unlearned. Like everything, these things take time and communication.

I know many men who were adverse to it at first, but I can be very persuasive. In the end, I always get my way, one way or another ;-)

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 11:21:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

I don't have any imperial evidence, but I personally believe that the attraction of anal sex is that in the minds of many it IS an act of domination. 



Many people seem to believe this.  I have a question, though: Why is anal sex seen to be more of a dominating act than other sexual acts that display dominance?  Is there something going on intellectually that adds to the sense of domination when engaging in it?




Because of the taboo, the number of people who express discomfort, distaste, disgust, unwillingness, fear.  If it was easy and enjoyed by all, my money is that it wouldn't be considered such an "act of domination".


Windchymes pretty much sums it all up.  :)





*short thread-jack*, sorry!

Winsome, I was just sitting here thinking I hadn't seen you in here in awhile, and it was good to see you back!

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 11:38:19 AM   
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*short thread-jack*, sorry!

Winsome, I was just sitting here thinking I hadn't seen you in here in awhile, and it was good to see you back!


Thank you  

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 11:44:45 AM   
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I hate anal. I've tried to like it for years upon years. Every guy I've ever been with wanted me to do anal and I've tried. I've done everything I can to try and enjoy it but still find it's very difficult for me and very painful.

But Master enjoys its and so I do whatever I can to try and work through it.

Yep, this is how it is for me as well.


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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 12:55:52 PM   
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I hate anal. I've tried to like it for years upon years. Every guy I've ever been with wanted me to do anal and I've tried. I've done everything I can to try and enjoy it but still find it's very difficult for me and very painful.

But Master enjoys its and so I do whatever I can to try and work through it.

Yep, this is how it is for me as well.



Honestly, the biggest problem (for those who aren't into the "hurts so good" thing) is usually the initial stages of anal because your bottom simply isn't ready.  The solution to that, is to TRAIN your bottom... after doing so, you'll be able to focus on the enjoyment of your use, and not stress about the "pain" of it all.

To do this, simply choose a day or night (or both) training schedule.  If by night, then simply lube up and insert one of the "Night" use butt-plugs below, then slip on your undies so it doesn't slip out while sleeping; obviously graduating to larger plugs over time.  Notice the ones for "Night" use below are uniform in width all the way up the plug, so you can't really form a good grip on them like you can the one for "Day" use.  The advantage to the "Night" use plugs is they are shaped more like a cock, which will help train your bottom for that INITIAL insertion.  The one for "Day" use, however, will accustom your bottom to being filled, and thus, will help following insertion. 

Additionally, too many will wear a butt plug (no matter the size) for just a short time.  That is NOT training your bottom.  Wear the "Day" ones ALL DAY... wear the "Night" ones ALL NIGHT... or mix things up.  Then, after your bottom is accustomed to the LARGER plugs, then add a lubed dildo to the mix (i.e., fuck your own bottom) while masturbating;  ideally with something like a Hitachi Magic Wand, or your favorite vibrator... whichever works best for producing an orgasm.  Doing this will allow you to MENTALLY associate PLEASURE (not pain) with anal.  Where the mind goes, the flesh will follow... and soon, you'll find you're orgasming from anal. 

I'm sure some are thinking "NO WAY?!!" to all this... but all I can say (from experience) is... it not only WORKS, but it is sooooooooooooooooooo worth it!!! 

Day Use
http://www.amazon.com/California-Exotics-COLT-Anal-Trainer/dp/B001TK3GHE/ref=pd_sbs_hpc_1

Night Use
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*Note:  For those who get constipated frequently, that in itself could be the cause of the pain.  A warm enema (of mild soap and water, or just water... not mineral oil) prior to bedtime to clear things out will help SIGNIFICANTLY as well.  Not a deep enema (so remain upright)... just used for flushing things out.

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 2:43:21 PM   
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Interesting. Men seem to have a rather ... simplistic idea of domination.

Just my two Euro-cents.



It's interesting you would draw that conclusion from a single post.

Jeff



Have to agree with Jeff here, he did *not* say it was the only way to show domination, but one way. When Sir has me bent over and is roughly taking me that way, damn right I feel dominated. Might I also add since when is "simple" a negative? Sometimes a "simple" slap or a "simple" whipping is one of the most efficient ways to get a point across and make me feel even more owned and dominated. Of course I always emotionally feel that way, but what is wrong with a quick and rough reminder of it, especially if it's so hot and pleasurable, and brings my submissive feelings very viscerally and intensely to the forefront in about ohhhh 30 seconds?

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 2:49:54 PM   
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I don't think there is anything wrong with anal sex, unless he out right refuses to let me do it to him. The male body is set up to ENJOY anal sex, the female body not so much. When a man starts denying himself sexual gratification based on some stupid homophobic mentality, that is when he loses all respect from me.



Most men aren't aware that their prostate can be reached anally and are reticicent for many reasons to try it, one absolutely being the learned opinion that it's a homosexual activity. But just as it is a learned opinion, it can be unlearned. Like everything, these things take time and communication.

I know many men who were adverse to it at first, but I can be very persuasive. In the end, I always get my way, one way or another ;-)

- LA



Oh the brillliant Lady Angelika . Spot on. To add if I may, even Dominant males like it too, they just don't always admit it. Sir loves that feeling, and he is a straight male but he is not one bit adverse to getting his pleasure anyway he can. Who would blame him? I mean really, there is nothing "gay" about wanting to maximize your pleasure. And even if it is gay pleasure to gay men, so what? Lighten up people.....what feels good feels good. Gay, straight, bi, pan, if it rocks your sexual world, then just relax and enjoy.

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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 2:53:41 PM   
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Honestly, the biggest problem (for those who aren't into the "hurts so good" thing) is usually the initial stages of anal because your bottom simply isn't ready.  The solution to that, is to TRAIN your bottom...


These are people who are old enough, and have been around enough, to know about anal training. Apparently their dislike goes deeper than the pain if they're saying outright 'I don't like it.'

I don't like it myself, and it doesn't hurt me. I get nothing out of it, it's not humiliating, and I get very bored since it's not sexually exciting. It doesn't matter if I'm turned on or not.


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RE: Is everyone anal ? - 12/26/2009 3:14:10 PM   
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Most men aren't aware that their prostate can be reached anally and are reticicent for many reasons to try it, one absolutely being the learned opinion that it's a homosexual activity. But just as it is a learned opinion, it can be unlearned. Like everything, these things take time and communication.

- LA


Ohhhh, I don't know about that.  I'm sure every man who has bent over with his pants around his ankles while listening to the foreboding snap of a latex glove is well aware that their prostate can be reached anally.

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