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Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your subm... - 5/21/2010 2:24:08 PM   
SocratesNot


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Status: offline 		I have no experience as a Dominant but, as a Dom I would like to make my sub more dominant. Of course she would be submissive to me, but I would like to make her more dominant and more assertive in her relationships with other people. Especially if I encountered someone with issues with their self-esteem and self-confidence (which is quite often the case with submissives) I would do my best to solve these issues and to make them more assertive, self-confident and dominant.
One of their tasks as my subs would also be to dominate me when I want it, which would allow them to experience being in charge, being in control (a certain ego boost), while at the same time satisfying my switchy desires.
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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:26:19 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I presume you mean to make her more dominant in her personality and show more confidence and assertiveness in her day to day world?

I'm not sure you understand the difference between dominant orientation, dominant personality and being a top.  Can you tell me what you consider the differences to be?

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:28:53 PM   
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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:29:34 PM   
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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:31:29 PM   
LadyPact


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Excuse this momentary disruption.  We now turn you back to your regularly scheduled thread so it can be filled with six pages of responses from folks who actually involve themselves in BDSM or power dynamic in some way.


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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:31:53 PM   
Malkinius


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No. It is always the opposite.

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:33:52 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

someone with issues with their self-esteem and self-confidence (which is quite often the case with submissives)


I'll go ahead and address this.

It's just as common with dominants as it is with subs.  :)

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:35:16 PM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		And then general public, many of whom SHOULD have low self esteem

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:38:24 PM   
SocratesNot


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It's just as common with dominants as it is with subs.  :)


Well, this is quite interesting. Really, there might be a lot of Dom(me)s with issues about their self-esteem and self-confidence and many of them might be quite insecure beneath their dominant appearance.

Maybe some of them even became doms, JUST BECAUSE of these issues, in order to heal their wounded ego or something like that.

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:40:09 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Maybe some of them even became doms, JUST BECAUSE of these issues, in order to heal their wounded ego or something like that


Plenty of people get into kink to escape their issues and find it not so helpful in that in the long term.

But the ones who stick around are usually more actual dominants who try to use their dominance as a shield so they won't have to deal with the issues.

Please to be responding to first questions?

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:41:41 PM   
leadership527


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OK seriously. You're kidding right?

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:41:48 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		Being a submissive and knowing quite a few, why do you assume we have self esteem issues?? Quite the opposite from those i know.

Why would dominating you help with those afore mentioned issues, we are sub, we dont wish to dominate.

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:46:42 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: frazzle
Why would dominating you help with those afore mentioned issues, we are sub, we dont wish to dominate.


I'm afraid I think that information is above his pay grade.

Best not further confuse him with the understanding of subs who top and S/M vs D/s switches.

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:52:03 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		As his profile cant be found not sure if sub or Dom.

Have a feeling, trying to play the Dom and then use excuses, that are all for the subs beneifit, to turn her Domme, which is what he's actually looking for!!!!


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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:53:22 PM   
Wolf2Bear


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Status: offline 		Unless she has the desire and want to be more assertive with others...good luck bud.

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:54:42 PM   
leadership527


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ORIGINAL: frazzle
Have a feeling, trying to play the Dom and then use excuses
Really? My theory was that someone had developed a random BDSM post generator and was testing it out.

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:56:01 PM   
frazzle


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i'd hide bear, shes ferocious

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:57:13 PM   
laurell3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527

quote:

ORIGINAL: frazzle
Have a feeling, trying to play the Dom and then use excuses
Really? My theory was that someone had developed a random BDSM post generator and was testing it out.



LOLOLOL that's priceless Jeff!

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:57:23 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Really? My theory was that someone had developed a random BDSM post generator and was testing it out.


That actually makes more sense.

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RE: Do any of you Dominants have a desire to make your ... - 5/21/2010 2:57:35 PM   
frazzle


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