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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

Especially if I encountered someone with issues with their self-esteem and self-confidence (which is quite often the case with submissives)

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..which would allow them to experience being in charge, being in control (a certain ego boost), while at the same time satisfying my switchy desires.

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ORIGINAL: frazzle

Cant wait fo myotherself to see the new pic

i'd hide bear, shes ferocious

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i think though that you have to be careful about finding a sub with switch abilities - personally i would find it difficult to dominate my partner and it would mess with my head a bit.

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

Really? My theory was that someone had developed a random BDSM post generator and was testing it out.

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6.8 billion people on the planet. Yup, some of them ARE this dense...really.

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot
One of their tasks as my subs would also be to dominate me when I want it, which would allow them to experience being in charge, being in control (a certain ego boost), while at the same time satisfying my switchy desires.

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Many simply are not interested in that type of activity.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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Many simply are not interested in that type of activity.

Not that interest is relevant in many areas subs are expected to become competent in- but it does tend to help.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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i think though that you have to be careful about finding a sub with switch abilities - personally i would find it difficult to dominate my partner and it would mess with my head a bit.

It's not the mine field the propagandists like to make it out to be.  People do it all the time and there's no issue at all.

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I'm not sure you understand the difference between dominant orientation, dominant personality and being a top.  Can you tell me what you consider the differences to be?

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If they are topping on your orders then they aren't really in control or in charge. I'm saying this as a Dominant who bottoms sometimes, so I have experience here. If they are focussed on 'satisfying your switchy desires' then they aren't in charge...

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Where exactly did you you get the idea that 'many' subs have low self esteem?

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ORIGINAL: tsatske

I am a submissive woman. I have been since birth, but had a happy vanilla marriage when I was younger which produced my beautiful, wonderful, now adult sons. We stayed married as long as the preacher told us to, and I never sought another vanilla relationship after that, because I am a submissive woman, and by then I knew I was not the only one in the world, and it was possible to meet Dominant men.

Early in my path as a sub, I had a Top or two (referring to their role in my life, not making a judgment about their Dominance. They simply were not a Master to me, only a Top) ask me to top them, sometimes very mildly. a little later, I had partners ask me to Top other women. I am capable of neither. I do not have a Dominant bone in my body.

In addition to being submissive, I am mentally ill, past forty, fat, and balding, and, as my last two attempts taught me, no longer suitable for breeding. I have odd ideas about Religion, Philosophy, Science, Child rearing, Literature, Art, Politics, and everything else that matters, and I am damned opinionated about it, too. I talk too much and sometimes too loudly.oh, and as was pointed out in a recent thread, my spelling sucks eggs. Plus, I am not a great lover of animals in the house. I am waiting with great impatience for grandchildren, and am extremely active with my family and my church - a deal breaker for many Doms. I have other disabilities which limit certain play activities. I am not a suitable partner for most people - but, in my opinion, no one is a suitable partner for MOST people, and I am only interested in finding those with whom I am a good match.

None the less, I am warm, sweet, sympathetic, great with kids, a great cook, intelligent, a great conversationalist, witty, with a great sense of humor, a sparkling personality, and a zest for life. For someone I am the perfect slave. I like to get beaten on now and then, rather severely being my preference - but there is nothing wrong with my self esteem. Where exactly did you you get the idea that 'many' subs have low self esteem?

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

I got this idea by for example reading profiles of slaves and submissives who every now and then mention things like they are worthless or they want to be taken advantage of and similar things.

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

I agree tsatske gave a very beautiful confession.

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Where exactly did you you get the idea that 'many' subs have low self esteem?

I got this idea by for example reading profiles of slaves and submissives who every now and then mention things like they are worthless or they want to be taken advantage of and similar things. Also, even those subs who never admit that they have issues with self-esteem tend to be quite self-conscious and much quicker to recognize bad sides in their personality and other shortcomings than would non-submissive people do.

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So your evidence for this assertion is an interpretation of the profiles of a bunch of strangers? It's never occurred to you that 'being taken advantage of' might be a hot fantasy for some? Or that saying 'I'm a worthless slut' on what is effectively a BDSM sex site doesn't necessarily equate to sincere feelings of worthlessness?

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

I agree tsatske gave a very beautiful confession.

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Where exactly did you you get the idea that 'many' subs have low self esteem?

I got this idea by for example reading profiles of slaves and submissives who every now and then mention things like they are worthless or they want to be taken advantage of and similar things. Also, even those subs who never admit that they have issues with self-esteem tend to be quite self-conscious and much quicker to recognize bad sides in their personality and other shortcomings than would non-submissive people do.