jack8007 -> RE: Don't criticize the educational system or students (2/20/2011 12:07:52 PM)
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something I have already discovered What you haven't discovered is the traditional cultural pattern - men tend to talk only to solve problems, which they take seriously. Women talk to relate, and they aren't serious, only maneuvering for position - you don't understand, I am discussing solutions, not trying to make your girlfriends happy. We're just on different wavelengths - women (usually) just want everybody to seem happy, while men expect to solve problems, and leave people free to deal with their own realities. I'm telling you up front, 'this is the solution to the problem', and you simply cannot believe that I am not like you, ie not worried about reality as long as everybody is smiling. This is the reason men & women can think they speak the same language, and still not communicate - they use language for different purposes. Men are obvious, women are not. What you have to do is avoid being mistaken for the other gender - in other words, don't talk like you're serious if you're not. It confuses everybody - including yourself. You really don't have to call names or get disturbed - just accept the fact that I am talking about an impersonal reality, and you are free to ignore it, or deal with it. I cannot guess or care what might upset you, that is your personal problem.
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