LadyConstanze
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The actions you describe; excessive stalking, Phone harassment, and abuse of public services as a form of harassment are all earmarks of nonviolent psychopathic behavior. I am surprised their aren't any mutilated animals.
The only reason why it's "nonviolent" is because he's in the US and I'm in the UK, that's my guess. It also makes matters more complicated as there were no threats to my safety or life, plus in Europe getting a phone without any form of ID is a bit more complicated, so the public services assumed that if somebody leaves a number and gives a name and address (all fake of course) it's not a prank call as the system works in a different way. Add to that the the police in the region from where the phones were bought isn't too keen to take on additional work and thinks since the bothering appears on our side of the pond, it's a problem for our police. It's fairly obvious who it is, only he never sent a threat by eMail so it is difficult to get his ID from his eMail provider as it is all just a "suspicion" and even law enforcement has to abide the law. There's CCTV footage of him buying one of the mobiles (which was luck, he usually keeps them a while and most shops erase their footage after a relative short period of time), so all professionals I have talked to agree that I'm not his first victim, but currently his fave victim. For about 2 years said person seemed to be fairly normal, then blew his gut when I disagreed about the usage of the N word, I consider it vile and racist, he disagreed and about a week later fun and games started.
As for mutilated animals, he reported me as a dog abuser, the RSPCA came to check and instead of the abused dog they heard about (apparently he had heard the whimpers through the phone and I had bragged how I beat her and burn her - yup, sounds like me, I must have used magic to make all those injuries disappear), they were asked in and found a happy dog cuddled up with 2 cats who showed no signs of abuse or fear, so they offered me another Dobie who went through several homes because people didn't understand the mentality of the breed and got annoyed by his high maintenance and abundance of energy and they wanted somebody who has one already to avoid him going through more homes, which is fairly traumatic for dogs. I think maybe there was a bit of karma at work as the boy has become a cherished fixture in our lives.
All I could do was connect the dots, and put each and every public service in touch with the police where I had already reported the harassment, and now wait until he makes a mistake or finds another victim he likes better... It's actually quite frustrating, even though I think I am fairly covered now as there is basically nothing left he could contact (he's a thorough bugger) and everybody knows about it, it's galling that I can do nothing but sit there and hope that he'll move on (btw I have not reacted to anything, done it all by the book, he got ZERO reaction out of me, so no encouragement), it makes you feel a bit weak, simply because you can't do a thing, apart from documenting and informing the police. I have to say that the Anti-Stalking group has been amazingly helpful, along with my doctor who understood the problem and we had a good chat about medication, she knows I'm not too much into antidepressants (for a while I was severely depressed and afraid to get up in the morning because I was worried what "prank" would be next), and it is quite galling to know that you were groomed as a victim, makes you feel damned stupid and to be honest, I wouldn't ever have thought that somebody will invest 2 or 3 years of "friendship" to then turn psycho.
Part of it was undoubtedly my own fault, I wasn't aware of some programs that will show the eMail address attached to social networks and profiles, so he could study my LinkedIn and FaceBook information (all hidden now and different email addresses used for them), the really funny thing is, he tried to tell others that in fact I am stalking him, maybe I was a bit unfair, but I cut each and every single person out who was a link as I didn't trust anybody anymore and didn't want to run the risk of anybody feeding him updates. Of course there is the chance that he might read this post, but you know, fuck it, what else can he do?
The tragic thing is when it happened and he was also spewing hate and lies, some women contacted me and told me they know how I feel, same thing happened to them but they were too worried to push it and contact the cops as they are nearer to him and he bragged about his contacts.
There's basically nothing you can do about it, sure if I could persuade some of the women, we could make a page and try and warn others, he would change his SN (for the record he's not from CM) or more likely play the offended upright dude who's harassed by those bitches...
So I am absolutely with Lady Hib, if you know that somebody is abusive or unsettled, don't let somebody else run into a knife, give them a bit of a warning and even if it is just to watch out for strange behaviour, and yes, hindsight is always 20/20 vision, there were some red flags which I had ignored or attributed to cultural differences...
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