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RE: Sadism vs Sadists - 3/6/2012 9:06:01 AM

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Im conflicted with my life growing up and what i gravitate to sexually - i enjoy being used, hurt, humiliated - and am getting more daring if not careless. How do you get the rush and not get in trouble? What do you look for?

I see you're a female sub in Florida, which has an active kink scene. I recommend going to local events and/or really getting to know people before being alone with them. Fetlife.com is a great source for events.

This is really a topic for a whole new thread - feel free to start one, or perhaps someone will offer links to earlier thread on the subject.

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RE: Sadism vs Sadists - 3/7/2012 6:22:01 PM

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As a sadist, I totally agree.

My masochists provide the release and freedom of My sadism, however the perfect candidate would be someone that struggles with it.

In the UK we have a term called "consensual none-consent" which is not rare on the S&M scene here.

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Not necessarily. In fact, it could well be postulated that many sadists are more pleased inflicting suffering on someone who takes no pleasure on it, instead of on someone who suffers less because they are capable of transforming the pain into pleasure.

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RE: Sadism vs Sadists - 3/7/2012 8:10:39 PM

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Im conflicted with my life growing up and what i gravitate to sexually - i enjoy being used, hurt, humiliated - and am getting more daring if not careless. How do you get the rush and not get in trouble? What do you look for?

Tough one: a nerd would probably not have developed the cunning to completely take advantage of you, on the downside, it means you'll probably have to top from the bottom to get him to rise to your expectations, and then reign him in if he gets arrogant, thinking it because he's all that and not because you've made him a puppet of your insane needs.

Otherwise, it's the luck of the draw: play the field, don't commit too soon, look for somebody you have a genuine connection with before disclosing what a crazy bitch you are, and take a long look at who he runs with: if he's Joe middle class, he probably won't turn you out, if he's in with a bunch of hard cases, chances are good you're an option not a solution.

i.e., no matter how badly you want to be abused, he should still respect you - a weird conundrum, but there you are, and you need to stick up for yourself - we've all got issues, try to figure out what his are and go from there.

i.e., there are sadists, and then there are out of control psychopaths and all purpose imbeciles, don't stick more out than you can afford to lose.

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RE: Sadism vs Sadists - 3/7/2012 8:21:14 PM

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I would really like to hear from a fullblown sadist POV. We all know the stories of kids enjoying the torture of ants or spiders or what not. How does it feel?

This is as far as I got in this thread before having to quote you and hit reply.
That question shows that you have clearly no idea about BDSM consensual sadism and instead liken it to the dictionary definition of 'sexual sadism/sociopath/psychopath' personality types. I don't know whats come after this particular question. Perhaps you have been enlightened, perhaps not.

Although I may enjoy inflicting sensual pain on someone who loves sensual pain, I couldn't work in an abattoir, I couldn't hurt anyone against their will, I couldn't hurt an animal or even deliberately kill an insect and I couldn't be trained to torture people and go home with an easy conscience because after all, it was just a job and someone else told me it was ok to do that.

Certainly in terms of an SSC framework, there is a large distinction between sadism an psychopathy - with an SSC sadist, you don't end up in the hospital with bruised organs or cut up in a garbage bag off the interstate.

In more general terms, it's bit less cut and dried, there's a lot of overlap, and harder to make firm distinctions - but generally speaking the "full blown" sadist will do lasting damage mainly only to your psyche, though you might end up with a scar or Two.

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RE: Sadism vs Sadists - 3/8/2012 1:25:43 PM

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Again I will say my final.
I learned to like to inflict pain cause it gives her pleasure.
I do not trust someone inflicting pain for selfinterest.
You can tell me those fuckers are classy and only do it to the consensual.
But dont tell me you dont use your manipulative tricks in the outside world.
Thats a blatant lie.
Did I spell blatant correct?