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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:44:21 PM   
searching4mysir


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ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub

I actually have a fiancé



And yet you never mention her in your profile.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:45:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub

I actually have a fiancé (semi-vanilla) and we have been engaged for a year, known each other for 3. I don't mean to sound defensive, but it hard when people do not actually respond to the question, and instead seem to copy paste responses from other threads.

Why the ffff are you responding to people who aren't dealing with your OP? Damn you're easy to troll. Most of the posts on this thread are begging for moderator attention, since the purpose of this forum is to welcome newcomers.

Read the thread I linked you to. Then read it again. That will help you more than any argument.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:46:21 PM   
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Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a tool. Help!

quote:

ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub

I actually have a fiancé (semi-vanilla) and we have been engaged for a year, known each other for 3.


Making no mention of your fiance in your profile makes you look like a tool.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:47:57 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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ORIGINAL: Baroana

What?????????

So you're just looking for a piece on the side?

Well sorry, dude. You can put lipstick on a tool, but............


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Um, any particular reason you decided to not mention your fiancee in your profile?


No one would be "on the side." She is completely open to me looking. She does not want to participate, which is why I did not make it a couple's profile. I did (I believe, it may have somehow gotten stripped off with the "nerd information") say at the end that a potential sub/slave would need to be fine with poly.




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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:49:28 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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Status: offline 		Thank you for being kind :) Many people here seem to be looking for a fight. I might have to turn off notifications in my email, as while there were some good information at the top, there seems to be less and less of it.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:49:32 PM   
searching4mysir


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ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub


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ORIGINAL: Baroana

What?????????

So you're just looking for a piece on the side?

Well sorry, dude. You can put lipstick on a tool, but............


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Um, any particular reason you decided to not mention your fiancee in your profile?


No one would be "on the side." She is completely open to me looking. She does not want to participate, which is why I did not make it a couple's profile. I did (I believe, it may have somehow gotten stripped off with the "nerd information") say at the end that a potential sub/slave would need to be fine with poly.








While she may not be involved, a potential slave is NOT going to take your word for it that she is OK with it. She will want to meet her and discuss boundaries, limits, etc. with her.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:50:40 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir


quote:

ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub


quote:

ORIGINAL: Baroana

What?????????

So you're just looking for a piece on the side?

Well sorry, dude. You can put lipstick on a tool, but............


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Um, any particular reason you decided to not mention your fiancee in your profile?


No one would be "on the side." She is completely open to me looking. She does not want to participate, which is why I did not make it a couple's profile. I did (I believe, it may have somehow gotten stripped off with the "nerd information") say at the end that a potential sub/slave would need to be fine with poly.








While she may not be involved, a potential slave is NOT going to take your word for it that she is OK with it. She will want to meet her and discuss boundaries, limits, etc. with her.



I am not opposed to that at all, in fact I welcome it. I do think that, when I update my profile, I will be putting this information in there as well.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:51:07 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		Perhaps the reason they copy/paste or refer to other threads is because they are relevant to your question!

You aren't the first and won't be the last that we have seen on here - it's a regular topic.

I don't even have to read your profile.
From what others have said, I can tell it's far too much into the 'what I want sexually', too much detail and nothing of you as a person.

Others on here are far mor experienced than I and you need to take some advice.
That's what you asked for wasn't it??

All too often we see people asking and then rebuffing everything everyone tells them.
Bad mistake.
These people know what they are on about - they live the life in a lot of circumstances, very successfully too.


Just my

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:53:48 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir


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Okay, then, niether is slave. Ill explain to people calling themselves slaves when they have had no experience to remove that, and go to you for explanation.

Also, if you read what I posted, I do have experience. So the point is moot.




Not if you think this is a good idea you don't:

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I also might leave my sub tied up for hours, or even one or two days at a time. During this period of punishment, all I would allow my sub to eat and drink would be my cum and urine, respectively


This screams "I have no experience and have been locked in mommy's basement watching porn for the last 10 years".



I have never done that, you're right. And, most likely, after about an hour (with the threat of it being more), I would have most likely finished the scene.

I come off as very forward in my profile as I am looking for someone who will be fine with experimentation. I will add in my profile when I update it, whether or not I have done a specific task. Hell, I may remove the tasks altogether.

I put them in there because I didn't want to lead anyone on thinking I wanted something less than I do. But I guess saying that I am into watersports is good enough.


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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:56:57 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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Perhaps the reason they copy/paste or refer to other threads is because they are relevant to your question!


accusing me of having 0 experience or not being romantic is not relevant, as per the reasons I have posted. Thank you.

quote:

From what others have said, I can tell it's far too much into the 'what I want sexually', too much detail and nothing of you as a person.


Yes, thank you. Is there anything you can add to the other's discussion? I am not refuting specific help, I am refuting people not even reading my profile and expecting they have the answers for me, and then they in fact, after reviewing them, do not (See previous quote)

If you see the first page, there were a lot of good critiques, and I will be updating my profile soon. I have thanked them, and would have thanked them individually if there was time. Again, please read before you assume. thank you :)

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:57:26 PM   
Baroana


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ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub


quote:

ORIGINAL: searching4mysir


quote:

ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub


quote:

ORIGINAL: Baroana

What?????????

So you're just looking for a piece on the side?

Well sorry, dude. You can put lipstick on a tool, but............


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Um, any particular reason you decided to not mention your fiancee in your profile?


No one would be "on the side." She is completely open to me looking. She does not want to participate, which is why I did not make it a couple's profile. I did (I believe, it may have somehow gotten stripped off with the "nerd information") say at the end that a potential sub/slave would need to be fine with poly.








While she may not be involved, a potential slave is NOT going to take your word for it that she is OK with it. She will want to meet her and discuss boundaries, limits, etc. with her.



I am not opposed to that at all, in fact I welcome it. I do think that, when I update my profile, I will be putting this information in there as well.



Well in that case, you belong in the poly forum. Honestly, at the rate these threads are showing up, there really does need to be an "Ask a Unicorn" section added. Mods, are you listening?

And yes, Cleopatra, Queen of Denial, if you are married to one of your partners and not married to another, someone is very much "on the side."

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 12:59:42 PM   
SinFix


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a little side note... learn to take advice and yes I want to know what kind of past experience he has had with others... and no not every "slave" calls their owner Master... just sayin

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 1:00:10 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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ORIGINAL: Baroana


quote:

ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub


quote:

ORIGINAL: searching4mysir


quote:

ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub


quote:

ORIGINAL: Baroana

What?????????

So you're just looking for a piece on the side?

Well sorry, dude. You can put lipstick on a tool, but............


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Um, any particular reason you decided to not mention your fiancee in your profile?


No one would be "on the side." She is completely open to me looking. She does not want to participate, which is why I did not make it a couple's profile. I did (I believe, it may have somehow gotten stripped off with the "nerd information") say at the end that a potential sub/slave would need to be fine with poly.








While she may not be involved, a potential slave is NOT going to take your word for it that she is OK with it. She will want to meet her and discuss boundaries, limits, etc. with her.



I am not opposed to that at all, in fact I welcome it. I do think that, when I update my profile, I will be putting this information in there as well.



Well in that case, you belong in the poly forum. Honestly, at the rate these threads are showing up, there really does need to be an "Ask a Unicorn" section added. Mods, are you listening?

And yes, Cleopatra, Queen of Denial, if you are married to one of your partners and not married to another, someone is very much "on the side."


Okay, then, do you suggest I update my profile to be a poly profile even though she will not participate in our scenes?

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 1:01:10 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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ORIGINAL: SinFix

All I will say is welcome to the forums...

a little side note... learn to take advice and yes I want to know what kind of past experience he has had with others... and no not every "slave" calls their owner Master... just sayin



Thank you :)

And I was merely remarking that under the gentleman's definition of Master, the vast majority of slaves would not refer to their Dom as Master.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 1:01:48 PM   
Baroana


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Status: offline 		Just curious, will you be ok with it if and when your fiance/wife wants to start looking for her own boy toy?

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 1:02:13 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Oh My Good God. If you really think you are going to attract women with that profile, calling your own self "master" is the least of your worries.

You were a Daddy Dom for a year and your profile is so fantasy based that it's able to be spotted from a mile away. Somebody with some decent experience in their background should know better.

I have a punishment dynamic. Anybody who does generally knows the difference between a mistake and willful disobedience. Are you going to punish if she burns the eggs, too?

You are right about one thing. If you haven't done it, you really don't know. A person doesn't know what it's like to be a slave unless they have been a slave to someone. Same thing goes for the Master gig. If you haven't owned another human being, you don't know the reality of it. The old saying of if you have to tell people that you are a Master, you probably aren't one is usually pretty accurate. If you introduced yourself to Me at a munch as Master so and so, with no sub collared to you and having obviously not earned your leather, I'd probably laugh at you.

Take the profile down a notch. Most people reading it don't care about your fantasies. It's just a big neon sign on the things that you haven't done yet. Maybe consider doing a journal entry for the fantasy stuff of a scene that you would like to do someday. Let the profile be about you as a man. You've got a head for something besides your own orgasms. Why not let people get to know that part of you? I know you're young, but fucking doesn't occupy every moment of every day.

Read that link that Red gave you and absolutely take the advice that kalikshama offered you. Consider a rewrite, even if you won't consider a different screen name.


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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 1:02:49 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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Just curious, will you be ok with it if and when your fiance/wife wants to start looking for her own boy toy?


Of course. She has actually had a vanilla friend come over and have a lot of fun on their own! Sexual freedom is great :)

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 1:07:38 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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Take the profile down a notch. Most people reading it don't care about your fantasies. It's just a big neon sign on the things that you haven't done yet. Maybe consider doing a journal entry for the fantasy stuff of a scene that you would like to do someday. Let the profile be about you as a man. You've got a head for something besides your own orgasms. Why not let people get to know that part of you? I know you're young, but fucking doesn't occupy every moment of every day.

Read that link that Red gave you and absolutely take the advice that kalikshama offered you. Consider a rewrite, even if you won't consider a different screen name.
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Thank you very much. I do plan on a pretty much full rewrite already, considering the responses I have been getting.

I originally filled my profile with fantasies and instructions to be upfront with what I was looking for. I will absolutely be putting more of my "vanilla side" in the profile.

I was also afraid that putting things on there like being interested in Minecraft and World of Warcraft would push away people who didn't think I was serious about the whole thing. I realize now that I was wrong.

Again, thank everyone in here who has helped me like Ladypact. There are some in here who have admitted to refusing to even read my profile, which is what the original post was asking for, and to you, I ask to read my profile and then provide specific responses like others have. Thank you!

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 1:18:31 PM   
Masterfor1sub


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I have a punishment dynamic. Anybody who does generally knows the difference between a mistake and willful disobedience. Are you going to punish if she burns the eggs, too?



I may playfully spank, but I would not be actually angry. Does my profile really come off that I would?

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 1:20:04 PM   
Inghammar


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Status: offline 		Let me explicitly state that I am a dominant male who just did an exercise in reading your profile and trying to put myself in position of a female submissive reading it and what she might think.

I don't think a woman who has interest in the activities you enjoy would have those interest toward just any strange man on the bus. Right now you, like me, are the strange man on the bus. Even if there is a profile that explicitly states 'USE ME AS A TOILET NOOOW!' she has in mind a certain type of relationship with a certain type of person and would not be much likely to hang around the men's loo in hopes something fortunate comes her way.



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