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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 5:38:00 PM

Masterfor1sub

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Okay, you have a point.

I was thinking of you as a man searching for a woman. If you redefine things as being in a relationship, then of course you can have her call you anything you desire.

Mea culpa.

I think we are just in violent agreement :p When I make the new profile, I will hold of on using the word Master.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 6:03:23 PM

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Are you going to keep that username? To me it implies monogamy.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 6:14:34 PM

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Not to be offensive but you really dont confident in your profile you sound like a self centeted tool. Im sure you're a very lovely person in real life so your profile should reflect that. I read the first two pages then skimmed through the rest so if I'm just repeating what others have said I apologize. I would be more specific as to what you're looking for. Someone to play with on the side? I know you mentioned your finance didn't want to be apart of it but very few women want to be a play thing on the side for an engaged man so spell out exactly what her role in your life will be. Secondly, what are you bringing to the relationship? Because kinky or vanilla, sub or not, no one wants to be in a completely one sided relationship. Like many others have mentioned most women can find someone to have sex with in five minutes. Like they could walk down the street and probably find someone to sleep with. So what can you offer that's non sexual? I think its extremely unlikely you'll find a woman who will be into everything you mentioned and even if you do she probably doesn't want to read about it in those terms. It really does sound like a sex fantasy story. I don't want to read a profile that sounds like the guy wrote it while jerking off. She's a woman first, a slave second. It really sounds like you're looking for a sex doll with a pulse. So either take a trip down to Hustler and buy a sex doll or think about her as a human being.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 6:40:08 PM

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"all within the course of 10 minutes"
Wanting to get through with a sex act asap is sure to attract women!

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 8:31:56 PM

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Ok, so basically another troll who doesn't want advice. He just wants to be told how wonderful he is and to not change a thing because it's perfect!

Yeah, it IS perfect. Please leave it the way it is.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 8:35:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Ok, so basically another troll who doesn't want advice. He just wants to be told how wonderful he is and to not change a thing because it's perfect!

Yeah, it IS perfect. Please leave it the way it is.

Ok you know what? Im just going to go. You guys can keep attacking a strawman without reading either my profile or the thread you're even posting in. I swear, some people.

If you want to know why I'm angry, read my responses to over half the people in here. You're just plain wrong. I have taken a shitload of hard to hear advice to heart okay?

Fucking...damn.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/8/2012 8:38:50 PM

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and you obviously are not getting anything people are telling you.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 1:40:23 AM

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Re the 'playful spanking' for mistakes, your profile says this:

I will have many rules for my sub. I am a very strict Master when it comes to rules. Punishments for disobedience or mistakes will be swift. If you are not able to follow simple rules such as "Always capitalize Master, Dom, and even the word 'You' when speaking to me," expect pain, welts, and sometimes blood

I've never had a playful spanking that drew blood.

You've been given a hard time on this thread. I know that sucks. A big part of it was that you got defensive. You can ignore as much advice as you want (and in general that's a good way to work on the internet - don't take things personally, just disregard what you don't like) but getting defensive only makes people want to argue with you even more.

BUT you've also taken some things on board and shown that you've given it some thought, which is a good thing. So go away and re-write or start a new profile. Think about your username - I don't feel strongly about using 'Master' but as you've seen it's a divisive issue so think about whether you want to use it. And I do agree that your username suggests monogamy. Please do mention your fiancee on your profile - it doesn't have to be a couple's profile but you want to be upfront about what you want. Someone who is interested might feel you are being sneaky if you mention later that you are engaged. Just a couple of lines about how you have a partner, it's an open relationship, she's willing to confirm that. You might also want to add a line or two about how your sub will fit in - will this just be play once a week? Will you allow her to have other partners? Are you hoping to eventually live all together in one house? 24/7 TPE suggests that to me. Someone looking for 24/7 might not be satisfied with you going home to your girlfriend at the end of the day. Of all the things that you DO need to share up front, this is the main one, because this is the one that will take the most working out.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 2:59:17 AM

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I would also wonder how it would play out with another girl when or if he gets married to his fiance. Is he prepared for the fallout?

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 11:07:06 AM

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DING DING dING!!! Add yet another un-apealing thing now perminently linked to your wank-tastic profile. Good going!

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ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub

Please don't take this the wrong way, but that's a really insulting. How can you tell me who I am? What my screen name should be?

Dom or Master is an orientation, it has nothing to do with how many... Instructional videos made.

For your information, I've had experience. I don't put that "I've been a Daddy for over a year, as well as multiple irl partners" on my progile because 1) I'm not looking for a daughter any longer and 2) I've seen plenty of times on here how people are disgusted when men brag about past accomplishments.

Please do not tell me that I am not a Master. I do not accept it more than you would accept me telling a slave she's "not a real slave"

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 11:26:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: Masterfor1sub
Okay, then, do you suggest I update my profile to be a poly profile even though she will not participate in our scenes?

There is a great big difference in poly & a perminant 3-some!!! If this fiancee truely exsists & is available for consultation, she is a primary partner (kink or not) any second, third, fourth...never know fiancee may decided to take some lovers (what's good for the goose & all that)...would be poly partners.

My poly male by all outward appearances was my boy friend, companion & lover...that had a 2nd female travel companion. I knew enough about her that trusted them. We never met & chats "between the girls" he usually monitored. Was usually really hot & sexy stuff too..."remind him extra cigars are in his socks, he needs boxers washed & my birthday is next week". "Your birthday how lovely, would you prefer blue or dark green for your gift?" "Green please & person you two are meeting really enjoys sailing & despises golf. Please remind him of this, business deal is important to all of us!" "Sailing, not golf. Cigars in socks, green got it...have fun on your week off, adore you." "Adore you too have fun"

Damn if that isn't poly porn I don't know what is...WHEEW hot stuff

ETA gd f'n blackberry bastard!!

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 11:42:24 AM

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You're right, as I've said after your message I haven't done this, and it is only a fantasy. I would like to try many things out and experiment with a sub, including prolonged bondage.

I would expect that if the play got too out of hand, such as they were actually in need of water, a safe word would be said, and I would rush to their aid. I know there are some people who think safe words are not sexy or whatever, but they are a requirement when playing with me.

Again thank you for your information.

WOAH wait a minute & WTF??? Why should a sub need to safe word for water? Feeding urine for days bound common sense should tell you will end badly even without a safe word. "Safeword being a requirement" I'm going to interpret as they get one, in this context it reads as "here's your safe word, you're going to need it because I have no idea what I'm doing & may or may not stop".

Playing grammer cop is the least of the issues I can see. As for the bolded bit, are you a liar? Or did your own words just betray the previously mentioned sub & fiancee as fantasy?

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 11:50:15 AM

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I've re-read the profile and I'm going to make some comments:

1) The part about consideration. The fact is that it comes across as arrogant especially considering that sub females that are willing to be poly are very few and far between. The competition for her attention is stiff....and she will be the one who gets to pick and choose. So, be realistic. She knows she's a valuable commodity and behaving like she has to jump through hoops will just cause her to go to someone else.

2) Your profile is written like she would be living with you, which I highly doubt since you're engaged to another woman.

3) You have a lot of micromanagement things in your profile and since you're engaged to someone else, it's unrealistic to think you'll actually have that much time to devote to a submissive. Not to mention, you clearly have no idea of what it's like to have someone that has to ask you EVERY TIME she has to pee. I'm sure your fiance would be thrilled to have her life constantly interrupted by those phone calls.

4) The expectation that the submissive will wear a collar 24/7 except to shower once again shows fantasy land. At many places of employment it would be inappropriate and subject to disciplinary action. Unless you're paying all of her bills, putting a roof over head, putting food on her table and putting money into her 401K.....it's unrealistic to expect that she wouldn't have a job. Let's also mention family events. Her family does not evaporate once she becomes your submissive. I know I wouldn't wear a collar in front of my mother and father.

5) You're expecting a submissive to drink your cum and urine (fluid bonded), but you have a fiancee that also has outside sexual partners. That's not playing safe.

6) Being trained to do inane, meaningless, repetitive tasks simply tells me that you don't respect me....because you think it's okay to waste my time, which you view as having no value.

7) It's unrealistic to think you could have someone tied up for days living on cum and pee.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 11:55:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I would also wonder how it would play out with another girl when or if he gets married to his fiance. Is he prepared for the fallout?

I'm finding a great deal of humor in "kinky enough to chain a bloody slave in the basement a few days" marrying someone that's not at all interested in kink! This is like the thread a few days ago wife to breed & whore for need.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 11:55:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I've re-read the profile and I'm going to make some comments:

1) The part about consideration. The fact is that it comes across as arrogant especially considering that sub females that are willing to be poly are very few and far between. The competition for her attention is stiff....and she will be the one who gets to pick and choose. So, be realistic. She knows she's a valuable commodity and behaving like she has to jump through hoops will just cause her to go to someone else.

2) Your profile is written like she would be living with you, which I highly doubt since you're engaged to another woman.

3) You have a lot of micromanagement things in your profile and since you're engaged to someone else, it's unrealistic to think you'll actually have that much time to devote to a submissive. Not to mention, you clearly have no idea of what it's like to have someone that has to ask you EVERY TIME she has to pee. I'm sure your fiance would be thrilled to have her life constantly interrupted by those phone calls.

4) The expectation that the submissive will wear a collar 24/7 except to shower once again shows fantasy land. At many places of employment it would be inappropriate and subject to disciplinary action. Unless you're paying all of her bills, putting a roof over head, putting food on her table and putting money into her 401K.....it's unrealistic to expect that she wouldn't have a job. Let's also mention family events. Her family does not evaporate once she becomes your submissive. I know I wouldn't wear a collar in front of my mother and father.

5) You're expecting a submissive to drink your cum and urine (fluid bonded), but you have a fiancee that also has outside sexual partners. That's not playing safe.

6) Being trained to do inane, meaningless, repetitive tasks simply tells me that you don't respect me....because you think it's okay to waste my time, which you view as having no value.

7) It's unrealistic to think you could have someone tied up for days living on cum and pee.

Very well said. All poinTs are spOt on, hOpe he Listens carefully.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 12:02:16 PM

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 12:04:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Chortles
Scanning through my One Twue Dom handbook, it says under rule #1
Before you can be a master, you have to have a clue

DING DING DING winner & still champion....KKaAAAANNNAAAAAAA!

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 12:12:21 PM

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My best advice for you op:

remove every word from your profile.

read as much as you can about becoming a responsible dominant.

make sure that the abomination that is called 50 shades of gray is not on your reading list.

Go to local munches and events and learn something.

Come back when you can put yourself in your submissive's shoes, mentally.

Learn, learn, learn.

here's something that you did correctly:
asking questions to try to improve.
Good luck with that.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 2:01:45 PM

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Get a blow up doll watch some more porn. Problem solved.

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RE: Hi! I don't want my profile to make me look like a ... - 12/9/2012 2:03:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland

My best advice for you op:

remove every word from your profile.

read as much as you can about becoming a responsible dominant.

make sure that the abomination that is called 50 shades of gray is not on your reading list.

Go to local munches and events and learn something.

Come back when you can put yourself in your submissive's shoes, mentally.

Learn, learn, learn.

here's something that you did correctly:
asking questions to try to improve.
Good luck with that.

QFT

Your profile screams fantasy only, absolutely no experience.
The whole micromanagement thing while you're living with another woman.
The being engaged to someone else by itself will vastly limit your pool of possible partners/playmates.
Going by your profile, you are never going to share a meal with this person, go to the movies with her, and no way would you get out of your fiancee's bed to rescue her when her car breaks down.

You offer nothing to induce anyone to want to be in a relationship with you. Because she gets nothing from it. Not a friend, not a lover, not a safe play partner.

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