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Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 6:55:35 AM   
slavekyle


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Status: offline 		Okay i know that i will seem like a real sapling for posting this - but here goes.

~takes a deep breath~

A few months back i was contacted by an area Domina - very beautiful to my eyes - probably not to most submissive men.  She had an exceptional way with words, was highly intelligent and very cultured.  It was truly a gift, in my opinion, when She contacted me because i have gotten so few Dominas that actually take the time to write first - let alone right more than a 2 or 3 sentence reply to anything i write.  As Y/you will see - i am wordy and tend to write in great detail - having a great gift for creative writing (fiction - BDSM - romance - erotia, etc.)

The more W/we conversed in e-mail and chat the deeper i felt my emotions going towards Her.  After about a month of chatting and such, She contacted me and demanded a face-to-face meeting.  She wanted a weekend getaway from home and job and was going to drive half of the hour long distance to meet me.  She was putting Herself up at a hotel and i was under no obligation to stay or even to spend much time there - i.e.: no pressure for play or sex.

i completely agreed to all Her terms and as the day approached W/we both began to say things i felt were genuine - including a lot of talk about how deep O/our feelings were for one another and how the "L" word might be spoken very soon by B/both parties to one another.

On the day of the meeting i went to a local florist and bought Her a dozen red roses and made sure they were the best possible.  i tried to find a vase - but even a creative man is not always good at picking out decent ones so i passed for the moment not seeing anything that really looked right.  i drove up to meet Her and called from the road to let Her know i was nearing the destination.

When i got there my instructions were to wait in the parking lot for Her call with the room number.  About 5 minutes later i got the call and went to Her room with a bag filled with some BDSM toys in case things went that direction (NEVER letting on that this is what was in there), some things for staying overnight in case i did wish to remain there, a soft-sided cooler with ice water and soda, and the roses.

W/we met at the door and i was floored by Her beauty in person.  For the next hour or so W/we walked around a nearby park on the lake, sat and talked just off the beach and got to know each other even better.  i was nervous and shaking a bit because She was so cultured and so beautiful - and i'd not been through an "interview" like this in such a setting where all i could think about was how romantic it was.  She assumed i was cold and i let Her think that way - not wanting to show my inner tremble as being nervousness.

W/we drove to a restaurant in the heart of the small town and ate dinner while watching a hockey game - my favourite team - on TV.  She was very into hockey, though for the local team and not mine.  But W/we enjoyed the food and the company.  i kept my hand on Her leg much of the time after eating and sat very close to Her showing how i felt.

By this time the most i had shared of my "feelings" was a very loving hug - not wanting to go too far too fast.  But all along i had an overwhelming desire to kiss Her passionately as i was falling head over heels for Her.  After dinner we drove back to Her room and sat on the couch chatting for about half an hour or more - most of it talking in depth about hard limits, desires, goals, and how She wished things to be if i was to become Her collared slave.

Finally She excused Herself to the restroom and came back moments later for my examination - i was put in the middle of the floor and made to slowly strip for Her as She looked every inch of me over.  By the time She got to having me remove the last of my clothing i was as hard and erect as a man can get by this slow and sensual exam.

She started things off by undressing part way, not showing me Her incredible cleavage as of yet - and lying down on the bed to administer a massage to Her back.  i did so and She enjoyed it.  As the night moved on She removed everything except Her panties and i was now massaging most every inch of Her voluptuous body and so very in love with my tasks and feeling myself very much into Her as well.

Next She had me lie on my stomach and began to finger my man-pussy and seemed to very much be aroused by the fact that i didn't flinch, fight or object to Her invasions of me.  In fact She was anxious to meet again, She told me later on, so She could take me to the next step and use it on the thick part of a strap-on.  i purred and cooed with each probe She did.

my good behavior earned me the chance to worship Her Temple - and i did so hungrily feasting on it until She climaxed.  Then is when things went so wrong.

After bringing her to an orgasm - one that was very hard for Her from what i could gather - i crawled up next to Her and W/we kissed as She wished to taste Herself on my lips.  After i got some ice water and came back to begin anal worship of her when my cell rang - trouble at home.  my roommate was having issues with my cats being destructive - they were acting up because they missed having me there and i knew what this meant -- that i'd picked the wrong "sitter" for them.

i told Her that i was sorry - that i needed to go and hated to go.  W/we kissed passionately and held each other.  i swore that i wanted - and needed - to come back and do this again and would be sure that next time i had my ex-wife stay with them as they are very used to her and she could control them better than my pathetic roomie.

She fully understood the depth of love i have for my young babies and told me She fully understood my need to go - and made me swear that next time i would stay.  i did, kissing Her hand in worship

i left feeling guilty because quite honestly i'd never though about things going that far.  i'd hoped they might and planned for it - but left my toy bag aside and didn't let Her know that's what was there so there was no pressure and no preconceived expectations.  Nor did i tell Her about the toothbrush, toothpaste and other items to get ready in the AM should She wish me to stay the evening in Her bed taking care of Her every need.

i even went so far as to bring a change of "sissy clothing" as She loved to dress thinner-built men up in sissy things and use them - one of the reasons She was so attracted to me.

After i left i felt that everything was good - but i guess this was my mistake.  i called before getting home to thank her - to praise her beauty and seductive ways - to say She was honsetly one of the best Dominas i'd ever been with on a "first interview" session and that i longed to be back at Her feet very soon.  The call went straight to voice mail

The next morning i got a letter in e-mail saying She'd left the hotel shortly after i did - not wanting to be alone.  i called twice - no answer and no voice mail either.  i wrote back and swore on the lives of my departed cats (She knew how much i loved my babies who had passed away within the past 3 years) - and knew that an oath on them was like gold to a greedy man - that i would make it up to Her the next time by staying as long as She wanted -- no excuses and no begging to go back for any reason.

Over the next week i got a few letters - each seeming to be responsive to meeting again and how She was impressed by how devoted i was, not only to my "kids" but to wanting to be there for Her and to become one of Hers.

Then the e-mail stopped - the chats ceased - and i heard nothing but silence from any calls.  A Domina friend of mine informed me that She'd taken a new pet and was boastful of it in Her Collarme journal.  i was crushed.  i did not get online for a few weeks trying to get over the hurt of being dumped so cold like that after expressing my true feelings to Her that night and telling Her over and over how i would move Heaven and Earth to get closer to Her if it would mean more time in worship and servitude.

So now anytime i log in to Collarme i almost always see Her profile come up as being online recently in the past few minutes.  Despite Her "busy" life it always seemed that i'd bump into Her profile and be reminded of how i opened myself up and was butchered all over like a slaughterhouse animal.  Seeing Her brings back the hurt each time and the emptiness of not knowing why i was "dropped" so suddenly after all signs pointed to honest and good things.

i should probably be posting this in the "Ask Submissive" area but felt that too many subs in there were female subs - which i really don't subscribe to any Woman being submissive since Women are the truly dominant sex.  So i am asking it here.

How do i get over this?  How can i stop the hurt and pain?  Should i 'confront' this Domina again in e-mail?  Or just cut this one up to another lost chance and move on?

i just don't understand.  In Ohio and Michigan i have had zero luck since the age of 34 with anyone long term as a Domina.  my first was at 16 for 3 years.  my only other from this area was at 33½ for 6 months before She released me and passed away from cancer a year later.

Yet when i lived in Florida for a year i was involved with two exceptional Dominas - one for 4 months before She sold me to a Domina friend who kept me for 4½ before releasing me to return to Ohio and patch up my family issues.  And even while down there i met so many wonderful, honest Ladies that kept asking my first Domina, Mistress Deidre, how they could find one so devoted as me and would She share?  i was even told by the Domina that ended up buying me, Mistress Vanessa, that there was a bidding war to earn my services between Herself and 6 other Women that i'd met while attending BDSM parties, munches or just seeing/meeting them outside of Lifestyle functions!

So why is it so difficult in Ohio/Michigan - and yet so easy in Florida?  i am the same person here today that i was in Florida over 3 years ago!  Even Ms Vanessa (a member of Collarme) is shocked and appalled at the Ohio/Michigan Dominas that refuse to give me a chance or will "use me up" as they did before my moving to Florida as Ms. Deidre's pet/lover/slave.

i am very sorry for the wordiness of this post - but i warned Y/you i am a writer   i just can't understand - and i can't deal with the pain each time i see Her profile and photo and wish i was back at her feet.

Thanks to A/all that respond and even to those that just view without commenting.  i hope each of Y/you has a wonderful weekend!

slave kyle - sad and blue in NW Ohio
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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 7:28:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		It is very heartbreaking when someone we feel a great deal for who claims to return that feeling no longer wants us. We may wonder whether they ever felt that way to begin with or if something we said or did, or did not do, has caused their feelings to change. The best way to get over this type of heartbreak is to acknowledge it and move on. Examine the situation (as you have). Do you feel that maybe you moved too fast emotionally? Does it seem more likely that is was nothing you did or did not do, but rather something in the Domina that brought this situation about? In hindsight do you see things that might have warned you a situation like this would occur with this Domina?
You mentioned that you haven't had any luck in this since moving to Ohio/Michigan. Have you changed since you moved? You also mentioned that you were involved in the community over in Florida- is the same true now? Have you attended the munches and parties as you used to? Perhaps the problem is geographical. Though it's unlikely that there are no good long term Dominas there, or that the ones that are have already been taken it is possible. Your heart may be bruised by the way this Domina has treated you, but remember that it is your heart to give where you will. You are the only one who can choose who you will or won't submit to. Don't be discouraged by others unwillingness to give you a chance. Odds are if they are refusing to do so they would have been a bad fit for you anyway. Better for you not to waste your time. I wish you luck in finding a woman worthy of your worship who knows how to treat you as you deserve.
 

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 7:53:01 AM   
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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 7:56:42 AM   
slavekyle


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Status: offline 		Honestly, Ms Black i have not changed much since returning from Florida.  i have gotten two new "kids" and that's about the extent.  i have a full time job also, but am willing to work around that or even give it up if i was put into a 24/7 total slavery issue.  i am rather flexible!  As for the community scene - no, i have not.  i was taken into the community my by Domina and introduced around while in FL and, since being in OH have obviously not had an "in-road" towards that.  The only local group in Toledo seems far more geared towards lesbian Dominas and hetero male Dominants - so i always felt out of place attending those.

Perhaps i did "jump in with both feet" before really knowing what was happening.  i don't know.  i am a rather emotional person by nature - so it's highly possible.  But as i learned a long time ago from a much older and wiser friend, "It isn't love if it doesn't hurt when it's over."

Thank you for Your kind words and advice.  i will keep it all in mind and try to keep my spirits up and hope for the best.  For now i will probably just try to notify friends of my going offline again and avoiding places such as Yahoo and Collarme for a while to try and lessen the pain i feel.  i feel NO ill feelings towards Her what so ever - i just figure something got mixed up someplace or Her feelings changed or altered somehow and this "new pet" were more intense than what She felt for me.  Obviously this new one is closer - giving Her more time for play.  So i am happy for Her and for this new pet.  i am not the jealous type - just a confused and emotionally spent submissive is all

i wish Her nothing but the best - and wish You and Your partner (i see You are a couple - not sure of the relationship) the very same and do appreciate You taking the time to respond

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 7:58:34 AM   
slavekyle


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Status: offline 		  Funny way to look at it - but yes.  Maybe my devotion to my kids was more than She could handle.  i assumed She understood - but i know feelings change.  It's okay - time heals all wounds and with time i will too.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 8:43:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Very sorry to hear of your hurt.

The best advice would be to use that feature of "hide user" & prevent her profile from being the one that greets you when you sign on.

She has obviously decided to move on for whatever reasons. You remaining persistent may not make any difference.

I wanted you to also know that this happens to many of us. I had a similar situation a number of years ago. We had much more than one meeting & the same sentiments were shared. It was heartbreaking when he severed the communication with me. I didn't have closure. There was no indication of any trouble. He just refused to take calls, blocked me from messages & email... POOF!! gone.

Sometimes we have to find our own closure. It hurts like hell but getting past this will ensure your ability to find others. Having this lingering hurt will cause new people to shy away from you. It took a little time but I got over it & today I am in the best relationship I have ever had in my life. Often we both tease about how thankful we are for the previous idiots we have had in our life for if they had not been idiots we would have never found one another.


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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 8:44:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: slavekyle

  Funny way to look at it - but yes.  Maybe my devotion to my kids was more than She could handle.  i assumed She understood - but i know feelings change.  It's okay - time heals all wounds and with time i will too.


I doubt it's your devotion to your babies she couldn't handle, rather your priorities she likely questioned. After all, it's not as if your "babies" were in iminent danger. They were just pissed off. I do not see that as sufficient reason to prematurely end your first meeting with a potential mate. A meeting which she had gone to great lengths to plan and arrange and make into a very special weekend for both of you. Sorry, but if I were in her shoes I would have felt completely rejected and embarrassed to be thrown over for a couple of cats having temper tantrums, not to mention really pissed off for ruining a lovely weekend I'd spent weeks planning and anticipating.

If I were her I would have seen it as a HUGE red flag that you were not available to devote yourself to a Mistress.


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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 9:22:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Since the available groups near you aren't catering to you or those like you, maybe you could see if anyone in your area would be interested in starting a new group that does. At the very least it will help you meet local people who share your interests.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 9:37:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		What he said. <<<After bringing her to an orgasm - one that was very hard for Her from what i could gather - i crawled up next to Her and W/we kissed as She wished to taste Herself on my lips.  After i got some ice water and came back to begin anal worship of her when my cell rang - trouble at home.  my roommate was having issues with my cats being destructive - they were acting up because they missed having me there and i knew what this meant -- that i'd picked the wrong "sitter" for them.

i told Her that i was sorry - that i needed to go and hated to go.  W/we kissed passionately and held each other.  i swore that i wanted - and needed - to come back and do this again and would be sure that next time i had my ex-wife stay with them as they are very used to her and she could control them better than my pathetic roomie. >>>>>>


Pardon my exotic language, but you are chitting me right?  You are just trying to entertain us right?   Because if you are serious, as a woman domme or not, I would have a difficult time processing that as normal behavior for a man that is really into me.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 9:45:26 AM   
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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 10:03:30 AM   
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I'm sorry, but My gut here screams fiction.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 10:05:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		....My animals have always meant more to me than my humans.

...Likewise my slaves mean more to me than my lovers.

I would forgive a slave for needing to be with his responsibilities.

If she had a problem with the subbie's behaviour, she should have stated it instead of just dropping him.

*shrug* ....My dear boy -- move on. There will be other wonderful strong women.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 10:05:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

I'm sorry, but My gut here screams fiction.


I would have to agree. Just too flowery and perfect till he added a well placed "twist". Aside for the fact that he felt the need to telll us he is a writer twice. Is he trying out a story scene to see if it sounds "real"?

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 12:39:27 PM   
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I have heard of "cat ladies" but not cat men.  I agree with some of the other ladies that have posted -- a man would lose a lot of points with me if he took off on after a great weekend because his (cat) "babies" were having separation anxiety. If she is a well traveled woman with exotic tastes and a desire for adventure, it would not take long for her to imagine the damper it would be on future romantic getaways because you have to deal with your cats.

It's a matter of priorities.  To be honest, it's kinda creepy/weird and unmasculine/not comforting that you had to run off to take care of cats.   I am a HUGE animal lover.  In that situation, I would have questioned your ability to plan and prepare for your pets' best interest and start wondering what future hiccups might happen because of cat drama.

Your priorities right now are your cats.  When you are ready to have a relationship, then take steps.   Otherwise, spare women the headache of you having to rush out for kitty 911.

I mean seriously, why couldn't you have the roommate lock them in the bathroom with food and litter box and cat toys and "make it up to them" when you got home?   If you were so ready to leave her to take care of your cats, it's not hard to predict that if she came home with you and "the cats hated her" she'd be out.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 3:44:22 PM   
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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 4:37:04 PM   
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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 4:51:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Exactly.  I'm an animal lover as well.  I could see if the guy said the cats were throwing up needed to be taken to vet or having some major episode that couldn't be handled by over the phone instruction.  They were behaving like brats, put them someplace they couldn't hurt themselves or anyone else till you were to returned.  I've lived with kittens from birth to adulthood, nursed sick cats through some major illnesses in the past.  Believe me, they'll manage if you don't come home for a while. 

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I have heard of "cat ladies" but not cat men.  I agree with some of the other ladies that have posted -- a man would lose a lot of points with me if he took off on after a great weekend because his (cat) "babies" were having separation anxiety. If she is a well traveled woman with exotic tastes and a desire for adventure, it would not take long for her to imagine the damper it would be on future romantic getaways because you have to deal with your cats.

It's a matter of priorities.  To be honest, it's kinda creepy/weird and unmasculine/not comforting that you had to run off to take care of cats.   I am a HUGE animal lover.  In that situation, I would have questioned your ability to plan and prepare for your pets' best interest and start wondering what future hiccups might happen because of cat drama.

Your priorities right now are your cats.  When you are ready to have a relationship, then take steps.   Otherwise, spare women the headache of you having to rush out for kitty 911.

I mean seriously, why couldn't you have the roommate lock them in the bathroom with food and litter box and cat toys and "make it up to them" when you got home?   If you were so ready to leave her to take care of your cats, it's not hard to predict that if she came home with you and "the cats hated her" she'd be out.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 5:20:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well i am quite sorry that most all the Women seem to find it hard to imagine that a man might love cats.  Perhaps if i invited You all to my office at work to show You all the photos of my kids?  The three who have passed away and whom i still mourn each time their birthday comes up or their "death-date" hits?  Or perhaps the photos of the two current ones will do the trick - one of wich is sleeping in a small corner of my computer chair with her paw on my leg as her way of saying she loves to be next to me.  When i chose Vixen from the 30 or so kittens at a humane society 2 counties away (about 45 miles) the first thing she did was to reach up at me and almost "hug" my neck with her paws to show she liked me.  Can any of Y/you imagine a grown 40 year old nearly crying?  Guess not.  Guess it's also impossible for a man to love cats too - and to love kids.  Guess it's all about being "manly" and cats are not manly - but dogs are!

i am sorry if i sound peeved right now but i am.  No one in here knows me - Y/you all just "think" that something must be wrong with me because i have a wanker between my legs.  i nearly died the day i lost my first cat to feline CRF.  She as 17½ and i was 38 when she passed.  No - 38 ... not 18 or 8.  She was my first pet ever and the reason i am who i am today - a man that can and will show emotion, loves kids, adores cats and would lay down my life to defend kids or animals.  i am not some left-wing PETA nut - just a person that's seen first hand that a cat can change a life and a heart.  Before her passing i lost a boy cat that i'd found 9 years before and took in as my own.  His passing was while i was out with my wife (now my ex) having dinner and when we got home finding a message on the answering machine from the vet saying he'd died suddenly of a hemmorage after having his teeth cleaned and one removed.  my third child died of a large tumor under her lung and suffered for several days without me knowing what it was - thinking it was an "asthma-like attack" brought on by her being high strung.

Each loss hurt like no other pain i've suffered before.  So i am very offended that anyone would even think that a cat is no reason to "leave a scene" of any kind.  To me they are my kids - the only ones i may ever have.  And they cannot be reasoned with over a phone like human kids and told "go to bed and i'll see you in the morning."  it was obvious something was wrong based on the cries - and to this day i have no idea what it was.  but i made the right call - much to the obvious displeasure of most here.

Things happen - sometimes that no one can control.  But yes - under the terms of the arrangement for that night i was told that i did not have to stay and there was no pressure.  i put the pressure on myself when i heard my boy cat crying out meows - something he rarely ever does.  He was glad to see me when i got home and i realized that my choice in "cat-sitters" was a bad move.  Since then i have taken steps to "withdrawal" from the house for longer periods of time and seen that the kids are fine.  Obviously they are not comfy with my roomie alone for whatever reason - but alone they are fine.

And yes - i am a writer.  i write fiction based on dreams i have at night.  But what i put here was not fiction.  i have since been in contact with the Domina in question and found that indeed technology failed things and i jumped to a bad conclusion based on "old habits" ... just as many here base their opinions of me on "old habits" when dealing with men.  So the next time accusations of lying are hurled - perhaps facts should be checked first.  i made the statement of being a writer to explain my lengthy detail - something about 98% of the Dominas on here would kill to read instead of a 2-sentence statement!

Maybe this is what is wrong with the lifestyle nowadays - far too many wankers/game players and far too many untrusting people that can't believe something could be as it is said.  i did not come here to gain friends or sympathy - to find a Domina that would pity me - or to put myself out here for accusations and slander either.  i came here for a reason - to end the heartbreak.  i have since started to heal thanks to the Domina seeing this and writing me.  i have never EVER wished any harm to her nor do i blame Her for any of this.  i wish Her nothing but the best.  Maybe if there was a little more compassion in here and on these boards - and a little less slander and anger towards "creatures with dangly parts" there might not be so many issues of mistrust and so many more hurt feelings.

Perhaps i was wrong to try and get advice from P/people that mistrust so easily.  i'll remember this the next time i decide that i should open my big mouth and ask for help.  i can now see that honesty is dead - and all that reigns is a web of lies, deceit and mistrust.  Thanks for making my decision about the lifestyle so much easier.

(in reply to RosaB)
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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 5:48:11 PM   
QueenVanessa


Posts: 17
Joined: 12/27/2005
Status: offline 		I am quite proud of you, my former slave. As always, your acts are above reproach and your words are taken out of context. Personally, I feel you are right in your assumptions of the Lifestyle. It is so tainted with children seeking sex and women taking for granted that there may truly be a decent man still out there. It is their loss that the few gems like you slip through the cracks because of their own dark hearts.

But you will always be welcome back in Florida under MY care and stren hand

(in reply to slavekyle)
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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/24/2006 6:24:43 PM   
Proprietrix


Posts: 756
Joined: 7/15/2005
From: Ohio/West Virginia
Status: offline
I’m sorry, but my first thought was
"wank"
On the very first meeting, you’re planning on sleeping over with this woman that you've never met.
A bunch of different sexual activity takes place in a hotel room with someone you only met a few hours earlier.
You make a point of describing your sexual encounters in detail. (As if we really want to hear about some lady's juice on your lips and how her "interview" gave you a raging hard-on.)

You left after a good dose of sexy frolic with a woman, because the cat acted up.
She got on with it and found someone else.
I really don’t see that there was a love relationship there in the first place. You knew her for all of a few hours and some email.
Again I say…
wank?
Chalk it up to a one night stand and figure out which pussy you want a relationship with, and which pussy you want to play with.
Then be honest.
Even to yourself.

_____________________________

IMO, IMHO, YMMV, AFAIK, to me, I see it as, from my perspective, it's been my experience, I only speak for myself, (and all other disclaimers here).

(in reply to slavekyle)
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