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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 6:28:59 AM

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I actually somehow missed that part. Okay, that PROVES this thing is bogus... I mean... EVERY cat person knows you don't "handle" cats! They are, after all, the dominant species! LOL!

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Did you also notice that he said he would get his ex-wife to sit the cats next time because she knows how to handle them? That's a bit wierd to me too. Who get's their EX to sit their pets so they can go off to spend a weekend with another woman?

Yeah, it's a mess allright.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 6:59:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

I actually somehow missed that part. Okay, that PROVES this thing is bogus... I mean... EVERY cat person knows you don't "handle" cats! They are, after all, the dominant species! LOL!

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Did you also notice that he said he would get his ex-wife to sit the cats next time because she knows how to handle them? That's a bit wierd to me too. Who get's their EX to sit their pets so they can go off to spend a weekend with another woman?

Yeah, it's a mess allright.

This is not an impossible thing to happen. Why do people feel they cannot have a friendship with an ex?

Sure many have horrible divorces but when two people have a amicable end to an involvement, civil relations can follow.

I did not find a profile for the woman from the Tampa area & I do not recall her name. I am from the Tampa area & I was very involved in the local scene.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:08:09 AM

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Come on people, let's settle down and at least pretend we're adults, ok?

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Thank You-that (unfortunately) needed to be said.
Now then, to put my 2 cents in:

Why is the validity of his story of the least importance? If he is asking for advice he doesn't really need then, oh well, I guess we'll have to hope that the others that read the post learn something from that advice. So far we have had a few good points:

Do not answer you phone when out on a date (vanilla or otherwise) because it's rude. If fact, just turn it off or leave it on silent to remove temptation. You can always check in at home on a bathroom break (yes, that's why the telephones are usually located right next to the restrooms)
If you decide you are no longer interested in someone let them know. It's rude and a tad cruel to leave a person hanging, or worse, pretend interest when you have none. Explanations help (and go a long way to keeping the person from repeating an undesired behavior or tormenting the rest of us with "Why, why, WHY?") but they aren't strictly necessary.
If you demonstrate to someone who expects to be placed above all else in your life that they are not, they are unlikely to hang around to find out more. Prioritize.
In the eyes of many, flowery and long not only do not equal quality, they often symbolize a lie to the people reading the post/e-mail/etc -even if you are telling the truth.

I understand that people do not like feeling that they have been deceived, but there is no real evidence that that was the case. Also, this is an open forum. Though expected and appreciated, honesty is not mandated. If you feel that the person is being dishonest, you can always just not respond. Is there really anything else that needs to be said?

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:16:49 AM

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My apologies to the moderator here for my own actions. But I will not apologize to the wenches in here that attack someone, call them a liar, and only read and see what they want to see. I have known kyle for 3½ years and purchased him as a slave from a Dominatrix friend of mine. He served me well for 4½ months before I released him to go back to his family in Ohio. He'd not been in contact with them for over 7 years and I felt it was best for him to mend his family ties and to make amends to those he'd hurt. He is a good, honest and decent person and did not deserve the onslaught of these psychos in here. His mistake was taking a private matter public, especially in here. But not a one actually answered his question on how to deal with his heartbreak. Instead it was a public flogging by a bunch of wenches hell bent on destroying a man's ego.

I'd always heard that places such as Collarme and Alt were bad ways to communicate. Now I see I was proven right. Don't worry, kyle removed his profile and refuses my calls now. The damage is done, thanks to a pack of childish wenches. Maybe try answering a question and not piling on with opinions and corrective measures next time. Wow, what a novel concept in a place called "Ask A Mistress." But why answer, when it is more fun to act like jackals.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:17:48 AM

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:21:13 AM

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ummm... I was not one that had an attacking posture in my reply... in fact I made an attempt to offer mindful advice. It seems that kyle has decided to remove himself from the site & the discussion.

I'm hopeful that things work out for him

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:26:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: ArtimisBlack

Thank You-that (unfortunately) needed to be said.
Now then, to put my 2 cents in:

Why is the validity of his story of the least importance? If he is asking for advice he doesn't really need then, oh well, I guess we'll have to hope that the others that read the post learn something from that advice. So far we have had a few good points:

Do not answer you phone when out on a date (vanilla or otherwise) because it's rude. If fact, just turn it off or leave it on silent to remove temptation. You can always check in at home on a bathroom break (yes, that's why the telephones are usually located right next to the restrooms)
If you decide you are no longer interested in someone let them know. It's rude and a tad cruel to leave a person hanging, or worse, pretend interest when you have none. Explanations help (and go a long way to keeping the person from repeating an undesired behavior or tormenting the rest of us with "Why, why, WHY?") but they aren't strictly necessary.
If you demonstrate to someone who expects to be placed above all else in your life that they are not, they are unlikely to hang around to find out more. Prioritize.
In the eyes of many, flowery and long not only do not equal quality, they often symbolize a lie to the people reading the post/e-mail/etc -even if you are telling the truth.

I understand that people do not like feeling that they have been deceived, but there is no real evidence that that was the case. Also, this is an open forum. Though expected and appreciated, honesty is not mandated. If you feel that the person is being dishonest, you can always just not respond. Is there really anything else that needs to be said?

Very well said. I commend you on your honesty and for being a calm voice amongst these jackals that were all hell bent on destroying a slave rather than answering a simple question. I, too, told kyle he made many mistakes, including answering his phone. But given the depth of his love for those with 4-legs, I understood. It was his first time leaving these two alone with someone else and he worried. The last time he did this, his apartment caught fire and one of his two cats came away with one less life.

Again, no one knows the full background story as to why things went down the way they did. I did and understood his paranoia, especially the frantic cry of a cat that almost never says anything. I am not a cat lover, but I saw the depth of his love for his cats. If one of your cats never spoke, then suddenly made ear-splitting noises you might get panicked too and leave. But I forgot, "it's just a cat" to most everyone in here.

Everyone in here, save one or two, had an opinion on everything else except how to deal with his heartbreak. Opinions are like buttholes; everyone has one. And there were quite a few buttholes in here this weekend.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:34:45 AM

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Very sorry to hear of your hurt.

The best advice would be to use that feature of "hide user" & prevent her profile from being the one that greets you when you sign on.

She has obviously decided to move on for whatever reasons. You remaining persistent may not make any difference.

I wanted you to also know that this happens to many of us. I had a similar situation a number of years ago. We had much more than one meeting & the same sentiments were shared. It was heartbreaking when he severed the communication with me. I didn't have closure. There was no indication of any trouble. He just refused to take calls, blocked me from messages & email... POOF!! gone.

Sometimes we have to find our own closure. It hurts like hell but getting past this will ensure your ability to find others. Having this lingering hurt will cause new people to shy away from you. It took a little time but I got over it & today I am in the best relationship I have ever had in my life. Often we both tease about how thankful we are for the previous idiots we have had in our life for if they had not been idiots we would have never found one another.

Yes I just found your initial post. My apologies. I did not mean to think no one had answered. You were the first to do so. But yours was lost amongst the jackals that decided better to attack the actions or reactions of a slave than to answer a question. Thankfully there was another calm voice in here. Just sorry kyle never saw your post thanks to the wolves tearing the flesh from his bones.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:40:37 AM

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Just an FYI...

being that you are in the Tampa area, I'm sure you know of the Fetish Circuit parties held at Chambers. I plan to be in Tampa for a lifestyle friend's wedding & then attending the party at Chambers on the 8th.

Stop by & say hello

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:43:21 AM

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This is not an impossible thing to happen. Why do people feel they cannot have a friendship with an ex?

I am still friends with my ex, but I would not ask him to come stay with my pets so I can go away for a hot weekend.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:44:47 AM

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OK, wait a minute. You meet her, you got wrapped up in her look and her mojo, you lick her crotch, and suddenly, you're in love. Then, when she finds someone else and hits it off with them.....you're mad and .....brokenhearted....

but this is where I miss your message....

"Despite Her "busy" life it always seemed that i'd bump into Her profile and be reminded of how i opened myself up and was butchered all over like a slaughterhouse animal. "

When in the world did this happen?  How did she butcher you? You met once. Why in the world would you confront her? She didn't collar you and she surely didn't sound like she made anything but a casual commitment/encounter with you with the potential for maybe more in the future.

You got really presumptuous is what it sounds like.    Perhaps you got mixed up in your fantasy, writing mind and confused the fantasy with the reality?

FWIW, I personally inspect all packages when I meet someone. I'd have inspected your bag and beat your ass for presuming that you were one, going to play with me and two, were going to stay overnight somewhere.   And when that was done, I'd have booted your arse out the door. But then again, I'm not a domina who allows a total stranger to lick my privates on a first meeting!!!!

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:47:18 AM

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You mean August 10th through 13th, correct? Is that not at the Hyatt Regency? I have not given it much thought. But I may just attend now. Much will depend on my work schedule. But thank you Passion.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:49:17 AM

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It's a matter of priorities. To be honest, it's kinda creepy/weird and unmasculine/not comforting that you had to run off to take care of cats. I am a HUGE animal lover. In that situation, I would have questioned your ability to plan and prepare for your pets' best interest and start wondering what future hiccups might happen because of cat drama.

Your priorities right now are your cats. When you are ready to have a relationship, then take steps. Otherwise, spare women the headache of you having to rush out for kitty 911.

His pussy would have had to be stuck in a really bad spot to escape the asswhuppin he'd have had from me! What a bunch of nonsense!

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:50:44 AM

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Pandora, with all due respect, let it go! The damage is done. The poster left Collarme and refuses to answer e-mail, chat or phone messages from me and I am the closest he has to a friend at this moment. Browbeating him will do no good. The others have already seen to driving him offline.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 7:52:22 AM

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I'm a guy who loves cats. They are a bit gamy and older ones can be tough, but if you chop the meat finely and use a tomato sauce, they are wonderful.

John,
Try the microwave. Absolutely delectable. It's just a bitch to get the fur out of, but I guess that's what we have slaves for!

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 8:03:49 AM

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nope... I was talking about the re-occurring parties at Chambers, downtown. They have been held on the 2nd Saturday of each month (same day as the Tampa Munch) but Edwin has opened up the parties for the 4th Saturday as well. The weekend I will be in town is on July 7th thru 9th. The wedding I mentioned is early in the day on Saturday... we are all staying at Suncoast, attending the party at Chambers & then returning to our rooms at Suncoast for our private debauchery (well maybe not TOO drunken, but definitely wild) Needless to say we will be in rare form at the public party... LOL

ps... I would have taken this private exchange off of forums, but you have no email/profile associated with this screen name.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 8:09:10 AM

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My apologies to the moderator here for my own actions. But I will not apologize to the wenches in here that attack someone, call them a liar, and only read and see what they want to see. I have known kyle for 3½ years and purchased him as a slave from a Dominatrix friend of mine. He served me well for 4½ months before I released him to go back to his family in Ohio.

Just sipping my coffee...... contemplating the going market for slaves these days.

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 8:11:42 AM

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No e-mail?

Funny, Moderator 11 just sent me e-mail, as did some one-liner slave in southern GA that I deleted and blocked

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 8:13:28 AM

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I believe Mod11 has sent many emails regarding this thread.

LOL.

(I know I got one.)

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RE: Getting Over a Domina's Heartbreak? - 6/26/2006 8:18:45 AM

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Chambers? You mean Club Chambers on Franklin? Well I had no idea that catered to BDSM lifestyles too. I'd always heard of it as a gay bar *LOL* I know they have tranny shows there too on weekends, but never had a clue that it was where BDSM people went that were straight. Well 8 years in Florida and I just learned something new today

I will have to make a point of checking this out.

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