smileforme50
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ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess
Okay. Your original post made it sound like you were considering moving to FL to be with this man. But as the thread continues it sounds like you have wanted to move to FL long before you met this man, and this man just provides you with the opportunity to do so (which, I believe is why you are considering this even when you are not head over heels for him). The real issue as I read this thread is that you want to move to FL. I guess as long as you are up front with this guy in terms of negotiating how much actual financial assistance you will receive from this man, maybe this is an opportunity to get to FL. I just wouldn't rely on his financial assistance being there forever. As long as you have a game plan for how you will get on your own two feet down there, then this seems prudent. Your initial post just never made it sound like you were looking to move to FL independently of him. A little hard to give advice when your actual motives aren't made clear. If moving to FL is what you want to do, then figure out a way to make it happen, with or without this man. Just don't count on him being there forever because you haven't even started a full-fledged relationship yet, and as we all know, things sometimes just don't work out. And if things don't work out, you need to have already put things in place down there to enable you to stay in FL without his financial assistance. Otherwise seems like a lot of disruption for nothing if you end up just moving back home after the relationship ends. Again, if you are moving to be in FL, then the focus should be on how to successfully do that long term. At best, this man is likely only a stepping stone in that journey. 
Yeah....I guess I didn't make that really clear. I was getting tired of making the original post so long and I didn't want to take more time to get into it. The thing about all of this that freaks me out and makes it so hard is the timing. I have been wanting to get out of Delaware and go to Florida for a couple fo years now, but until now the only way I was going to do it was if I hopped on a train with nothing but a backpack and a prayer. Then about a year ago I start talking to this guy, but since he is so far away I didn't pursue a relationship with him. I intentionally kept it as friendship, and I never thought of the possibility of moving down there for a relationship. Like I said....as much as I hate my job, it is secure, and I wasn't willing to risk that security simply for the sake of a relationship.....I know that risk is too high. But I do know that I will have to take some risks in order to further my career....and those are risks that I AM willing to take. That is what got me seriously thinking abou this....his offer of assistance to help me do things to further my career.
And as someone else said....I've probably already made up my mind, but I wanted to do this to try to organize my thoughts and really try to weigh all my risks. I think the biggest thing that is really making it difficult for me to actually just say "I will do this....risks be damned" is the timing of it all. It would be a lot easier if I had 7 or 8 months to carefully think and plan, but I don't. My apartment lease is up at the end of April. If I don't sign another lease, my rent will be another $200 more a month than it is now (I just found that out Saturday). I can't afford to pay that for another 7 or 8 months. But if I sign another lease so that I have to wait until 2015 to move, I'm going to feel like I've just wasted another year of my life, and I'm going to feel miserable.
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