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Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 1:56:13 PM   
CreativeDominant


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Status: offline 		An old thread was resurrected...whether or not this should be a paid site. They have advertisers here. Money. I don't know if the site charges to allow people to direct people to their sites in the "for sale" forum. I personally think if a Pro Dom/sub maintains a profile that indicates that the relationships sought are mainly financial...Money for services...then I think those folks should pay a fee of some sort.

For the rest of us, My answer would be no.

Mod 3, you lovely creature...this should take care of those "necros".

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 2:05:41 PM   
LiveSpark


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Status: offline 		I agree with you CD - what a surprise. Like you said the site pulls in money from advertising so it's not like the owners are doing it for free. I also don't know whether those people who advertise their services in the Professional Services section pay to advertise but if they don't they should. After all they are posting in order to make money I don't see anything wrong in their paying to do so.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 4:46:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally I'd rather see the fins and pros barred from posting anywhere but in the professional services section, whether or not they pay fees. I have no interest in the views of people who do bdsm for a living. As for the rest of us, I suspect if we were charged a fee to be on this site, it would become even less populated than it already is.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:01:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are plenty of places, paid and not, that don't allow the pros. They crash it anyway, making profiles after profiles, because it pays to do so.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:23:40 PM   
GoddessManko


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Status: offline 		Well the fact remains that the owner has done a remarkable job keeping the site free for its members. I have an easy solution to the financial conundrum. Charge the men.
To be honest, this site is pretty populated. Going over to FL I realize the online kink community there is pretty small and I think most people seeking a relationship would be turned off by the commercialism of FL. It seems like there are cliques and packs but they are huge ones and they usually are involved in the sex industry in some way, eliminate those people and eh... So you have a cluster of people who are involved in event organizing, modelling (if one more photographer emails me to be a subject...), poly sessions, parties, promoting their material etc. For those people heavily involved in the kink community they are going to frequent both CS and FL for networking sake, why wouldn't they?
Do I think less people log in? Not really, there are new kinksters like both my friends on here under 30. Do I think more people lurk in the shadows? Yes. This site not only gives a pathway for those who do choose to profit from the lifestyle or work the sex industry but also those who want to make connections outside of that which FL does not really accommodate because it's just not as user friendly as CS for relationship seekers.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:34:27 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		Manko,

Fet is pretty big, but it is kinky FB. You have to join groups and friend feeds keep you posted better than anything.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:37:50 PM   
GoddessManko


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Manko,

Fet is pretty big, but it is kinky FB. You have to join groups and friend feeds keep you posted better than anything.


I agree, for aspiring porn stars and their entourage. Don't get me wrong, I like my eye candy, but it is what it is. Here you see less of the commercial side of things, by far. A girl screening emails by asking the wankers to shell out some cash doesn't qualify to a full on photoshoot or professionally edited videos. Or a bunch of faceless entities clicking like next to a picture.
I'm a member of many groups is why I know fet is not as big for active members. I'm sure everyone shows up to the parties but chances are they all are resident kinksters or make a living out of kink. (Nothing wrong with it, I might attend a shibari workshop one day). The girls who are most popular on fet very rarely even bother logging in.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:41:39 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Manko,

Fet is pretty big, but it is kinky FB. You have to join groups and friend feeds keep you posted better than anything.


I agree, for aspiring porn stars and their entourage.


LOL. The search feature is your friend. Usually if they have a LOT of friends, I skip them over. I like quality people and not quantity of people.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:42:33 PM   
LiveSpark


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Manko,

Fet is pretty big, but it is kinky FB. You have to join groups and friend feeds keep you posted better than anything.


I agree, for aspiring porn stars and their entourage.


Lol I'm neither and yet I'm kept well up to date, go figure. I like Fet just fine and have no problems navigating. I find pros less of a problem which is nice.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:44:50 PM   
camille65


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Status: offline 		I don't like FetLife very much although I'm there as frooty. I hate the black background to begin with, I don't like the um.. the closed feeling. Here you can jump in anywhere, I don't feel like I can do that there. And yeah I can't navigate that place at all.

It doesn't feel friendly to me.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:51:28 PM   
GoddessManko


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LOL. The search feature is your friend. Usually if they have a LOT of friends, I skip them over. I like quality people and not quantity of people.


I have used it to search locally, or at least tried, LOL. Firstly they don't even give real search options aside from geography and then you don't know if the person logged in last night or 5 million years ago. You don't know their height, weight or marital status and it's like trying to snare an elephant with a bb gun. Chances are most of the quality people you do know from fet are from none other than CS.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:54:01 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		Ohhhh.... I don't use it for hookups. I keep keep a lot of stuff limited to friends only... which is good.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:56:48 PM   
GoddessManko


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Ohhhh.... I don't use it for hookups. I keep keep a lot of stuff limited to friends only... which is good.


No idea what that means since I have never even had a one night stand in my life.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 5:58:58 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Ohhhh.... I don't use it for hookups. I keep keep a lot of stuff limited to friends only... which is good.


No idea what that means since I have never even had a one night stand in my life.



Why in the hell else would you want to know their height, weight and marital status if not for a hook up?

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 6:14:58 PM   
GoddessManko


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Why in the hell else would you want to know their height, weight and marital status if not for a hook up?


I sometimes cannot understand slang words in their context. Do you mean to bother meeting them?

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 6:19:21 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Why in the hell else would you want to know their height, weight and marital status if not for a hook up?


I sometimes cannot understand slang words in their context. Do you mean to bother meeting them?


If you are only interested in a plutonic relationship, why would height, weight, and marital status matter?

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 6:22:19 PM   
LiveSpark


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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Why in the hell else would you want to know their height, weight and marital status if not for a hook up?


I sometimes cannot understand slang words in their context. Do you mean to bother meeting them?


If you are only interested in a plutonic relationship, why would height, weight, and marital status matter?


What does Pluto have to do with it?

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 6:24:17 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: LiveSpark


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Why in the hell else would you want to know their height, weight and marital status if not for a hook up?


I sometimes cannot understand slang words in their context. Do you mean to bother meeting them?


If you are only interested in a plutonic relationship, why would height, weight, and marital status matter?


What does Pluto have to do with it?


Cuz if we're talking about uranus it's no longer plutonic.


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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 6:27:39 PM   
LiveSpark


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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant


quote:

ORIGINAL: LiveSpark


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant


quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Why in the hell else would you want to know their height, weight and marital status if not for a hook up?


I sometimes cannot understand slang words in their context. Do you mean to bother meeting them?


If you are only interested in a plutonic relationship, why would height, weight, and marital status matter?


What does Pluto have to do with it?


Cuz if we're talking about uranus it's no longer plutonic.



That was terrible. You should be ashamed though I doubt you are.

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RE: Definitive Answer - 1/3/2015 6:28:13 PM   
CreativeDominant


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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Manko,

Fet is pretty big, but it is kinky FB. You have to join groups and friend feeds keep you posted better than anything.


I agree, for aspiring porn stars and their entourage.


LOL. The search feature is your friend. Usually if they have a LOT of friends, I skip them over. I like quality people and not quantity of people.
No wonder we like each other...

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