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ORIGINAL: WhoreMods

They move the priest somewhere else and deny it ever happened.
Not a helpful approach for the victims, imo.

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Is there a recognized medical opinion on whether or not males need a different approach than females?

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Certainly, there are similarities between female and male victims, but there are also some differences, which - I think - don't get properly addressed.

Obviously, I can't speak from the female perspective, but one of the major differences would be the damage to sexual identity.

Of course, age plays a factor, but younger male victims frequently get thrown into a tizzy about their masculinity. I think this is due to the (common factor) of a rape victim blaming themselves, to a degree. There's more than enough evidence that all victims tend to blame themselves (at least partially) for the behavior of their attacker.

Since most (mark the word, please) perpetrators/predators are male, female victims don't tend to question their sexual identity. Sure, there's a number that admit to be "turned off to men" because of their experience, but when you couple a male attacker with a male victim and then, add in the victim's own self blame/doubt, it can be a dangerous "cocktail" for the victim's development of a "normal" sexual identity because the victim's question their own base for that identity.



Michael

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there is seldom a call for males to get raped in prison as retribution for crimes.

I would like males to be raped in prison for commiting rape or being pedophiles.

The other day, I read a news about this asshole, raping his step daughter, vaginally penetrating her from 3 yrs old until she is 13, when she broke down to her counsellor that her step father been raping her for soooo many years, but she can't tell her mom as her mom loves the step dad so much and she didn't want to break the family.

WTF! That guy deserves ass raped seriously! Eye for Eye. I believe in death penalty for murderers too, so why not rape for rapists?

Just the thought that a full grown man would consider vaginally penetrating a 3 yr old girl, makes me wanna kill him! And infact he should be annally fisted, because that would be the equivalent of an adult cock going into a 3 yr old.

^Totally agree. In fact, it's not enough, considering the child looks to the parents (whether birth parent or step) as PROTECTORS, so not only is their body violated, but also their ability to EVER place their trust in someone. In prison there won't be the factor of BETRAYAL by a loved one that the child experienced.

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With a guy, he ain't even gonna cry. And he is just trying to act strong, and like, not look weak. And does not want to talk over and over about it.

Patriarchal gender assumptions harming men.

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ORIGINAL: Aylee

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It has nothing to do with gender equality.

Looking briefly at the article.

It looks like they are talking about men on men rape.

Men go through alot of shame being raped by another man.

Also, men are just not wired to talk about their feelings.

It's kinda weird because every woman wants a man to open up and talk about his feelings and be more nurturing towards him, but most men resist such things. They just don't want to talk about it and forget it.

Probably because, unlike women, talking about it does not help them.

The way we can help female victims by showering them with loads of TLC and smothering and sympathy, may not be the same solution to help a male victim.

I think men and woman respond to rape differently.

What needs to happen is more education on how to handle a male who has been through rape?

I mean honestly speaking, my own brother has been raped before, held down and penetrated by a woman much larger and stronger than him who was suppose to be his clean masseuse. And I didn't even know what to say. And he definitely didn't want to report it at all. He was just saying he can't believe he got so unlucky. Like he was telling me about it, but at the same time, if it was a woman, I would know what to say, but because his male, I can't go like, "Poor you!" And smother him with lots of love and sympathy. He was acting so strong and brushing it aside. I was just more like, "Are you okay? If you need anything, just let me know, I am here." That's all I could say.

I mean with a woman, you would just let her talk and let her cry, and let her talk and talk. With a guy, he ain't even gonna cry. And he is just trying to act strong, and like, not look weak. And does not want to talk over and over about it. It's like a whole different vibe.

Wow. And here is the stigma of males reporting sexual violence against them. If it had been your sister you would have validated her. Since this was your brother, you kept silent.

I am not negatively evaluating you, I am just noting that this is the exact problem that the article discusses.

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Patriarchal gender assumptions harming men.

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It is the same as the problem with the handling of domestic violence. As they told us in the Air Force. If a guy tries to report domestic violence they say what kind of wimp can't fight back when his wife attacks him. If he fights back, he is the one to go to jail.

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So tell me, Dizzy, what is your solution to the problem? Does anyone on planet earth have a solution? If they did, wouldn't it be fixed by now in 2016?

Tell me how blaming patriarchy is going to fix this problem, dizzy.

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ORIGINAL: Aylee
there is seldom a call for males to get raped in prison as retribution for crimes.

I would like males to be raped in prison for commiting rape or being pedophiles.

The other day, I read a news about this asshole, raping his step daughter, vaginally penetrating her from 3 yrs old until she is 13, when she broke down to her counsellor that her step father been raping her for soooo many years, but she can't tell her mom as her mom loves the step dad so much and she didn't want to break the family.

WTF! That guy deserves ass raped seriously! Eye for Eye. I believe in death penalty for murderers too, so why not rape for rapists?

Just the thought that a full grown man would consider vaginally penetrating a 3 yr old girl, makes me wanna kill him! And infact he should be annally fisted, because that would be the equivalent of an adult cock going into a 3 yr old.

^Totally agree. In fact, it's not enough, considering the child looks to the parents (whether birth parent or step) as PROTECTORS, so not only is their body violated, but also their ability to EVER place their trust in someone. In prison there won't be the factor of BETRAYAL by a loved one that the child experienced.

To both of you.

I believe in the rule of law. I disagree with extra-judicial punishment. It is also unethical to take away a person's right to defend themselves and then not protect them. While some one is in prison/jail, no matter WHAT THE CHARGES, they are protected by the state. That protection includes protection from other prisoners.

That does not even begin to discuss what it does to those becoming the form of punishment.

It is distasteful and disgusting.