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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/3/2007 2:05:28 PM   
Wulfgang


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Status: offline 		Hmm .. working on being more passable for cd fetish pic's ( lose weight) .. rope bondage and getting my own violet wand. plus I want to learn how to make  my own bondage furniture.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/3/2007 2:32:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm still learning patience and to try and not over organize. I like things to be all neat in it's little box and taken care of lol Unfortunately life isn't like that

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/3/2007 3:06:08 PM   
DominaSmartass


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Status: offline 		This is a great thread, by the way. I've enjoyed reading what everyone else says and it's nice to see that everyone has something to improve

I am working on finding activities that make me happy outside of work and bdsm because I have felt like I've lost sight of my other interests since graduating college a year ago.

In my bdsm life I am realizing that the more I learn the less I know (isn't that always the case?) As for specifically recognizing and working on things, I am trying to materialize my dominance. Basically what that means to me is making external the things that I feel inside, through my behavior and interaction with others. Part of this has been to begin a written outline of "protocols" (though I hate that word) that are unique to me and the way I would have someone behave when in my service.


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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/3/2007 5:29:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've been trying harder to keep the slaves focused on their training and make sure they complete the assignments their given. A slave's training is important to them and they realize it should always be a top priority in their life but they sometimes need a little push and reminding so they don't slack off.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/3/2007 5:38:11 PM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		everything!! i know i'm not perfect in any area, so there's always much to work on. as for particular areas i'm focusing on at the moment, i guess that'd be cooking, physical fitness and attitude.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/3/2007 5:39:56 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		well, i attempted to better myself in the job market, but that failed greatly. it's difficult to do anything when upper management is against you from day one.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/3/2007 6:04:30 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		To not decide for him if he's too tired or stressed to hear my concerns. I tend to assume he won't have time or energy for me. And to not be terrified whenever he gets angry whether at me or red tape which he's been dealing with lately.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/3/2007 6:13:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm working on rebuilding Hubby's trust after my BDSM affair 3 1/2 years ago.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 7:40:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		Great thread valeca :-)
 
Because i am such a novice, obviously everything! But there a few specific talents i am honing...healing and tantric massage being one area and my sexual skills being the other.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 7:54:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just working on "me" in general

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 11:17:38 AM   
denika


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Status: offline 		I am working on patience, it's not something I am good with. I'm kind of used to living life at a hundred miles an hour, feeding the adrenaline junkie part of myself but that can get dangerous after a while. I'm working on learning how to express my feelings instead of bottling them up until they explode in some unhealthy manor.

I am also trying to work on my crippling fear of fire, I've never been burned but I have treated burn patients in the past and that image(and smell!) sticks in my head and I can't seem to shake it loose. Even little things like starting a fire in the fire place  makes me cringe.



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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 12:15:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Me too... it's been a rough couple of months for me. I'm working on pulling myself up by my bootstraps and I have to wonder sometimes if my bootstraps are gonna be strong enough.
 
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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 12:23:59 PM   
valeca


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Status: offline 		It's great to see all the things people are working on! 

I'm adding to mine.  A little short term thing, but I'm working on using a little self-control in replying to ijits who can't seem to get a grip on their tongue.  Sometimes it takes a lot not to just let loose with both barrels. 




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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 4:46:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: valeca

For Dominants and submissives alike;

What (if any) facet of you, or your life, are you working on improving now? 


My ex's understanding of me.


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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 5:40:41 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Oh god, where do I begin.

I really REALLY need to stop wasting so much time online.  Seriously.

I am working at breaking my pattern for picking partners and I really think I am making progress.  I want some who is emotionally secure and isn't needy and is positive happy person, and I derive no small pleasure and self worth from being needed but in the past it wasn't a healthy balance.  I also want her to be tall for reasons I related in that "spilling my guts" thread ages ago.  My recent casual partners certainly meet this, the one woman I am seeing now does, and my recent falling off the deep end for a girl who met this so I feel like I am doing well.

I want to work on learning needle play, I wasn't enough of a sadist when I knew people who dabbled in it and I also didn't have the creative ability then that I do now. 

My writing, I have an amazing English teacher who is really pushing me and I am loving that.


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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 5:42:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		my husband loves make-up ... which I have never worn in my life ... so I am trying to figure out the mystery to lip gloss, lip liner, lipstick and eye shadow.  Somedays I hate being a woman :\

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 5:54:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		The biggest thing that I am working on is not allowing my frustration in the moment to take control in how I respond to inappropriate decisions or behaviors of others.  This not just in my relationships but work life as well.  I have a tendency when I see bad choices or actions being taken to shoot and then pick up the bodies later......  Instead... I have been working understanding more the motivations behind the choices and behaviors.    It is not easy... but the rewards have shown that on many occassions I have been more effective in changing behaviors because I am going after the motivations.  Sometimes the motivations are actually misplaced because of my own errors in communicating... mixed messages and such.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 10:50:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		My typing - it's horrendous - I never took a typing class and it shows! I also started a work-out program in January, so am trying to keep that up as well, to tone and firm up.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 11:00:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Everything physical, i'm good mentally but I got about a year to become a sculpted Adonis which is capable of taking on a few Marines on my own.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 11:07:23 PM   
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