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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/15/2007 2:49:28 PM   
Einzelganger


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ORIGINAL: AZSweetie

i tend to beat myself up when i make mistakes. i've learned, and i'm still working on it,  to realize that i WILL make mistakes and to just learn from them. i'm not superwoman so i need to stop telling myself that is what i need to be.


You and I both.  I'm also working on not being so quiet and shy in RL, although I'm not making much progress on that front.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/18/2007 1:41:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		i am currently working on relaxing and not letting all of my new found emotions and feelings relating to bdsm take over and get me into trouble. i am really open about what i want and i have learned that constantly harping, griping, or misbehaving is going to get me no where fast and a punishment I really don't want. i am learning to enjoy trusting and submitting instead of just playing a sub who is being selfish. i have to say this first year in the lifestyle has been very up and down and now i am beginning to feel accepting of this part of who i am. newbies what can you say?

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/18/2007 1:49:03 PM   
pinksugarsub


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Status: offline 		i have several near-term goals, but i dun know if they will "improve" me.  i'm a person worthy of respect and dignity, and a very good submissive, yesterday, today and tomorrow.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/18/2007 6:46:45 PM   
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I feel that I am a work in process too. I am working on to be patience to find a special woman to serve. I feel that she is out there somewhere. I am working on my confidence that I do have things to offer her.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 12:37:03 AM   
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I was at dance tonight, and I took the absolute beginners class with my cousin so she could learn.

The instructor asked me why I would take a beginner class, since I had been dancing this sort of thing for
over 2 years.

I looked back at him and replied that I dont have any ego about it, I view life as a process of constant improvement and I looked forward to learning new things. We did the class.  I learned new things.  It is all good.

I want to be more competent and educated tomorrow than I am today.  The only thing that grows down is a plant.

Sinergy

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 4:41:36 AM   
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am mostly working on getting my fat ass thinner ... would settle for a toned JLo ...*sigh* ..or a "Bouncey" Knowles

with regard to pleasing a future Master, i have no idea what will be pleasing skills to them. I have the basics down enough to get under the table ... they will decide what i need to stay there. so i put my energies into improving my skills and talents as a whole person ... not just as a sexual deviant

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 6:01:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		My things to work on are not specifically Lifestyle related, but I think they will improve me overall as a Submissive.

1. Lose weight/improve flexability. My goal is 100 lbs or 2 dress sizes (as you build muscle, the 100 lbs may not be possible)
2. Work on my communication skills. I was raised in a non-confrontational household and I have serious problems talking about things that may result in shouting or fighting or the other person being angry or upset. This was part of the reason I got divorced after 8 years (he couldn't hold a job and I sat and stewed instead of discussing it)

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 6:08:06 AM   
boundkitty


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Status: offline 		Glad to see that you are working on the first one, SmokingGun, because you *are* attractive. Can't imagine who would say otherwise 


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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 6:29:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		i'm working on not being so trusting and believing what i'm told just because i want to believe it.  i'm also working on having better taste in men.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 7:28:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		The only real improvements I can make are those to myself: toys and other such material things are too ephemeral to be bothered listing. So: I'm working on my vocabulary, because I feel that being articulate, and able to induce an almost hypnotic spell with words, to be of paramount importance when dealing with others. I'm also working on my japanese, because I can't stand the thought of being a "typical American" dolt who knows only one language on a planet with hundreds of them available. Another is to listen to others, and to offer them support. Far too often, I've been guilty of being selfish, and self centered.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 7:37:08 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: subinside

i'm working on not being so trusting and believing what i'm told just because i want to believe it.  i'm also working on having better taste in men.


what she said.  Mainly working on knowing the difference between needs and wants in reference to BDSM M/s relationships.  Focusing on enjoying myself with play partners rather than finding the "one". 




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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 7:55:42 AM   
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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 9:31:36 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fairerthanshe

quote:

ORIGINAL: subinside

i'm working on not being so trusting and believing what i'm told just because i want to believe it.  i'm also working on having better taste in men.


what she said.  Mainly working on knowing the difference between needs and wants in reference to BDSM M/s relationships.  Focusing on enjoying myself with play partners rather than finding the "one". 


i wish, more than you know, that i could do that.  Unfortunately, i personally, am not wired to be with play partners... finding the "One" is exactly what i'm about.  For me, submission is a very very personal thing and i can't just give that to just anyone.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 6:35:49 PM   
MistressSassy66


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Status: offline 		I'm always working on finding new things to do in My Dungeon.Or new things to use...lol
I also love to learn about anything...That program on Discovery Channel
"How its Made" is way cool.

Self improvement is never a bad thing no matter what.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 6:43:25 PM   
electrikfur


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Status: offline 		working on my weight and trying to become a better person through reading, self-analysis and practice

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/19/2007 8:39:22 PM   
softandshy


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Status: offline 		I am developing better muscle tone with a daily balance ball workout.  I'm also cutting down radically on sweets because they make me incredibly hyper and she has invited me to handle it or be handled.  ~smiling~ 

The third thing I'm working on may sound odd.  When we are in conversation I will sometimes stop in midsentence because I realize that I'm about to say something I'd rather not (revealing something that I think is embarassing or shameful, or else saying something without thinking that isn't properly thought out, maybe not entirely respectful).  Her response to this is invariably one word, "Speak."  She absolutely has the right to hear the thoughts, and while I get flustered, I do as asked immediately.  In addition, I am working on finishing the thought when it first occurs to me that I don't want to so that she doesn't have to ask.  She will correct me or not as she feels is appropriate.  However, fixing this is also very much for me.  I need to do this to lose the fear of revealing myself fully, to realize that I am always acceptable, even when my behavior requires change.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/20/2007 5:37:17 AM   
salilus


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Status: offline 		Daddy's having me work on...

not cussing at all anymore,
planning things better (remembering dates and such - I have a horrible time with this), and
letting go of all of the little things I try to control.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/20/2007 6:01:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: blmtrsne

On improving my slave/husband: his tongue is being trained regulary now, and he learns how to iron.


Improving on my tongue is something i have been working on for quite some time, and the more i practice, the better it gets. However, i invite suggestions from A/all on how to increase the length without a surgery, if at all it is possible.

Other than that, i'm working on accepting being cuckolded by my Queen. It's tougher than i thought, and even hurts at times. Any suggestions on how to deal with it?

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/20/2007 8:19:22 AM   
cjenny


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Status: offline 		I'm working on a bunch o stuff. The biggest thing is that I am trying to take control over my life & my future. It's pretty rough going because it isn't something I know how to do so I stumble alot. There are a lot of people in my life that I need to back away from, I've never done that..I literally don't know how.

Second biggest thing is trying to learn how to balance my time. Prioritizing (sp?) it to one task at a time instead of scattered things left undone. I have to decide if A is more important than B even though both must be done. I have very little energy/strength & somehow I HAVE to learn it is okay not to have a perfect house. I can't do it all anymore, heck I can only do bits and pieces but I'm trying to figure out just which bits and pieces to do.
I'm trying to get my home ready to put on the market (yes I know it's dismal out there lol) and I keep getting stuck. How do I do a certain thing? Who do I call? What order should I do it in?
I get so overwhelmed that I just kinda.. sink. I don't mean to sound 'down' but I sure feel that way.

Trying to take control but I don't know how.. that is what I am trying to work on. I wish, I wish there was some sort of guide book or at a minimum I wish I knew who/how to ask for help.

 I have to admit I feel utterly stupid at times. I should know how to do all this, I should be able to accomplish what I need to. Just like I should be healthy and strong lol. Hmm I think I'm depressing myself lol.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 5/20/2007 9:11:33 AM   
liljoy


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Status: offline 		my health. i've been guilty of taking care of others and letting myself go.
i had some bothersome health issues that i hadn't taken care of they weren't life threatening but could have really made me sick considering how long i'd had them.
When Master found out about them He made me get them taken care of. When i told Him i was unhappy with my weight He gave me a plan to follow to take care of that. i've lost over 30 pounds so far with 25 more to go.

To get more on track with the way you wanted the question answered. i too am working on being more accepting of what i am and not what the nilla society says i should be

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