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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 11:12:05 PM   
tml721


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ORIGINAL: spankmepink11

Just working on "me" in general

yea this about sums it up for me as well!! , money, job, health, love, everything.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 11:44:39 PM   
xkittenishx


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Status: offline 		Ach there's so much I'm working on at the moment, both within my submission and outside of it. A couple of the big ones:  Master and I don't have very much face to face time at the moment and so I'm working on keeping my submissive mindset even when we're apart, and realizing that all of my actions reflect on His ownership of me even when He isn't present.  I'm also working on being more open with my feelings, as I have a tendancy to keep the world at arm's length and I'd like to change that.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/4/2007 11:56:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: valeca

What (if any) facet of you, or your life, are you working on improving now? 


Nothing, I'm perfect.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/5/2007 8:44:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: valeca
What (if any) facet of you, or your life, are you working on improving now?

As cliche as it might be: Me.

quote:

Any skills you're currently trying to improve/learn that might benefit you or your other half/third/quarter/partner (or future other half/third/quarter/partner if there isn't a current one)?

My ability to control how I react to other people's "stuff".


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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/5/2007 9:05:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am working on learning to trust again. That probably the biggest BDSM thing i can think of.

Oh and not be so concerned about what others think of me.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/5/2007 9:24:18 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I am going to weigh in with the most popular........me........otherwise my list would be too long.

I view myself as a constant work in progress. I think that is really what life is all about, growth and learning.


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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/5/2007 9:25:54 AM   
s1utkitten69


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Status: offline 		My major thing that I am working on is to not be so shy and self consious. This is a very huge task for me!!

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/6/2007 6:38:27 PM   
Candleuntoflame


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Status: offline 		evening A/all,

this year my focus is on improving my health and my finances. a friend of mine is teaching me about stocks, investments, 401k's, retirement planning, etc. i'm also working on my "spiritual" self. it  has been challenging for me to stay focused on the positive in life.

lifestyle wise.....grrrrrr.....and deep breath! i'm a bit "rolled over" at the moment. as such, i've chosen to take a break from seeking a Master. instead, i'm going to focus on deepening my knowledge and understanding of "service."

coming out of lurkdom on this site is one small step for this slave and a huge step for slavekind......lol......(pun, bad though it is)
thanks for posing the question valeca.

respectfully,
candleuntoflame

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/6/2007 7:56:44 PM   
SCDommie


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Status: offline 		My slave and I are working on basic servitude.  When he cooks dinner for me is to me on the floor and never meet my eyes with his eyes.  He is a very good cook.
He is working on his fiances.   He had a hard time last year.  I am pleased with how he is progressing.
The next goal is full-time chasity.  I have refrained from putting him into chasity for a while, but I feel I am now ready for the responsibility of my property. 

SCD

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/6/2007 9:23:11 PM   
lighthearted


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Status: offline 		this is the 2nd year in a row, the 2nd year ever in my life, that I feel pretty darn good about the direction I'm headed.  it has allowed me to step back and dig a little deeper.

instead of trying not to be "negative" in general, I am working on evaluating each situation before expressing myself...trying to see the other side. 

also, and this is a really big one for me, I'm learning how not to be so hard on myself.  it's been ingrained, so that will take a bit more work *sigh*

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/7/2007 1:00:50 PM   
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I am working a so many things that I really almost do need a list to keep track.
I'm trying to learn to to be a better housekeeper.  I am very absent minded and easily distracted and lots of chores go half finished, forgotten etc.  Then there is so much to do that I feel overwhelmed.  We used to have a nice  little web app that  Master created to help me keep track etc, but its been down for a year or two.  He is working on getting that back up and running, so hopefully that will be some external help.  I want to have the internal focus and discipline though.  I'm not the kind that cleans as she goes, but I'm trying desperatly to learn.
I'm working on loving myself and being healthier.  That includes exercising more often and eating a more balanced diet.
I'm working on my bellydance and costume making as part of that whole loving me thing.  Both make me happy and make me feel good about myself, so spending more time on that and less time immersed in WoW is a goal.
I'm working on my submissive attitude and my submissive outlook.  Over the last couple years I've gone a bit feral and I'm having a bit of a rough time being gracious in my submission and quite frankly, comfortable with it.  Thats really the biggest thing I need to work on, yet the most esoteric and difficult.  Life is certainly a challenge!


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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/7/2007 3:19:25 PM   
aurora31


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Status: offline 		I am working on not beating myself up so much when I make a mistake...Sir says that once you have been punished to let it go but sometimes it is very hard for me to do that.

To be able to surrender completly...I always hold on to that last little bit of controle and I am working hard not to do that.

On my postioning especially serving and kneeling as kneeling is the basis for all the other postions...Sir is very high protocal and I want to do my best not to embaress him publically.

To have paitience. I want it all now and expect perfection from myself the first time around. I need to learn paitience and to know it sometimes takes time to get things right. I also want the pace of my training to go much faster I must learn paitence with my Sir and do things at his pace.

aurora

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/7/2007 4:19:53 PM   
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quote:

What (if any) facet of you, or your life, are you working on improving now?  Any skills you're currently trying to improve/learn that might benefit you or your other half/third/quarter/partner (or future other half/third/quarter/partner if there isn't a current one)?



Well there is the sexual one which I feel embarassed to share, but we are almost there. Certain thing that we do hurts, but I am working on getting "adjusted" to it so he can use me this way whenever he pleases.

The other thing is that he wants me to go to graduate school. He is very aroused by having a doctor for a submissive... he thinks this would be rather cool. So I am not only thinking about doing that for me anymore, but for him too, because it will please him.

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/7/2007 4:25:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		i am working on improving  how i express myself in the written word. it is something that i am not comfortable doing and something i would like to do more often then i do now.

Knight's alandra

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/7/2007 4:34:46 PM   
earthfire


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Status: offline 		I am making an effort to be able to talk with Sir about my desires.  I tend to be terribly shy when it comes to talking about anything of a sexual nature or using sexual language.  I have partially overcome this through my writing but I am still unable to express my feelings verbally. This is something I want to overcome as it will please Sir.
In everyday life I am continuing to learn more about web design and I hope to have my class site up and running before the end of the semester. 

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/7/2007 5:06:56 PM   
onestandingstill


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ORIGINAL: CrazyC

I am working on learning to trust again. That probably the biggest BDSM thing i can think of.

Oh and not be so concerned about what others think of me.

Ditto for me CrazyC  I'm right there with you.
In addition to that for the first time ever Sir Rob moved from a pillow to my rear end with a short 2ft single tail. LOL he did wonderfully well.
I bet we'll be working on a lot more of that soon  too.
suzanne

< Message edited by onestandingstill -- 2/7/2007 5:07:56 PM >

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/7/2007 5:12:47 PM   
CrazyC


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Status: offline 		Oh now that would be a lesson. lol

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/8/2007 11:49:10 AM   
aurora31


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Status: offline 		alandra this is something I am very much working on too. But be careful what you wish for. I have a daily writing asignment that is standing and I usually end up with one or two more that are more taylored to where I am at or a particular difficulty I am having that Sir or Ma'am feels I need to work on. So I am getting tons and tons of writing time. I especially dislike when I am given a minum word count it really makes the task so much harder for me.

Opps edited to add I am also required to journal nightly and to share it with both Sir and Ma'am so they know where I am at and whats going on inside my head. The good thing about this is I can write anything and there are no consequences, it is a safe spot for me to vent and know that it will not be used against me.

aurora

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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/12/2007 7:00:00 PM   
JasonF


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Status: offline 		I'm working on making my brain move as fast as my flogger can.

Sometimes I get so wrapped up in the physical that my brain can't keep up the mindfuck. It's really hard.


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RE: What are you working on improving? - 2/12/2007 7:03:58 PM   
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I am trying to become more OPTIMISTIC.

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