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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 9:40:05 AM   
jauntyone


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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

I don't answer a lot of mail and I'm not fake. 

Greetings
 
The same here. Almost ALL mail I receive is deleted unread.
 
I wish you well
 
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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 9:47:08 AM   
velvetears


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Status: offline 		Maybe people aren't being rude not answering but they don't realize a majority of it is going to their BULK MAIL folder - i am guilty of this

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 11:59:56 AM   
unsung


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Status: offline 		OMG does this response never end.  I ask you a couple of things:

1.  Who are you to demand or have expectation of anyone that is not engaged in a relationship with you?
2. Who are you to expect anyone to take time out of their day if they are not interested in what you have to offer?
3. Wether a sub/slave has one or 2000 emails in their inbox, it is their priviledge to answer or not as the deem necessary so why do you believe they are fakes or players because they do not respond to you?

I wish these types of threads would just find a black hole to fall into.

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 12:12:25 PM   
SimplyMichael


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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 12:45:52 PM   
AAkasha


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What a whiner!

Imagine for a minute that ladies don't have all day to sit around and check their emails like some losers do.  Imagine a woman only has about an hour free every couple of days, and when she logs on, she focussed on those emails that interest her rather than answer all the "thanks, but no thanks emails" (which HALF the time lead to ANOTHER response from the guy, quite often something rude. Why open the door to insults and whining?)

Let's put it this way.  If you had only 1 hour of free time on Collarme each day and had about 20 emails from GAY MEN that wanted to fuck you in the ass (that's how inappropriate/unsolicited some emails women get are), would you spend 75% of your time sending polite, "no thank you" emails? Or would you spend your time writing to the people who you might have a connection with?

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 12:49:55 PM   
Suleiman


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Status: offline 		AGAIN with this thread? From a different person, I can kind of understand, but this is all you ever talk about. Dude, seriously, go back to any other thread you posted, and read the replies there.

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 2:34:05 PM   
mystiquenz


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Status: offline 		sipping my morning coffee i think this thread is similar to many others.

maybe the OP should have read the previous threads before posting, he appears to be not that unique. 

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 3:08:49 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		Doms seem to have a double standard too. if i take the time to message my interest to you (yes, i'm collared however i'm permitted to date and have friends), then at least return the common curtesy of messaging back.  no answer back, fine with me because i'll move onto the next person who might..

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 4:34:37 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

Doms seem to have a double standard too. if i take the time to message my interest to you (yes, i'm collared however i'm permitted to date and have friends), then at least return the common curtesy of messaging back.  no answer back, fine with me because i'll move onto the next person who might..


This brings up something to my mind, how many submissives make threads about disappearing doms compared to threads about submissives that never wrote back in the first place... I never kept track

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 4:42:56 PM   
puella


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Status: offline 		I am sure you are not meaning to come off sounding like a whinging baby, but... honestly.. believe it or not, no one owes you anything.  If you decide to send a message to a person who does not know you, they do not owe you a reply...even to say they are not interested.  You made a choice to send them a message, that does not impose upon them any protocol you may have preconceived.

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 5:17:47 PM   
Suleiman


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ORIGINAL: puella

I am sure you are not meaning to come off sounding like a whinging baby, but... honestly.. believe it or not, no one owes you anything.  If you decide to send a message to a person who does not know you, they do not owe you a reply...even to say they are not interested.  You made a choice to send them a message, that does not impose upon them any protocol you may have preconceived.


Puella, hon, the first three times I saw the OP start essentially the same thread, I would have agreed with you, but this is all he ever talks about. He whines about it in other people's threads, and every week or two he starts a new one. Maybe this is the online version of crying at the end of a date in the hopes of a sympathy fuck. I don't know, but at this point, I gotta wonder how lame someone has to be that they claim years of experience, but can't get a date online or off? I mean, he's not bad looking, he can string a cogent sentence together without mangling the english language, and his profile looks decent enough, but still with the same piss-and-moan story. What gives? I work with mentally disabled individuals that have an easier time remembering previous conversations. The OP dosen't write like he has ADD or some similar affective disorder, and yet here he is once again, like syssiphus rolling the same verbal boulder up a bulwark of submissive rudeness. Sad. Really, truly sad.

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 5:18:13 PM   
selilekwi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MellowSir

I'm not complaining about how others do things, just that fakes and players of either persuasion have no busininess wasting the time of sincere people.....


Wow you are making a host of assumptions here ... about what constitutes a fake a player and who is and isn't sincere. 

I consider myself quite sincere yet I don't respond to every post I recieve and for very good reasons I believe. I also know what I want and can determine whether or not a response interests me. I refuse to respond to people who have not taken the time to tailor their enquiry to my profile, who can't be bothered to throw together anything more than a one-liner written in 'netspeak', or who have clearly disregarded everything in my profile. I consider it a waste of my time to reiterate what I am seeking in a return email when it is all clearly explained in my profile. Nor will I enter into a dialog with someone I have thanked for their enquiry but declined a request for futher contact based on what I consider basic incompatabilites such a geographical location or lifestyle orientation. Why respond to a married switch into polyamory who lives in another country when I have already clearly stated I am not interested in these particular things.



      

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 5:20:12 PM   
Suleiman


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ORIGINAL: selilekwi
Why respond to a married switch into polyamory who lives in another country when I have already clearly stated I am not interested in these particular things.       


So you DID get the Email I sent you!

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 5:22:16 PM   
selilekwi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MellowSir

For instance, because I take a certain stance, many assume that i have no luck finding willing submissives, such is certainly not the case. Or that I'm a "whiner", inexperienced, or just out for sex. Wrong on all counts.


Then why the rant?

If you are quite happy with the results you have recived using your particular approach whats the problem?


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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 5:23:53 PM   
marylynn


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Status: offline 		I believe there was a thread somewhere that said "it's possible that they don't see it - goes to bulk" or something along those lines.

I just figured out how to use the bulk mail, and I don't check the bulk folder, so whatever gets thrown there does not get replied to ~

just my opinion, though

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 5:30:06 PM   
selilekwi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Suleiman
So you DID get the Email I sent you!


Well I considered it for a second or two ... given I have actually been to Fort Bragg and all, and then considered the commute from Oz might eat into my retirement fund.



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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 9:14:19 PM   
GeekyGirl


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ORIGINAL: MellowSir

First and foremost, this is NOT a post critical of the sincere sub that searches. Enough of the excuses already, such as "I get too many messages to answer them all"(Then don't advertise and expect not to), "I'm taken"(then why list as seeking),  etc etc. Not all that difficult to type "I'm interested" or "no thanks" and click reply. Even if the sub is not interested, does that have to equal a lack of courtesy by not replying at all? Why even allow the double standard or prolong the use of it.  I at least take the time to respond to someone who takes the time to message me. Maybe the expectations are a bit too high on the professed "sub's" part if she/he is just there and doesn't reply to anyone at all. A dom who acts the jerk or like the person already belongs to them when they haven't even met may deserve that, the one who is sincere doesn't.


How is "not having enough time" an excuse? Do you know the personal schedule of every person who isn't responding to you? How do you know they aren't a single mom working 3 jobs, with 5 kids and an elderly mother to take care of? how do you know they aren't a career woman putting in 70hrs a week at work? Are you saying that checking your EMAIL should be some kind of a priority? That's crazy...

I have much more time than a single mom or a mega-career woman but my time is still precious to me and I am no less sincere for the fact that I have better things to do than waste my time writing "no thank you" emails to every Dom on the internet...that's time I'd rather spend talking with people I am actually INTERESTED in or *heaven forbid* perhaps it's time I'd like to spend AWAY from my computer doing productive things?

I mean if you're looking for a girl, do you really want one with no more motivation in life than to sit in front of her computer screen all day ?


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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 9:18:04 PM   
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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 10:17:38 PM   
WhiplashSmile


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MellowSir

First and foremost, this is NOT a post critical of the sincere sub that searches. Enough of the excuses already, such as "I get too many messages to answer them all"(Then don't advertise and expect not to), "I'm taken"(then why list as seeking),  etc etc. Not all that difficult to type "I'm interested" or "no thanks" and click reply. Even if the sub is not interested, does that have to equal a lack of courtesy by not replying at all? Why even allow the double standard or prolong the use of it.  I at least take the time to respond to someone who takes the time to message me. Maybe the expectations are a bit too high on the professed "sub's" part if she/he is just there and doesn't reply to anyone at all. A dom who acts the jerk or like the person already belongs to them when they haven't even met may deserve that, the one who is sincere doesn't.


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I hate to rain on your bitch parade here, however there are a few facts to take into consideration.  There are submissives on here recieving around 400+ email responses a day on this site.   Take into account 100 min,  that's a lot of emails to be responding to unless you are clued 24/7 to a computer.   Some of these women have a life besides responding to emails all day long.   Some of them deal with really stupid emails, it tends to wear on the nerves and put them in a bad mood.  From the women I talk to, Dom hard time attitude is anything but in short supply!   Many men are Bitching them out for not writting back, some in fact go to the extremes of creating new accounts and retrying it with the same Subs.    You would not believe how much work and Bullshit a submissive/slave has to deal with in responding to EMAILS on this friggen site.   How much time can you yourself devote to responding to 100-400+ a day emails?  There are times when a sub/slave or somebody means to write you back, but they simply run out of time... slowly your email fades.   Hell, there are times when I sent one an email, it was not read for a couple of days.. and perhaps took a few more days for them to get back to me.  

So you must be patient, perhaps email ones you have most interest in a week later, then perhaps a week later after that.  Also, keep tabs on "Who's Viewing Me".  See if anybody you might have an interest in has been checking you out.  Keep tabs on your Admirers!  These are one that added you to their Favorites list.   You can be proactive in sending emails to people that have been viewing you or have added you to their Favorites list.

There will be times when nobody sends you email or responds.  Be patient, don't demand or bitch for attention.  Do not take it personally,  It is all part of the Evil Harsh Reality of what women in general go through online here.    The get overloaded and overwhelmed at times,  Complaining about it does nothing to ease their mind or consious.  So you have to put yourself in their shoes for a moment and think.




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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 10:21:57 PM   
WhiplashSmile


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ORIGINAL: MellowSir

And thanks to those who reply, both to me and to the post. "A man of words and not deeds is like a garden full of weeds", perhaps such can be applied to (some)women as well lol....


How well would you manage getting back or responding to 100-400+ emails a day in your inbox?  I wonder how high you would apply this standard to yourself, if you failed to respond to each and every one.  In fact how long would you be able to deal with this much email?  2-3 days.. 1 week... 1 month of non stop email like this?  Would you yourself burn out a little and start simply skimming through the ones you thought you might be interested in the most?  How would you feel, if you got a lot of FUCK off emails for being polite and saying Sorry I'm not interested?  Would this not TAX your own manners to the point of figuring why bother, because most will write Nasty shit back at you for being polite?   I don't think you have an idea in Hell about this! 


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