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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 10:22:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: SweetMegan20

I try to reply to as many people as I can, but sometimes I get so many messages, and some of the messages I get are so long, I simply can't be bothered.

Maybe I should start using the auto-replies.

Exactly Babe! You tell 'em like it really is!

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 10:24:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

I don't answer a lot of mail and I'm not fake.

Greetings

The same here. Almost ALL mail I receive is deleted unread.

I wish you well

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Sure delete my wonderful messages to you, see if I ever write to you again, it took me 10 hours to write that last one! I'm just kidding I hope you know!

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 10:26:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: MellowSir

"A man of words and not deeds is like a garden full of weeds", perhaps such can be applied to (some)women as well lol....

And perhaps these same words can be applied to the OP?
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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 10:28:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

If you are the best of real than I want to be the best of fake!

Hell, I'd want to be so fake that it's not even near real... wonder if I can get plastic body parts to perform home body modifications with.

Damn, I'm being a smart ass tonight..

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 10:54:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: unsung

OMG does this response never end. I ask you a couple of things:

1. Who are you to demand or have expectation of anyone that is not engaged in a relationship with you?
2. Who are you to expect anyone to take time out of their day if they are not interested in what you have to offer?
3. Wether a sub/slave has one or 2000 emails in their inbox, it is their priviledge to answer or not as the deem necessary so why do you believe they are fakes or players because they do not respond to you?

I wish these types of threads would just find a black hole to fall into.

To Unsung, these type of threads are, if you've seen the responses, are the most debated controversy on collarme I can see. To wish them to a Black hole is not going to happen. I agree with you that a "no response" is a response, but you have to agree with the initial question that there are TONS of fakes and rude members that are on this site for ego glorification (usually women who receive a ton more responses than men), especially those who are already collared and still seeking attention. As a single guy looking for a single female sub, I'm sick of hearing the praises of subs whose wonderful dom requires them to place a profile to learn more about the lifestyle. Quit wasting my time and other singles' profile space.

Also Unsung, although I agree with your concept, you are indeed a spoiled girl and will have a hard time meeting a dom who respects you, especially when you express your opinions so dominantly. Chill out Unsung.

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 11:12:22 PM

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Thank you for your words of wisdom, and for clarifying time wasters once again *yawn another boring story I am sure*

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/21/2007 11:20:56 PM

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As a single guy looking for a single female sub, I'm sick of hearing the praises of subs whose wonderful dom requires them to place a profile to learn more about the lifestyle. Quit wasting my time and other singles' profile space.

So now this site is all about you and not about the BDSM community at large. Why do they have a selection called "friends only" if that were the case? Why do they have a "bulk mail filter" control if the owners of this site expected us not only to receive the mail, but respond to it too? I wonder why the owners of this site give us such options if they did not want "rude and collared" people on their site

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Collarme.com The Largest BDSM Community on the Planet

It does not state anything about being a "singles" site, which seems odd considering that couples have the option to post profiles here too, as do people seeking poly, and poly is far from a singles concept.

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 8:31:01 AM

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my 2 cents, you never can tell about sincerity, weird shit happens, sometimes, in spite of one's best judgement, and trust goes down the shitter!

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 9:59:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: MellowSir

First and foremost, this is NOT a post critical of the sincere sub that searches. Enough of the excuses already, such as "I get too many messages to answer them all"(Then don't advertise and expect not to), "I'm taken"(then why list as seeking), etc etc. Not all that difficult to type "I'm interested" or "no thanks" and click reply. Even if the sub is not interested, does that have to equal a lack of courtesy by not replying at all? Why even allow the double standard or prolong the use of it. I at least take the time to respond to someone who takes the time to message me. Maybe the expectations are a bit too high on the professed "sub's" part if she/he is just there and doesn't reply to anyone at all. A dom who acts the jerk or like the person already belongs to them when they haven't even met may deserve that, the one who is sincere doesn't.

I personally don't feel the need to answer every email that comes to U/us for the simple reason that sooo many of them don't seem to be able to read in the first place, not to mention the ones who just don't seem to undertand what the word "NO" means. Plus, no one on here is obligated in any way to respond, whether they are "fake" or real.

Cordially,
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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 10:40:42 AM

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Look Mel, you're paying for other men's bad manners. This is what's going on and it will continue no matter how much you whine. No answer means no.

You say you are one of the good guys and I have no reason to doubt you but, and here's the kicker, every sub on here has sent a thanks but no thanks to a guy whose first email was polite and received threats and nastiness as a second email. Getting back "you're too fat to fuck" is offensive enough but getting "I hope you get raped and ripped up by a knife, you lying bitch" even once will teach a sub never to send a refusal. And you know what, we can't tell who will respond like this when they send that "Hi, I live in your area and think we have something in common".

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 10:55:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: Stazia

hello i am new on here but i thought i just might want to put my two cents in. the reason why i don't respond to emails or chat request is that a good chunk of the mail i get does not meet my requirments in what i am looking for, and the people sending them do not give me a good vibe. i am not saying that this fits you, but say i am not looking for a man who is say over the age of fourty, and i state in my profile that i am not looking for a man old enough to be my father, and someone who is fifty emails me why should i bother responding. and also there are a lot of creepy guys out there. (yet again i am not saying that this is you i am just giving you an insight as to why someone might not bother to email you back) and the way i look at it is that i don't want to give them an inch in. just like in real life when some weirdo hits on me i dont give him the time of day . i find that i personally feel "safer" if i am the one who starts the dialogue. the conversation starts on my terms. i am a sub but there are many men who would take advantage of that and someone who is too forceful initially give me warning bells that he isnt really interested in getting to know who i am and just wanting a quick cum by pics or talking dirty. anyway i wish you the best of luck finding a good sub out there!

I suggest you go to the section called 'mail controls' and set it accordingly. That way those you do not wish to recieve mail from automatically go to 'bulk mail' and what you are interested in is filtered to your regular mail.
Of course, I had been on this site for six months before I figured that out, but I just thought I'd share and save you some time. : )

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 12:30:04 PM

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Umm.. exactly how to do tell that people are fakes and players? Not answering emails or messages doesn't necessarily mean they don't do this. It may just mean they have dismissed the sender for one reason or another. Although I answer most email, there are more than a few that don't get beyond a certain point because I have read their profile, or gotten an email that makes me wonder about their intelligence.
People do things, or don't do them for a variety of reasons. I would never label someone as fake simply because they passed me by. That just seems a tad childish.
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ORIGINAL: MellowSir

I'm not complaining about how others do things, just that fakes and players of either persuasion have no busininess wasting the time of sincere people.....

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 12:52:30 PM

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This is why my profile is designed to weed out the faint of heart. I'd rather have days go by with no emails, than appeal to someone who thinks this is an acceptable way to respond. Well, that and I'm naturally difficult. I've had several men write me, merely to tell me that unless I was more approachable, and stopped objecting to 'u' rather than 'you', I'd never find anyone ever in my life who'd want me. Cause... I just sooooo want some HNG with a chip on his shoulder and an inability to spell.

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 2:37:49 PM

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Or that I'm a "whiner

Your op proves that you are a whiner

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 2:51:46 PM

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Well let's see, been called a whiner, self-promoting, yadda yadda yadda, hell I WISH I got as many offers as the subs do lol, double standard applies just as much here as anywhere, pussy=power lolol, however, I did contact a few dom friends that I know in real life, who are also here, had them mail what seemed to be a sub "seeking", and guess what? She didn't answer them either, so at least I know it's not me lol. Kudos to those that list as seeking and truly are, as for the ones that just take up space, feel free to continue to do just that.....and thanks to those who understand the frustrations......I'm far from perfect, but not the worst and not a fake, so.....

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 3:09:11 PM

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What? This is place is only for people who are seeking? When did that start?
Let me make this simple for you....
No response = not interested

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 3:13:16 PM

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no response to 4 or 5 different doms with dif approaches=not really looking

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 3:22:21 PM

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I am ashamed of all you subs who wasted time in here answering this thread....you could have used that time to answer emails!!!

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 3:29:25 PM

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So true windchymes lol, anyway i more wait till a sub contacts me now, pretty much gave up on getting a response, I don't think even a superdom (I'm not) would have any luck with some subs lol

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RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses - 4/29/2007 3:35:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: MellowSir

no response to 4 or 5 different doms with dif approaches=not really looking

Just curious ... how do you know this happens? Do you chat with other doms?

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