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Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:04:36 AM   
VASDEF187


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Status: offline 		so i am a 20 year old college student and like many people i am trying to learn the art of finding attracive people to have sex with. i definetly prefer being a Dominant when it comes to sex but when sexual encounters are infrequent beggers can't be choosers meaning i'de take sex however i can get it. However, lately i have been getting a lot of sex with lots of different women exactly how i want it. And latley i have changed the way i talk to women. because i am a Dominant when it comes to sex, i decided to try showing more dominance when i talk to women. i show dominance in conversations the same way i show dominance in sex. to show dominance in conversations with women you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them. if you can do this in a light hearted playful manner girls will want you to fuck them. psychologically you have already shown so much dominance that in the bedroom you call all the shots. lately i have been fucking girls howevery i want, whenever i want. and they like it. is this how nature intended us to behave? do you male Doms out their veiw yourself as an alpha male? subs feel free to give your thoughts too.
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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:09:19 AM   
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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:13:55 AM   
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  Oh boy.


That's exactly what I was thinking.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:16:26 AM   
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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:17:12 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		There are lines of difference between dominance, abuse, misogyny and plain "arseholeism" - and like most teen "doms", you're trampling all over them before considering the consequences of your actions.
 
D/s is a control dynamic and it seems to me the only one in control here is your dick - you follow it wherever it wants to go.  Watch that it doesn't lead you to the free clinic, a paternity suit or an enraged Neanderthal of a boyfriend.  Not that you likely care - for now....
 
Kids with grownup "toys"....  <shakes head>
 
Focus.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:19:07 AM   
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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:20:29 AM   
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Kids with grownup "toys"....  <shakes head>
 
Focus.


I knew you'd have words of wisdom Focus. 
Now if we could only get those ~kids~ of all ages to listen! 

Hugs.............


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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:26:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Actually, I have to agree with the kid.  To sleep with young women, treating them in a very odd but shitty way works.  On my long path I was in my late 20s when I realized that being a nice guy was NOT the way to get women.  Women tend to date assholes until they get to their mid 20s and then start trying to figure out how to date nice guys and don't get it worked out until their 30s.

Look at how many women at his age can't have sex till they are drunk but go out every night and get drunk so they can have sex.  Its fucked up and wrong but don't hate the poor kid for not knowing any better.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:28:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would be surprised if you get any reaction other than "what an ass" from these girls. I suspect most of the 'action' you speak of is fantasy rather than reality. But then again, different strokes for different folks. 

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:29:39 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		Never said I hated him Michael.
I just wonder what kind of learning curve he's going to have.
Or if he'll be just one more stuck in that revolving door at 30, 40, 50 or more..........

edited to add:  he's a cute little f'er ... i wish him well.


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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:33:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		There is a fine line between dominance and asshole.  He'll need to start learning what that line is when he discovers that those that he's trying to fuck have chosen not to cross it.  He's probably got a few more years before his target audience becomes a bit more selective.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:35:45 AM   
NakedGirlScout


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Status: offline 		He is right, it does work to treat young women that way to get them to have sex with young men. If his interests begin and end with having lots of random sex with as many women as possible, then he's doing the right thing to get it. But Focus is right on with his comments about it leading to all sorts of unpleasantness. This kind of behavior may get you into a girl's pants but not into her heart. I really hope he is using condoms or one of those girls may leave a "lasting impression" on him that he'd rather not have.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 3:38:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not to mention that showing dominance everywhere is a good way to never get or hold onto a job, which he'll need considering he's courting child support payments.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:02:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		        No, i don't see You as an Alpha male. i see a young lone wolf, so to speak or type, as it may be. Alpha's have relationships and responcibilities to a M/mate/s, and You seem to be sowing wild oats... and as long as everything is consentual and You are honest to Your sexual partners, i will not argue Your method of obtaining sex, which is all Your adventuring appears to be in Your posting.
       i'm not telling You that You should settle down with a nice girl,,, i'm saying be safe, sane, and consentual. have fun learning, start by listening to the nice advice given above-            Phoenix

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:03:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh I don't hate the kid.  I just hope he realizes that those young girls will only remain young for a few more years, and his young looks will last only so long as well.  As he gets older that approach will no longer work as well as it does now and if he wants to have a successful long-term D/s relationship, he is going to need to learn a new approach sooner rather than later.

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RE: Dom's should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:07:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		There is a fine line between Dom/average Joe,we dominant males/females just don't come with an on and off switch, some times I wish I did.Its just a natural thing with me so therefore I can't turn it off or be some thing thats out of character for me...OH by the way I get called an asshole around here some times behind my back or by DIANE who's up front about my assholiness......bounty

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:13:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with Celeste on this one. I wonder why the OP went off line since he's getting response to his post. Perhaps he doesn't like that his 'dominance' is being called what it truly is, simply an over eager young boy sowing as many wild oats as he can.

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RE: Dom's should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:13:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Vasdef, you are in the infancy of your Dominance. Your style will grow and change. Being a Dom does not give you the right to treat women as if they are less than nothing. Being a Dominant is a responsibility. Sure, the sex is good, at least for you, but keep in mind that as a Dom your job is also to guide, to teach, and to make a sub's life generally better, make her more a whole person. Dominance is taking a positive role, and not just ~taking~. Be glad for the fun you have had but begin a more mature approach toward subs and women in general.

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RE: Dom's should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:14:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		And, btw, what you are describing is a Top, not a Dom, and a thoughtless one at that. I wish you well on your journey but you're going to have to use your head AND your heart to find the proper route.

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RE: Doms should show dominance everywhere - 5/2/2007 4:25:56 AM   
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so i am a 20 year old college student and like many people i am trying to learn the art of finding attracive people to have sex with. i definetly prefer being a Dominant when it comes to sex but when sexual encounters are infrequent beggers can't be choosers meaning i'de take sex however i can get it. However, lately i have been getting a lot of sex with lots of different women exactly how i want it. And latley i have changed the way i talk to women. because i am a Dominant when it comes to sex, i decided to try showing more dominance when i talk to women. i show dominance in conversations the same way i show dominance in sex. to show dominance in conversations with women you should make fun of them, mess up their hair, make them feel stupid, humilliate them, pick at their flaws, and objectify them. if you can do this in a light hearted playful manner girls will want you to fuck them. psychologically you have already shown so much dominance that in the bedroom you call all the shots. lately i have been fucking girls howevery i want, whenever i want. and they like it. is this how nature intended us to behave? do you male Doms out their veiw yourself as an alpha male? subs feel free to give your thoughts too.

Hmmm
/scratches head in disbelief and decides against what she was going to say

Ohh to be young and cocky again

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