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And oft times they are just role playing a Dom to get laid-and the woman figures it out..

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ORIGINAL: SL4V3M4YB3

Violent people aren’t attractive, they have the same qualities as spoilt children.  That is all I’m saying because the idea that being a violent person is something to respect and admire, I find so distasteful to even debate.
 
Bad boy image? It makes me feel foolish to have been brought up to care and respect for other people when it's obvious we aren’t the types women want. 
 
I don’t want to be drawn into this debate as I've said all I'm going to, thanks.

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

You are quite welcome Level J

As a lead in, I am going to use what xiam said here

I heard someone say once, "I want a man who would be capable of killing me but would never actually follow through with it..." Food for thought. :)

Probably not the food for thought you were thinking when you wrote this; but it’s pretty close to what is on my mind when I say that I am attracted to a man who has an aura of violence.

I tend to be a violent person; and there are those who are the same way, yet, manage to keep a strong hold on themselves. You can feel that violence just simmering under the surface. For some reason, I am able to connect with those kind; they give me an outlet that I can use to release on…and in return, when they let go, I get my pain cravings filled. At the same time though, the one thing that I have learned from those who are like this; is how to control MYSELF so that I don’t fly off the handle at a moments notice.

It balances itself out for me in a good way.

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And just to cut the quotes down to mod 11 won't have yet another hissy at me- a lot of "dominants" online are just horse's asses who read a few trite websites,then parrot it back to impress women they will probably never touch. And the gullible ones eat it up in droves.

I'm not impressed-if you have never has flesh under your hand-and in your bonds-you aren't.

It's pretty much the difference between playing "fighter ace" on a server-or flying a mission in an actual airforce-there IS no comparison.

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

And just to cut the quotes down to mod 11 won't have yet another hissy at me- a lot of "dominants" online are just horse's asses who read a few trite websites,then parrot it back to impress women they will probably never touch. And the gullible ones eat it up in droves.

I'm not impressed-if you have never has flesh under your hand-and in your bonds-you aren't.

It's pretty much the difference between playing "fighter ace" on a server-or flying a mission in an actual airforce-there IS no comparison.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

And just to cut the quotes down to mod 11 won't have yet another hissy at me- a lot of "dominants" online are just horse's asses who read a few trite websites,then parrot it back to impress women they will probably never touch. And the gullible ones eat it up in droves.

I'm not impressed-if you have never has flesh under your hand-and in your bonds-you aren't.

It's pretty much the difference between playing "fighter ace" on a server-or flying a mission in an actual airforce-there IS no comparison.

Not all dominants are into the S and M thing.... not all submissives want that either. I think you equate power exchange with S&M, they are not the same thing necessarily, although some people combine them

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It's not about being one or the other that attracts. It's the dichotomy of being both.

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I don’t want to be drawn into this debate as I've said all I'm going to, thanks.

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

And just to cut the quotes down to mod 11 won't have yet another hissy at me- a lot of "dominants" online are just horse's asses who read a few trite websites,then parrot it back to impress women they will probably never touch. And the gullible ones eat it up in droves.

I'm not impressed-if you have never has flesh under your hand-and in your bonds-you aren't.

It's pretty much the difference between playing "fighter ace" on a server-or flying a mission in an actual airforce-there IS no comparison.

Not all dominants are into the S and M thing.... not all submissives want that either. I think you equate power exchange with S&M, they are not the same thing necessarily, although some people combine them

I'm talking about sadism now-I don't want to discuss this further with you.

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It's the instigation and invitation to struggle that turns me on. Forcing her to let go of the princess image, and become some sort of sordid animal-with no way to deny it.

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You can’t be both you are either one or the other in my experience. I was never one of those kids that pulled legs off of insects but I know someone that was and I know where he is now.

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ORIGINAL: SL4V3M4YB3

You can’t be both you are either one or the other in my experience. I was never one of those kids that pulled legs off of insects but I know someone that was and I know where he is now.

Some things are so basic to who a person is and they can never change in the ways you’d like them to. I think a lot of people kid themselves that they can be some kind of special influence over someone to make them into something special, I wish that were true.

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It's the instigation and invitation to struggle that turns me on. Forcing her to let go of the princess image, and become some sort of sordid animal-with no way to deny it.

Very well said, the whole post - just wanted to make a comment on this part of it. Often it goes beyond taking someone to a place where they can't deny the animal into the place where they actually embrace it and desire it and at times, exhibit behavior that will draw out the animal in their counter part for the specific purpose of being able to get into their own animal skin just so that skin will be ripped to shreds by a bigger, more vicious predator.

Okay, I need to quit posting to this thread because it's getting too warm in here.

Celeste

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and at times, exhibit behavior that will draw out the animal in their counter part for the specific purpose of being able to get into their own animal skin just so that skin will be ripped to shreds by a bigger, more vicious predator.

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I am very attracted to a controlled aura of violence. Someone who has the capacity, but is rational in its use. Out of control violence is a huge turn off for me. Add control and rational thinking to the mix, and it is one of my biggest turn ons.

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You can’t be both you are either one or the other in my experience. I was never one of those kids that pulled legs off of insects but I know someone that was and I know where he is now.

Some things are so basic to who a person is and they can never change in the ways you’d like them to. I think a lot of people kid themselves that they can be some kind of special influence over someone to make them into something special, I wish that were true.

I think you can be both, I am very attracted to a controlled aura of violence. Someone who has the capacity, but is rational in its use. Out of control violence is a huge turn off for me. Add control and rational thinking to the mix, and it is one of my biggest turn ons.