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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:17:56 PM   
Lynnxz


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it was an online relationship that i lost but She took me back


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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:18:50 PM   
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:19:04 PM   
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:19:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

A friend of mine has told me that his Mistress is forcing him out of her house as and from January 09.  She says that as She owns him , She has the right to make him homeless. Surely this is wrong. My question is does a Mistress have a minimum obligation to a servant to provide minimum welfare, ie if in contract to her, a roof over his head or does a slave's comfort even minimum comfort become obsolete once owned
kevin



Fast reply before I read the thread. 
 
It depends on the agreement they made before the slave moved in, or on what modifications they made to that agreement while the slave was in her care.
 
If there was no agreement, well then, there's no obligation on anyone's part.


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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:20:20 PM   
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She has been very good to him up to now and until he is kicked out, i am not going to bad mouth her

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She is a heartless bitch,

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She has some nerve offering him €15,000 about $18,000 and telling him to get a flat, without an income he wont buy a barn door in Dublin for that money and to my mind She know this darn well, She needs to get real and start accepting my mate for what he is faults and all

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She is going back on Her word, its sickening

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She is the instigator of this problem

 
So much for not bad mouthing her. <Rolls eyes>
 
Kevin,
For the life of me, I can't understand your hatred to-wards women. This hatred is going to destroy you, if it hasn't already. I am all for helping a buddy out, but my way of helping out, is to help him get help. I will not do everything for a friend of mine, it is called enabling. You give us a very sketchy picture in your original post, then you start throwing in more answers to suit your needs to be understood. He is an adult! I think that she gave him the best 18 years of her life and he may have done the same thing, but it is over. She has given him 31 days to move out, she is giving him money to do so. You made it sound like she was throwing him out on the streets with just his clothes on his back. Your question is "Should A Mistress have minimum obligation servant?" Yes she should. I moved my own submissive 800 miles away from his home. It is my responsibility to make sure, should he want to leave, that he get back to Ohio. Or should I release him, it is my responsibility that he get back to Ohio. That to me, is the minimum of care that is needed should the relationship not work out. But you are talking about a man's wife, not his Mistress. In fact, Kevin, your title has nothing to do with what you are bitching about. Why all this anger? I can see being upset that your friend is upset over the loss of his marriage, but Jesus Christ, get a grip! It isn't YOU..or maybe it is? You say you can't take him in because you can barely afford to take care of yourself. He is going to have plenty of money to contribute to your household. Offer him a bed in your home, charge him rent and have him buy his own food. See? No skin off your own nose. Don't expect a bunch of strangers to feel sorry for him, anymore than we feel sorry for you. All of your threads are about how much the Domina has to do to make her submissive happy, it goes BOTH ways Kevin, and if you ever have a real time dynamic, you would understand that.
 
I hope our answers are giving you plenty of wanking material, because the way I see it, you get off on this shit.
 
 

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:20:37 PM   
Lynnxz


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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

This hatred is going to destroy you, if it hasn't already.



I don't know about destroying, but it might make him gay? He'd be happier. *shrug*

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i think the person in most need domme or outsider or even sub should come first, that s just my two cents anyway


Wtf should the outsider come first? lmao


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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:21:16 PM   
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:23:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Then you didn't really "lose" anything, did you?

As much as you don't want to believe it, kevin, the world and the people in it don't owe anything to anyone just because they are ill.  All that is warranted is being treated just like everyone else.  People who aren't ill also get divorced every day. 

I know you don't want to see it like that.  You want everyone to make exceptions because of certain illnesses.  It doesn't work like that.  No one deserves preferential treatment.  This friend of yours is getting exactly what many women would do if they were living with someone who hadn't worked in three years and she was not happy in the marriage.  Not everyone is willing to be unhappy in their own life, just to make someone else happy.


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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:33:30 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		well to the extent She did not talk to me for a year i did, it seemed rough at the time but in retrospect possibly wasnt. in regard to my friend , i took the same thing from what he said to me, it appears that She came to the end of Her rope with him and his recent latest breakdown might have been the straw that broke the camel's back but She did not say so at the time
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:33:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		Did I miss something here, or did said slave not also live in the house he paid the mortgage on?  

If throwing him out forces him to put on his big boy pants and to get help to develop some coping skills for dealing with life, then I think she's being a fine Mistress.  Because being his enabler hasn't done him any good for three years now.

Oh go ahead...hate me, too.

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:39:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		i dont hate anyone here, im just giving my point of view, i respect your opinion but i dont share it. if its not someone's fault i dont see why someone should be blamed for something they have no control over ie illness and i think this is what has happened to my mate, he fell ill again and now She wants him out of  Her life, it seems rough, particularly as he is being threatened with being put out of a home he did so much to contribute to in the first place, over the first 14 years certainly of their marriage but yeah i accept i dont know the full story so i can t say She is absolutely wrong in what She is doing but knowing my mate as i do i feel for him
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:41:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

i accept i dont know the full story



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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:42:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Enablers are always appreciated by people who don't want to take responsibility for themself.

Usually this type of person will hurry and find another enabler so they can continue to whine about how injust their life is, or the world at large..sigh.

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:47:29 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		it is not that he wont, he is doing his best but life has given him a bum steer over the last couple of years as it has me
not wishing to complain but i can understand how he feels crapped on, sometimes i do myself
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:48:12 PM   
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i dont hate anyone here, im just giving my point of view, i respect your opinion but i dont share it. if its not someone's fault i dont see why someone should be blamed for something they have no control over ie illness and i think this is what has happened to my mate, he fell ill again and now She wants him out of  Her life, it seems rough, particularly as he is being threatened with being put out of a home he did so much to contribute to in the first place, over the first 14 years certainly of their marriage but yeah i accept i dont know the full story so i can t say She is absolutely wrong in what She is doing but knowing my mate as i do i feel for him
kevin



Can I tell you how many left me... alone with three um's and sick?  hehe  Kevin, you move on, you survive... you make life work.  And would I want anyone back who left me ill... when they actually did come back sorry... hell no, not this lifetime or the next twenty if there are such!  Even if I am alone forever!  He can handle this and believe me... life might even be better once he moves on.  It is for me!

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:50:09 PM   
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He would have legal rights (here) especially after 3 years.  She could in turn prove his mental disorder was taxing though yet still end up paying short term support payments to the lad. 

If it is not the same there, oh well, it is her home.  30 days notice is plenty (legally) for anyone.  In some cases, he is lucky she didn't just put his stuff on the street that day.  Tis what happens when you live with someone and you aren't prepared in case you can't.  Always keep backup money (or job skills) and take care of numero uno.

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:52:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Legally, she has to go thru court to have him removed.

Somce I don't know the laws in Ireland, I am not in a position to say anything.  IF the house is in his name, why is she taking over?

More is needed on BOTH sides for a lawyer to look at.

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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:55:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well i hope so Lockit , i really do. For me his health is number one, and i told him that whatever happens dont have another breakdown over it, that will solve nothing and just make the relationship even more rocky.  But yeah part of me feels , maybe he will be better off if he gets closure on it one way or the other. i have to say tho i was gobsmacked when i heard i mean there was no abuse no physical fighting, nothing like that, heavens sake they are even going to have Christmas dinner together, so im like it cant be that bad but my mate 's like no She is only doing this for the sake of kids whom She is pretty confident She will get to keep as in my mate's words the courts nearly always side with the mother in these cases. i hope tho he is wrong and the Christmas dinner reconciles them, at least they are still communicating for this year at least
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 3:57:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		anyway Lockit ive gotta head, thanks everybody for your posts.
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RE: Should Mistress have minimum obligation to servant - 12/13/2008 4:01:08 PM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		Mentally depressed for 3 years, well damn thats not long for an oldtimer like me. I could run circles around the subject. But hells bells even being disabled because of it I still know I have an obligation to take care of myself. I have been lucky enough to barter things I can do in return for a roof over my head while contributing most of the small income I do have toward the cost of said roof.

I was in a secure relationship and fell apart, but I broke it off and seperated it because I was doing more HARM than good to a good man and took the aftereffect on my own shoulders. Sometimes it takes a slap in the face to get someone to own up to their own responsibility.

If your friend's name is on this mortgage that you profess he paid 18 years for well how the hell can she evict him from his owned property.

Tell him to get a set of balls and a good lawyer and but a damn line down the middle of the house.  If he owns it the only way to take it away is a final decree of divorce or motion from the court, till then he has as much entitlement as she has.   In the mean time he has no choice but the involve himself in his own well being or it will be his fault he sat down and did nothing.

Mental depression and god know I know it well doesnt not exempt him from his own responsibility for himself. 

To end in say if he is so mentally distressed perhaps he should use that 18K to get professional help where he will have 3 square meals a day.

As far as you stop gobbling up the pity me's and work on yourself and when your bright and bushy tailed then come back and play. All your doing is playing with fire.......trust me on this. Been there done that and still have a freaking roof over my head.


btw 10 years later I still not fixed but Im still not looking to dump my problems and baggage to some unsuspecting person. If a person can contribute to a relationship they have no business being in one.

Wheww...damn I posted up here...just reading this got my goat.

A good kick in the ass goes alot better than enabling anyone to include myself. 

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