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When Does Public Consent Matter? - 5/13/2006 3:16:37 AM

allspicey

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I've had this discussion numerous times and my opinion seems to differ from most so I thought I'd throw it to the forum wolves here

In my opinion we are often overly consciencious about what we do in public. I wear my collar in public far more often than I don't. I wear it to the grocery store, the bank, the pizza and video store. I have a chauffeurs outfit that I wear when picking Master up from the airport, etc. He has been known to tell me to fill the car with fuel when I am in fetish wear and we are on the way to the club. I have a friend who has been known to kneel in McDonalds. I have been out to the restaurant in leather cuffs and in fact, spent a whole day driving around in a car rally with the top down and the cuffs on (with the gay and lesbian club, that was funny but a story for another day...was even funnier when we won and someone yelled...It's THEM!).

All of these things give a good many scene people the heebee geebees. They talk about the poor unsuspecting public, the unconsenting public, etc. I look around at the spikey purpled and pink haired dude with the massive face piercings and the spiked collar around his neck that I know isn't any kinkier than my next door neighbor, the girl dressed in clothes so clashing in colour as to make my eyes water, the business suit who just tossed his garbage on the sidewalk at my feet and a hundered other daily goings on by the general public and say....I consented to this??? Personally, unless it's whips in your face (and I admit, at munches we do sometimes get a bit carried away and bring a toy or two along, that's why we tend to try to have them in the back rooms), most of the general public don't have a clue and couldn't care less. The cuffs, I admit, might be a bit more of a clue. If they're locked on I do tend to wear my leather coat with the long sleeves...unless Master says differently. But in our time together I've never had anyone comment on them actually. The collar does occasionally get a reaction in which case I just smile and think..."Gotcha bub!". Most people actually don't take any notice. I kneel at home even when the 12 year old is here, just not as often and she thinks it's just Master and me having sweetheart time. Of course there WAS that time he slipped the Christmas present under the tree with "To My slave" written on it and she saw it and said..."Dad, is she your slave because she gets you coffee?". There was only one obvious answer to that. I call Sir, Sir, everywhere, I never use his name to him and introduce him always as my partner. I call him Sir on the phone at work, no one ever comments. I wore my collar to work one day (I was testing the theory that no one would notice) and a guy who really thought he had a clue about my differentness (we had been jesting back and forth for two years) looked straight past it and said "I wonder what you are really up to".

Are we over paranoid? Do we assume that everyone knows what we are doing because we are so accutely aware of it? Should we really perhaps just relax a little?

Now I'm not advocating what an idiotic group of kinksters here did one fine summer day which was, on a lovely Sunday afternoon, in a public and crowded park, gladwrap someone to a pole. That got the police called. But simple small things such as collars, kneeling, speaking respectfully...perhaps we are a tad oversensitive?

Tell me what you think. I'm interested to know.

spicey